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Want a dog

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Doireallywanttodothis · 25/03/2025 10:38

So, I’ve been with my husband forever. We got together when we were young and I said then, and have said all along, that I would like a dog. For a long time, two decades plus, our life wouldn’t have suited a dog so I never pushed it. We’ve now completely settled in our forever home, have upper primary aged children, cats (of a breed that is fine with dogs), elderly parent that means we won’t be travelling as much as we used to, and yes, have a busy life, but who doesn’t? I think now is the perfect time to, finally, get a dog. Have said I’ll do all the care of it, etc… (I do all vet, food ordering, etc… for the cats) but he’s adamant he doesn’t want a dog. I really, really want to finally get one. I know he’d love it when it was here (I sort of sprang one of our cats on him years ago and he adored it when he came round to it) but I don’t feel I can go against his explicit wishes. Do I have to just remain dogless?

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Mydogisamassivetwat · 25/03/2025 10:44

You both have to be in agreement.

Our dog, who we had a puppy is year ago was predominantly for me. I was going to do all the care, walking etc just because I have more time than dh due to his work.

However, I now have a back issue (thanks to said dog pulling me over, so yes, she’s a massive twat), and had to spend some time recovering and will have to have some treatment soon which will mean a month or so rest. Which is fine as dh actually does more than me with her now anyway as they adore each other, so doesn’t mind taking over the walks when I can’t do it.

If he wasn’t fully on board and didn’t want the dog in the first place, that might have caused some issues.