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22 year old daughter cant stick a job

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Rebk14 · 24/03/2025 18:01

Can anyone help currently at our wits end with our 22 year old daughter just never seems to stick at anything. She went to Uni for a year then decided it wasn't for her which fair enough it isn't for anyone. Since then she hasn't worked and when she does get a job she either gets finished or quits saying its not for her. Me and her Dad have always worked our socks off we had her at 18 bought a house and have always managed to pay for a roof over our heads. It really frustrates us as I just want her to have some work ethic I've even offered to get her a job where I work. I am a cook in a kitchen and there are always various hours going. All I get is its not what she wants to do. She's making odd bits of money singing online but it's not a,regular income and we have never given her money whilst she's out of work. It's just the sense of entitlement that infuriates me and causes constant arguments with is all. Any advise as currently at our wits end 😔

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Monster6 · 24/03/2025 18:05

That was meant to say ‘presuming’ she lives at home. 🙄

Monster6 · 24/03/2025 18:04

How does she earn money op? The online singing? Is she on benefits? Impressing she lives at home…I think you need to have a chat with her about getting real. Not in a pressurised way, just make it clear you can’t support her (house, heat, feed) forever. I think there is such a thing as making it too easy and in the long run it doesn’t do any favours

thehorsesareallidiots · 24/03/2025 18:03

Set a date for her to move out. She's 22, she isn't a child, she isn't studying or working towards anything. It's time.

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