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To think that most “foodies” are just using their diet to mask deep insecurity about their personality?

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ByMellowJoker · 24/03/2025 21:31

If your personality is just your next meal, maybe you need to look in the mirror and realise you have nothing else to offer.

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NapQueenRising · 26/03/2025 14:07

Reading this thread, I have realised I spend an inordinate amount of time thinking about what I will eat next.

I'm not sure it's my personality, but it's definitely a key driver and motivator.

I also recently got into fermenting, pickling and making chutneys.... and I am gluten free (coeliac), and just turned vegan which has been awesome despite the lack of bacon sandwiches...

I suspect I could be one of those people the OP is concerned about.

I mean everyone hates gluten free, vegan wankers don't they? I've seen the memes....

If it's any salvation, for me at all, I never try to convert others. That said, my mum and sister have decided to join me in trying out vegan after I regaled them with with the unspeakable delight I am experiencing with perfectly formed poops.

Dear god. I totally AM the exact nobhead this discussion is about. Shit. I also posted pictures of my pickles on Facebook. I am a food whore.

Gaterade · 25/03/2025 12:14

fromthevault · 24/03/2025 21:36

What is it with all these weird threads today?

Endless threads about 'AIBU to think [personality trait] is really just [random unconnected thing]'

And all started by posters with those WeirdMumsnetUsernames.

Personalty I think that the real personality traits were just the friends we made along the way …

Gaterade · 25/03/2025 12:11

CallMeDaphne · 24/03/2025 21:35

Hold my (organic) beer…

👏👏👏👏👏👏

Dweetfidilove · 24/03/2025 23:48

Not another identity crisis

Viola Davis Smh GIF by HULU
capitanaamerica · 24/03/2025 23:45

IME, there are some people who call themselves "foodies" and it's really central to their experience of the world - but there are a lot more people who've just kind of adopted the label to signify that they care about and actively think about what they eat.

it seems really weird to assume that this interest somehow indicated "insecurity". But maybe DARVO is playing role for you here?

Turmerictolly · 24/03/2025 23:39

Mmm, I know someone like this and it has become tedious. Posts pics of artfully shot lunch and dinner with boring and pretentious details about ‘food=love’ type stuff.

ByTicklishLimeBalonz · 24/03/2025 23:25

???

IlooklikeNigella · 24/03/2025 23:19

This thread is really funny. I don't know what kind of people you mean OP.

Is it people who are always batch cooking and sharing pics on insta with protein stats?
Or work colleagues who will come in tell you about the amazing dinner they made in great detail or never ask you anything except what you are planning for dinner?

BeerAndSexAndChipsAndGravy · 24/03/2025 23:18

Let people enjoy whatever makes them happy! Life's too short to give a fuck.

EmeraldShamrock000 · 24/03/2025 23:18

I don't think the person you described exists.

Have you been smoking something funny.

Screamingabdabz · 24/03/2025 23:15

You could say that about anyone who seems to revolve their whole life around one thing…people who live for their next holiday and go on about it, dieters who analyse everyone’s lunch calories, people who are workaholics and never shut up about it, sports fans who bring it into every conversation, people who live vicariously through their children and talk about them ad nauseum etc etc

If you’ve only ever got one topic of conversation you’re going to be a dullard whatever it is.

Dumbledoresniece · 24/03/2025 23:14

OP, get a life.

BlondiePortz · 24/03/2025 23:08

deep real deep

PlasticBags · 24/03/2025 23:08

ByMellowJoker · 24/03/2025 21:47

Of course people can like food and have personalities! I’m talking about those whose entire identity seems to revolve around what they eat - like the ones who constantly narrate their meals as if it’s a life philosophy. There’s a difference between enjoying food and making ‘being a foodie’ your entire personality.

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Maybe they’re countering you droning on about the Arsenal defence/ Eastenders/ how you found God?

Maybe they leave conversations with you and phone their friends saying ‘I think I just talked for a half hour non-stop about truffles because I was afraid she was going to interrupt me and tell me Jesus really loves me…’

LongDarkTeatime · 24/03/2025 23:07

Which paper do you work for OP?
How about doing a nice story about a local charity instead?

MerryTealHedgehog · 24/03/2025 22:58

my Mumsnet adverts are an expensive pasta brand. My heaven is a delicatessen or some wild mushrooms.

Maitri108 · 24/03/2025 22:57

That’s an interesting take. Some people definitely use their food preferences or foodie identity as a way to shape their personality, especially if they feel they lack other defining traits. But that’s not necessarily a bad thing—people do this with music, fashion, or even their job.

At the same time, plenty of food lovers are just genuinely passionate about flavors, cooking, and the cultural aspects of cuisine. It’s only a problem if someone is using it as their only personality trait or as a way to avoid addressing deeper insecurities.

Are you noticing this in someone specific, or just thinking about it in general?😏

PlasticBags · 24/03/2025 22:57

ByMellowJoker · 24/03/2025 21:39

Of course! But I’m talking about the people whose entire personality revolves around what they’re eating next. It’s less of an interest and more of an identity crisis.

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I know a lot of foodies, but I’ve never met anyone remotely like this.

SapphOhNo · 24/03/2025 22:56

Maybe you have nothing to offer other than this post?

Let people enjoy things.

MerryTealHedgehog · 24/03/2025 22:55

Im really really into cooking tho. Ingredients and flavours and trends are my life.

FiveTreeHill · 24/03/2025 22:52

I think people just do this when they don't know what to say to you tbh

If someone's a bit dry of conversation eventually you just start wittering on about whats for tea

soupyspoon · 24/03/2025 22:45

fromthevault · 24/03/2025 21:53

I have more of a Creme Egg personality, I fear.

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I think my food identity personality is left overs.

😢

RampantIvy · 24/03/2025 22:45

I have just made my lunch for tomorrow.

What does that make me? 😁

EdinburghTimezone · 24/03/2025 22:43

I don't recognise this behaviour in anyone I know. Perhaps you have a rather constricted circle of friends.

BitOutOfPractice · 24/03/2025 22:42

ByMellowJoker · 24/03/2025 21:43

If the shoe fits! But hey, at least you’re self-aware - most people I’m talking about take themselves way too seriously. And no drinks involved, just an observation!

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I was only half serious. And hopefully I don’t impose it on others. Apart from my DP who is also one. I do love food and think about it a lot.

Are you one of those “food is just fuel and I often forget to eat” types because to me that’s even more tedious than foodies.

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