Feeling very uncomfortable and almost violated after visit today by BT Engineer

I don’t think ‘violated’ is OTT if a stranger has been rummaging through your wardrobe. Who’s to say he didn’t look through OP’s knicker drawer while he was in there? He should not have entered her bedroom full stop. It’s a private space and if he did need access he should have asked permission.

He sounds like a fucking troll or bear trying to use human facilities.

I would just tidy up and move on. He’s just a complete loser messing up everything in your bathroom like that.

Ok, asides from the slightly odd ins and outs of the OPs situation - how on earth are there this many people who thinks it's unacceptable for a workman to use their bathroom whilst doing work in their house??! What is wrong with you all? It's a toilet, it is literally made for shitting and pissing in. Then the wonders of modern plumbing whisk it all away. I can not even contemplate the insanity of being affronted that a tradesperson might need to relieve themselves whilst at work all day. Asking someone into your home to help you, then insisting they pack up work and run around trying to find a public loo instead of using the perfectly workable facility in your home. What the hell is wrong with you inhumane people???? (Some small level of understanding for the PP with OCD)

He violated your house by defecating in your toilet? That’s literally what it’s designed for.

Violated?! That is a bit of a stretch!

I don’t have a problem with people using my toilet for what it is for.

He sounds like a pain in the arse but I wouldn’t be upset about it

He's also very young so no doubt probably still lives at home and doesn't know how to tidy up after himself but just an assumption.

What? Like 9 or something?
An adult who can hold down a job should know how to tidy up after themselves.

How was he late? They don’t normally give timed appts, it’s a morning or pm. If for instance your appts between 8am & 1pm, and they turn up at 12.55, that’s not considered late. Did he turn up in the afternoon when it should have been a morning appt?

So all those criticising the OP are fine with the fact he didn’t clear up after himself? That’s disgusting. And going in to her bedroom.

She didn’t deny him the use of her loo. There was no need to leave it in a horrendous state and also go in to her bedroom.

I don’t understand the loo roll situation either.

If however you mean there was insufficient for his needs, then I guess if he saw it in a wardrobe he would grab it?

I would assume he had IBS/medical issues and wouldn’t take it further. I imagine he’s embarrassed enough.

Very Important Mumsnet Question: do you have a toilet brush?

A tradesperson went into your bedroom & rummaged through your wardrobe.

Yes, report him. Did he have the right ID when he arrived?

He must be used to either removing his shoes or using covers if he's visiting people's homes daily.

Yeah, it's not like it was Sunday morning.

20 mins to do a shit? What's wrong with him?

Fuck that. He wouldn’t be coming back in my house. Yeh I’d feel my home had been violated. Call the office and tell them to send someone else

Yes I suspect if you complain it will just take weeks to sort it.

Those engineers do need to go in and out of your house to install the stuff. They usually offer to remove shoes but some won't - but they aren't usually muddy or anything.

TBH I've never met a friendly one....

To go to the local supermarket or pub. What next? The Amazon delivery guy asking to use the loo?

All sounds a bit far fetched TBH . How would this chap know to look in your wardrobe for loo roll? Nothing worse than needing an urgent poo away from home! What would have been his alternative option ?

I get why you are pissed off, but him rushing up your stairs does rather sound as if he was unwell or has a bowel condition.

Going into your wardrobe is wrong though. Overall if he made you uncomfortable, ask BT to send someone else. Although in my recent experience they will then claim they have to ‘start a new job number so you will have to wait’

They are generally awful in my experience.

She explained why. To both really. Do you question everyone’s chosen adjectives?

He went into your bedroom wardrobe ! Are you absolutely sure if this ? If so report

all workmen I know offer to remove shoes , I decline because we have floorboards and they are in and out so a huge faff for them

if he left your toilet in a mess I’d also not be happy

But she has already complained that he was late and then faffed around.

Now all I can see is a BT engineer with his trousers around his ankles frantically trying to find a toilet roll because everything is hidden away.

Violated....get a grip

Phone BT or OpenReach and complain. He was totally unprofessional and out of order. How dare he come upstairs in your house uninvited, particularly if you are a lone householder. Quite unacceptable. As for the bedroom wardrobe and bathroom -- words fail. As he was obnoxious anyway, i wouldn't let him use my bathroom.

I'd say it's a mixture of him being a bit crap and you being a bit unreasonable. Shoes/shoe covers - tradesmen do need to go in and out. It's just shoes, and it hasn't been wet in most of the UK recently. You could put a dust sheet down if it bothers you. Door latch - has that never happened to you before? Sounds like a non-event

Him coming upstairs and going looking for loo paper - absolutely not, he shouldn't be doing that