Mother’s Day & gifts…

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PalmTreeAngel · 25/03/2025 15:54

I have quite a good relationship with my mum and fairly close. I have invited her over on Mother’s Day for a Sunday roast and got her some gifts and a card.

Meanwhile, I just know that my now husband won’t bother with buying his mum anything, and I have suggested on multiple occasions he get her a card but I can tell, he’ll forget.

I don’t feel it’s my responsibility to encourage him anymore, and I feel bad on behalf of my now MIL… AIBU?

We got married 2 weeks ago - how does everyone else handle this?

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WoodyOwl · 25/03/2025 16:00

As it is your first mother's day as her daughter in law, maybe you could get a card that says "mother in law" on it and suggest that you put both cards in the same envelope. If he can't get his mum a card on mother's day, that is really sad. Is he aware that your mum is coming over? Does he want his mum there too?

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PalmTreeAngel · 25/03/2025 16:00

ForgottenPasswordNewAccount · 25/03/2025 15:59

Not your pig, not your pig farm.

Your MIL is not your mother.

Do not set a precedent for this so early in your marriage.

Thanks, I appreciate this advice to be fair!

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ForgottenPasswordNewAccount · 25/03/2025 15:59

Not your pig, not your pig farm.

Your MIL is not your mother.

Do not set a precedent for this so early in your marriage.

UpsideDownChairs · 25/03/2025 15:59

He is a grown adult, who is perfectly capable of looking at a calendar or reading one of the many reminders that are everywhere and doing something for his mum.

If he chooses not to, that's his lookout.

That's also why I'm reminding my sons (who are children, to be clear) that they need to think about doing something for mothers day, because my ex was the thoughtless type who forgot my birthday as often as he remembered, and I'm damned if I'm going to raise sons as inconsiderate as him.

persisted · 25/03/2025 15:57

Not my circus, not my monkeys.

His relationship with his mum is his business, and if she has any issues she can discuss it with him. He remains a competent adult after marriage despite what others may have you believe.

Don't set precedents for this stuff.

yeesh · 25/03/2025 15:56

ive been with my husband for over 20 years, he’s never got his mother a card or present for Mother’s Day. I get presents for my mum & step mum and we usually go out for a meal. He knows when Mother’s Day is so I think it’s his problem if he doesn’t get anything for her 🤷‍♀️

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