Feeling very uncomfortable and almost violated after visit today by BT Engineer

Definitely out of order. Report

He wouldn't have behaved like that if you were a man. No excuse for going in your wardrobe.

We have Virgin Media and the first thing they do is whip out their shoe covers! 😄

Definitely ask for a different engineer asap

call and say you don’t want him back

You sound like a particularly nervous person.

If you don’t feel comfortable, then you don’t feel comfortable. ( neither would I have, in your situation)

request another engineer

If he definitely went into your bedroom and took loo roll, that’s bang out of order. I’d be pretty shocked if one of my family or mates did that without asking. On that basis, you should request another engineer.

If you don’t have a toilet brush, how was he supposed to clean the toilet? Is the cloth visible?

The rest isn’t so much of an issue, other than poor customer service, which you can complain about to BT.

Dust sheets are better than asking someone to put shoe covers on and off.

I too have been raped, @BobbyBiscuits , and you missed that the worker went into her bedroom to go through her wardrobe to get a toilet roll. Or perhaps you didn't read all the OPs posts on this thread before replying. I would very extremely violated if a worker went in my bedroom and rifled through my wardrobes.

Irrelevant if he had a medical issue. He could have cleaned up after himself.

All tradesmen I know remove their shoes and they wear boots that pull on and off easily.
If someone rushed into my loo out of necessity, I'd be making sure they had access to rolls of toilet paper.
I would not skedaddle down stairs.

In my opinion, He didn’t go into your bedroom wardrobe looking for toilet roll but for valuables. This is also why he took 20 minutes.
is anything missing

It sounds like he was unprofessional turning up late with no apology and leaving your bathroom in a mess, but I do think you’re over reacting. It sounds like he has some sort of bowel problem if he called you panicking, where else do you expect someone who needs to use a loo urgently to go? It was either use your loo or shit himself.

As for the toilet roll situation, yes, he shouldn’t have gone into your wardrobe and should have probably asked where you keep your loo roll, but we don’t always think rationally when we’re panicking and if he thought there wasn’t enough paper to wipe but knew where some was, I can understand why he might have made that snap decision.

I wouldn’t necessarily like to think a stranger had been in my wardrobe, but you are using very hyperbolic language because ‘’rooting’’ to me suggests that he’d ransacked your wardrobe to retrieve loo roll and nosed at your possessions while there, when in reality it sounds as if he’d seen it and grabbed it?

He can hardly help the smell either, shit stinks, and worse if you have a bad stomach or some kind of long term health condition.

The dirty bastard. Report him.

We had it where a workman came to decorate our house and left feaces on the toilet seat. Not even in the toilet but on the seat itself. This was not the first time a worker had left the toilet dirty but the first time some one left this kind of mark I took a picture and raised a complaint against him with the HA and requested not to send him to our house ever again. I was told that the workers are not allowed to use the toilets and they have to use public toilets instead. Now I just refuse use of toilet. If they are that desperate they can use it before they come to my place considering they are mostly late anyway. They are adults. It's their problem to figure out not mine considering they never leave the toilet clean. They always behave like this when the see a woman alone in the house. They wouldn't dare do this to a man. If it's up to me I would never let a male workman come to my house.

Which is why i have nappy bags for disposal as well as i mentioned in a post yesterday.

Bum wet wipes? I thought they were bad for sewage system

No, they're just a bunch of lazy fuckers who think cleaning lavatories is women's work.

Yeah Delatron Me and @foxxxxy are both derailing the thread by mentioning toileting issues on a thread about use of a toilet

Im having my fuse box changed next month. the electric will be off for five hours, The workman will have full access to the loo and there is plenty of toilet roll and bum wet wipes. He will be here for a good few hours Hes bound to need the loo in that time

I didn’t say it was good to do. You asked me a direct question about what I did at work so I answered- as many times I have not had easy access to a loo. I allow trades people to use my loo but I would hope they at least made an effort to clean up. And I would be horrified if someone pissed in my sink.

Funny how it’s always men making a mess of toilets/bathrooms and leaving it..and pissing in sinks…they must all have medical issues that prevent basic manners.

Last British Gas workman I had round made an absolute mess of my bathroom. I shouted at him and told him to clean it up. He did and was very sheepish afterwards and did say sorry but why he thought it was ok for me to sort out I don't know (well I do, he probably has some poor bird at home running after him mopping up his piss and shit all day). Dirty bastard was lucky I didn't report him.

In future I will not be allowing tradesmen to use my bathroom.

I was specifically asked by another poster if I had ever had to hold a wee during work time. So I answered the question. I think the question was asked as it was assumed I worked in an office and could use a loo whenever I wanted.

Exactly and we do not know if this man even had medical issues- it is just an assumption.