Feeling very uncomfortable and almost violated after visit today by BT Engineer

medlobath
"This, to me, is the weirdest thing in a weird thread. How do you clean your toilet without a toilet brush. I'm not being sarcastic. I seriously don't understand."

I don't understand either. I always use a toilet brush to clean the toilet.

I know … around 10 yrs ago this was a private joke in our house - random I know

What's he supposed to do...pack up all his gear and troll round looking for one,? Not as if there's one on every corner..be realistic

I have no issue with a tradesman using my loo, we all need to go, but I would be upset if he didn't clean up after himself.

I know what it's like to live with incontinence (both kinds) OAB and IBS, the difference is I would clean up after myself.

going into the bedroom though, that is a boundary violation, and I would go ballistic on the dude, frankly.

OP said there was plenty of toilet paper in the bathroom.

And it's perfectly reasonable to ask for toilet paper if there isn't any or isn't enough. Would you not do that if you were in someone's house?

Or do you think he did his shit, realised there wasn't enough paper and then headed to the bedroom with his pants down?

I think you're being unreasonable.
if someone needs the toilet they need the toilet. It's a human right to be able to go to the toilet and not to leave toilet paper out in a BATHROOM is ridiculous. Yes he shouldn't have got to your wardrobe to get the paper but if it was visable from the bathroom what was he meant to do? If he's just gone for a shit I doubt he'd say to you 'can I have some big roll please I've just done a twirl of shame in your toilet and need to wipe my arse.'

the door lock is a non-event. He put it on the latch as he was in and out.
tradies need to go in and out, if I know one is coming I put covers down on the floor or I don't bother and clean up any mess afterwards. It's dry in the UK not wet atm.
you moaned that he was late so going out to a public bathroom would've made him even more late. What was he meant to do?
you're overreacting imo. Yes he wasn't great my any means but I think it's really nasty not to want to let someone use a toilet. A toilet is for shit and piss. It's what it's there for.

Why ever not?

This, to me, is the weirdest thing in a weird thread. How do you clean your toilet without a toilet brush. I'm not being sarcastic. I seriously don't understand. So you pour bleach down it and then what? Stare at it? I mean if you wait a day or so and cover every square inch of your toilet bowl then it might be ok tomorrow.

I do not know a single person who does not have a toilet brush next to their loo. Lots of public places have them too. How do you scrub under the waterline of your toilet bowl? I'm assuming you use your hand and paper for above the water line? I am totally flummoxed.
Or do all the non toilet brush owning people just have permanent skid marks in their loos? I'm off to google.

Absolutely losing it at the OP demanding that shoe covers are worn because of her 6 yo ( who obviously must never venture outdoors) but is horrified at the though of being accussed of owning a loo brush!!! 😂

She wasn’t territorial- she let him use the toilet. She’s upset at the state he left it in and that he went in the her bedroom when there was plenty of loo roll in the bathroom..

You do not go in to someone’s bedroom to get toilet roll from their wardrobe ‘just in case’ there’s not enough in the bathroom. It’s a complete invasion of privacy. OP could have been changing in there. There could have been valuables left out.

Exactly this. Oh come in Mr Workman, drag mud all over my carpet, shit all over my toilet, and don't clean it off, spend 20 minutes in there, and make sure you go into my bedroom and rifle through my wardrobe. Oh make sure you turn my bathroom into a dump, and maybe go and have a piss in my garden on the way back to the van too. 😂

Seriously, some people on here have seriously low standards!

As a previous posters said, if he HAS got some kind of medical condition, that means he needs to go (for a shit) at a minute's notice, either don't work in a job where you are in other peoples houses all day, or take a portaloo with you.

Seriously. Some people need to raise their bar! 😆

If i was a workman in someone else's house i would not spend 20 mins having a shit

If I was a workman and knew that the owner of the house was so unreasonable and territorial over the use of a toilet I would not take on a job there. Imagine if they all did that then what would you do?

WTF has this got to do with a workman coming into someone's private bathroom, shitting all over the toilet, not cleaning up, and rummaging through someone's bedroom?

Would you do this in someone else's house?
Go into their bedroom and get a toilet roll, in case there wasn't enough in the bathroom?

He wasn't "rifling", "rummaging" or "poking" round her wardrobe! He'd obviously seen the toilet roll as he passed, which was fully on display by the sound of it! He probably took one, in case the OP hadn't any spare on display in the bathroom and he didn't know how much there was in there, and/or to prevent having to look through cupboards!
Why MNetters start embellishing and fabricating facts when it comes to incidents like this absolutely baffles me!

I think their staff are a bit dodgy. I had one st roking my arm and asking for a date!

I’m guess these people have never ever ever used a public toilet in their lives - restaurants, coffee shops, events etc.

You weren’t violated. This is hyperbole at best and catastrophising at worst. He didn’t do you harm.

Yeah not ideal and yes clearly uncomfortable. But he was clearly in distress and needed the toilet asap.

I guess I would rather be a kind human being and be understanding and help someone out then prefer they shit themselves and be embarrassed. No one in my life would ever say I am a pushover but honestly OP you aren’t covered in glory here either.

Have you read more than the OP's first post on here? He went into her bedroom and was rummaging around in her wardrobe. He was gone 20 minutes. It's not 'snobby' to feel violated at a strange male entering your bedroom and going through your wardrobes, @Missey85 @nickyschof @JMSA That would make any one feel violated and nervous.

This

The posts on here are making it easy to believe why none of you stuck up snobs can get tradies when your horrified that they use the bathroom you'd definitely be moaning if they left to go the toilet

Medical condition or not, I wouldn’t allow a work man to use my bathroom. And they wouldn’t be stepping foot in my house without shoe coverings, boohoo they have to take them on and off….ITS PART OF THE JOB. Anyone who thinks that is outrageous, not to have work boots on your carpet….your homes must be filthy 🤮

Surely these people have training on professional behaviour when their workplace is the customer's home? I only hope so!

From my point of view there are lots of reasons to dread having to call a tradesman (they're usually men), the charges and the potential mess and disruption being two. But for me, very unpleasant past experiences with rude and inconsiderate tradesmen is the main reason. They are in your home, your safe place, and it really needs to an important part of their training to understand that - especially with lone female customers. Some of them just don't and I'm guessing it must be due to their upbringing. Possibly they've never been taught courtesy, respect and consideration at home???

I've had lovely tradesmen too - but my old reliable favourites are either retired now or reaching that age, sadly.

He shouldn’t be using her toilet in the first place.