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Why are we letting children call the shots?

232 replies

trivi · 25/03/2025 10:10

Apparently the advice now is to let your child get down from the table when then feel like it during dinner etc. If they don’t feel like eating and want to play with their toys, coming and going as they please, then that should be permitted.
Please help me understand the rationale for this? And at what age should this stop? Surely this doesn’t prepare them for school? Or life in general for that matter 😅 AIBU for thinking this advice is ludicrous??

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NewmummyJ · 25/03/2025 10:15

I don't allow this with my young children. To be honest in my experience is far more likely that they're just given a device to watch so they sit at the table and eat.

Pricelessadvice · 25/03/2025 10:14

I’m not sure where you’ve heard that advice, but I do agree that children are not being set up for life as adults, where rules and boundaries do actually exist for all of us and people do have to endure some things they don’t like.

ThejoyofNC · 25/03/2025 10:14

Add it to the ever growing list OP.

DoloresDelEriba · 25/03/2025 10:13

Absolute tosh. Children need boundaries and discipline. Neither of which is in vogue any more. Hence children becoming more unruly, spoilt and frankly a pain in the arse. Just my opinion obvs 🤷‍♀️

Wildflowers99 · 25/03/2025 10:11

Kids definitely call the shots now and it’s why they’re so anxious and overwhelmed.

Unicornsandprincesses · 25/03/2025 10:11

According to who, who is giving "the advice"? Is this government-mandated or something?

Perculiar · 25/03/2025 10:11

Where is the advice from?