Page 7 | To be shocked that the resident parent has to foot the nursery bill?

Inkap · 2025-03-24T19:05:23+00:00

What is the rationale behind this other than further and continued abuse of women? It quite literally puts some single mothers into poverty or at the least very difficult circumstances when they cannot afford to stay in a job. What the fuck is wrong with this country?

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Inkap · 24/03/2025 19:18

UndermyShoeJoe · 24/03/2025 19:16

Paying their way doesn’t include paying for a childcare place they have zero say in or technically need though is it. Thats the issue.

One parent wants the £800 a month one wants the £1,000 a month. One has family who would cover during their time the other has to pay. Ones entitled to help with UC one isn’t. Too many variables.

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@UndermyShoeJoe

you say there’s ’too many variables.’ So… the answer is abuse women? How about men take the hit when something is unquantifiable? Why are they benefiting from this? These are the parents who are absent, remember, so doing fuck all practically either.

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UndermyShoeJoe · 24/03/2025 19:17

Grammarnut · 24/03/2025 19:15

So both parents should pay half. Should be included in amount absent spouse pays for childcare.

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Who then decides the place value? What if the nrp if it was there time would use granny? Have cheaper local to them childcare but rp doesn’t want to use that.

UndermyShoeJoe · 24/03/2025 19:16

Inkap · 24/03/2025 19:14

@UndermyShoeJoe that would be unenforceable. Forcing an absent father to pay their way, however, is not unenforceable.

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Paying their way doesn’t include paying for a childcare place they have zero say in or technically need though is it. Thats the issue.

One parent wants the £800 a month one wants the £1,000 a month. One has family who would cover during their time the other has to pay. Ones entitled to help with UC one isn’t. Too many variables.

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Inkap · 24/03/2025 19:16

Regretsmorethanafew · 24/03/2025 19:15

Yes. If you choose a crèche, book it, and go to work....who do you imagine would pay?

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@Regretsmorethanafew I know it’s a shocking concept but perhaps both parents pay equally towards their child’s nursery costs? Wild thought, isn’t it.

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Grammarnut · 24/03/2025 19:15

UndermyShoeJoe · 24/03/2025 19:13

Well untill there is a law forcing a parent to have their child at set times set out in a court of law whoever is the resident parent is the one going to be needing childcare during their time and having to pay.

So both parents should pay half. Should be included in amount absent spouse pays for childcare.

Regretsmorethanafew · 24/03/2025 19:15

Inkap · 24/03/2025 19:14

@Regretsmorethanafew yes you have to book and pay for childcare when you need to go to work.

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Yes. If you choose a crèche, book it, and go to work....who do you imagine would pay?

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Inkap · 24/03/2025 19:15

Sanch1 · 24/03/2025 19:14

Because the maintenance from the non resident parent legally is all they have to pay and it is supposed to contribute to all costs. But I agree it’s shit. Me paying nursery fees enabled both me and my ex H to work didn’t it?!

@Sanch1 it shouldn’t be what they legally have to contribute. They should pay half their child’s costs and nursery fees are fundamental costs.

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Inkap · 24/03/2025 19:14

UndermyShoeJoe · 24/03/2025 19:13

Well untill there is a law forcing a parent to have their child at set times set out in a court of law whoever is the resident parent is the one going to be needing childcare during their time and having to pay.

@UndermyShoeJoe that would be unenforceable. Forcing an absent father to pay their way, however, is not unenforceable.

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Sanch1 · 24/03/2025 19:14

Because the maintenance from the non resident parent legally is all they have to pay and it is supposed to contribute to all costs. But I agree it’s shit. Me paying nursery fees enabled both me and my ex H to work didn’t it?!

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Inkap · 24/03/2025 19:14

Regretsmorethanafew · 24/03/2025 19:10

I'm guessing the mother chose and booked the childcare, who else would pay for it? ..and aren't there lots of subsidies and interventions for low wages single parents?

@Regretsmorethanafew yes you have to book and pay for childcare when you need to go to work.

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UndermyShoeJoe · 24/03/2025 19:13

Well untill there is a law forcing a parent to have their child at set times set out in a court of law whoever is the resident parent is the one going to be needing childcare during their time and having to pay.

CissOff · 24/03/2025 19:12

I don’t agree with it, in the slightest but it should never be a surprise for any woman. The patriarchy is strong, still!

Regretsmorethanafew · 24/03/2025 19:10

I'm guessing the mother chose and booked the childcare, who else would pay for it? ..and aren't there lots of subsidies and interventions for low wages single parents?