Sister in law using same baby name

But that's not the same thing at all.

Anyone who meets a Neville Neville will be aware of what his name is.

Anyone who goes to the same school as your kids will know if you have given two or more of your kids the same first name.

Almost nobody will know and even fewer people will give a crap about what your children's cousins are called.

It's a compliment - it means she likes your daughter and her name. We never use names that are linked to people we don't like. Anyway, you don't have exclusive rights to a name, and your daughter will undoubtedly find herself in company of people with the same name as her many times in her life. I did some school exam invigilation a couple of years ago; there were 8 Chloes in the hall, 5 Louises and lots of names with 3 or 4 representatives.Get used to it!

I get it, they really liked/loved the name and went with it anyway. But having a close family member with an extremely similar name would just put me off. I would want my child to have their own name, different to anyone else in the family. But hey that’s just me (and you obviously), not everyone thinks the same.
Maybe look at it the other way, and take it as flattering that they must be so amazed by your daughter and love her and her name so much, that they want to name their daughter after her!!! Your daughter can tell her little cousin that she is named after her, your SIL and brother can’t exactly disagree with a 7 year old and hurt her feelings can they 😉

Lucky you arent in my family - i have cousins called Sharon, Karen, Darren and Aaron 😅
They are known as the Rons

That's another one I really do not get: the whole giving your child a first name as same as (or virtually so) as their surname.

For me, it just brings to mind Richard Richard - an absurd character from The Young Ones and Bottom who was deliberately created as a sad figure for people to laugh at.

Calling them a laughing stock implies that you think people not directly involved care enough about it to have a strong opinion. They don't.

'Strong' is subjective, but people who are not directly involved will laugh. I never met or knew George Foreman, and he seemed like a reasonably nice guy from all reports; but I still laugh at the absurdity of his naming 6 of his 12 children after himself. I've no idea what Phil, Gary and Tracey Neville's grandparents were like, but I still find them ridiculous for calling their son Neville, when that was already his surname as well.

It may well be that people couldn't care less what others think about their choice; but that still doesn't stop them from laughing at them for it.

Not quite the same but I knew someone who named their child with a name very like their surname. Think Peter Peterson, John Johnson. Everyone found it very strange but hey ho, each to their own!

My mum and her niece had the same name so they were always known as Big Jan and Little Jan!!

Some will think it’s fine others won’t. I agree with you, it’s a little strange. I suppose it s a compliment in a way. We actually liked a name for our second daughter and it was basically a letter or 2 different from my niece. So that was not going on the list.

Calling them a laughing stock implies that you think people not directly involved care enough about it to have a strong opinion. They don't.

There might be thousands of other names out there, but maybe they didn't like any other names. Should they have given their child a name they didn't like?

Of course they are not a laughing stock! Why would they be? Ridiculous response.

My mother was pregnant with my younger sibling at exactly the same time as her cousin was also expecting. Both babies were girls. They both gave them the same name. No confusion ever and no laughing stock. Nobody bothered about it at all, least of all the two children concerned.

A laughing stock? Really?

We've a Luke and a Luca in our family and absolutely nobody batted an eyelid!

I really don't understand why you are so upset. Seems a bit ridiculous to me.

It’s mark. I call him Marky

It's strange behaviour. There are thousands of names out there, why on earth would they pick the same albeit shortened name as a niece. The fact that they are trying to play it down makes them look silly too. They should just admit to it. They are a laughing stock now.

My BIL and his wife chose our yd’s names for their first daughter only spelt slightly different - Molly May Rose and Mollie Mae Rose. They asked what I thought whilst sneering at me (they hate me bc I’m not religious) so I said I didn’t care that they were so inept that they couldn’t think of their own names but I was sad for their daughter that she was given that name out of spite. Smiles faded and they changed her name.

Is his name Nicholas...?

I call my son a nick name using his name

Some are coler than others Sophie and Sophia isn't too bad, same with Ella and Ellie.
Really depends on the name

Agree. It only causes problems in my own household. We constantly have to say things like, X, the one on your dad’s side, is doing …. Or Y, the one on my side, is ….

I don’t fault them because we are the only link. Just illustrating how it is annoying and would be a problem within a family.

You don’t own
the name my brother gave his daughter same middle name as my daughter it doesn’t bother me and I named my son the same name as my ex brother in law and he’s cool with it and my cousin named her daughter the same name as me never bothered my parents it’s just a name

Low IQ? What a peculiar thing to deduce.

I have said it before and will say it again. My husband has seven (7!) first cousins on his mother’s side with the same first name as him. (Most also have the same surname). There are also 3 aunts and a cousin with the same first name. Farming family. Everyone named after the grandfather who had 8 kids by two wives. Seating plan at the wedding was a nightmare.

Who cares?

If I was them, I’d solve by having nothing to do with you. Especially as you are the in-laws. Problem solved.
I have a cousin the same name couldn’t care less.

I totally get it , just why? seems inconsiderate to me .
My Godson has a daughter
and then his half sister named her daughter the actually same name ? The girls are only a few months apart in age. Although the saving grace is their live on different continents. GP’s having two GD’s with the same name! Weird situ. I think we all want to feel our names separate us from others and I see it’s why we have different names . Take it as a compliment .