22 year old daughter cant stick a job

I agree that she needs to be made to take accountability for her own life, and that she should be in education, work or both. She does sound like she needs help though and, whilst I appreciate that is frustrating, I think I would offer to organise an appointment or two with a career coach or careers guidance counsellor. Careers guidance in schools, colleges and universities is poor and lots of young people struggle to get going in their early twenties.

If she doesn’t drive, I may think about supporting her with this and possibly use it as a carrot in return to get her working.

I would also help her look at whether she could go back to uni but change courses to one she feels is suitable, with an aim for a specific job afterwards. If she has no vocation she needs to be motivated by money and just pick a path and stick to it.

An ADHD assessment would also be useful as it may open up strategies she can use to manage adult life.

It sounds very tough, but also v common, 1 in 8 apparently. Know lots in this position. Kicking her out seems unrealistic. Sorry no solution! Hopefully she will find something and stick to it

I second that, that is a great idea.

She could move in with the boyfriend. It's not the OPs issue This is a woman in her 20s not a 12 year old

I see what you mean from my previous post @ilovesooty

Thats based on previous experience.

The money and the sanctioning comes from putting people on shitty courses that many don't attend - sanctioned. Don't attend your appointment - sanctioned.

Attend your appointment with a list of what you've applied for - tick, and off you pop.

That’s a great idea. It will definitely get her experience and will help the care home residents.

Yes, but they don't check what you've actually applied for. It's all bull.

Good luck with my applications? I should bloody think so seeing as they'd be imaginary. I'm not claiming job seekers allowance.

No but she'll have to apply for jobs and she'll be sanctioned if she's offered jobs and turns them down.

Good luck with your applications.

Only if the work is offered.

Applied for 50 jobs this week (show long list) still waiting to hear...

The job centre doesn't actually find you a job to turn down.

So, you manage a team of people. You ensure tight deadlines are met, hygiene, health and safety standards are adhered to.
You make budgeting decisions and aim to achieve customer satisfaction at all times.

My son would probably just - uh? She's a dinner lady. It actually hurts to write that. Some people blame the parents, and maybe it's partially true, but there's no denying there's is an entitled generation.

Get her to contact residential care homes. They usually have an entertainment programme. They may not pay well but there are usually a lot around.

Sounds like ADHD. I have it too, but have always had to work hard due to growing up in care. She will work if she has to. Thing is, parents and the state often mean they don’t have to. She’s 22 she needs to earn her keep, work in a supermarket until the dream job comes along. So disrespectful to ponce off mum and dad as an adult. ADHD is not an excuse.

You sound hard working OP. Must be very frustrating and worrying in equal measure. Got to be tough to be kind on this one.

Classic sign of ADHD

If she's applied for UC she'll have a job search commitment and turning down work won't be an option.

Do you actually know wht the rental market is like these days? The OP will have to act as guarantor for the DD, and if the DD isn't sticking at any job she won't find anywhere to rent.

You need to make full-time employment or education a condition of living at home. If she chooses employment you need to charge real rent, not a token. You can save the money for her when she moves out. She should be able to pay you at least 30% of full-time NMW a month for rent.

Coddling her is just going to let her coast.

I was diagnosed ADHD when I was more than twice the age of your daughter.... The difference being, I seemed fling myself from pillar to post to have any job - started filing (admin) at 16 after Gcses. During Alevel school holidays working at playschemes (to be fair, you didn't need childcare qualifications then!), dropped out of uni, back to admin, had baby, worked in a pub, did office cleaning, short term admin, long term admin, bookkeeping, sales... Bloody hell, my head was mashed!
I think the difference now, ADHD or not, is that people think they can achieve their dreams online, so school cook, or similar will just get a sneer.

My son grew up seeing me do all these jobs...
He's never had a proper contracted job. He's 28 and a father.
It's heartbreaking when you bring them up showing a work ethic, any work will do and... Lazy.
I love him but luckily he hasn't lived with me for years!

I would wager that if she’s given moving out orders there will be an “accidental” pregnancy not long after. Then she’ll be set for life either through her boyfriend’s support, or the tax payer’s.

Cancel the home WiFi for 3 months. She’ll find a job with free WiFi.

If she can sing, can she sing at weddings, funerals etc? Get a basic website together, market herself on social media, doesn’t have to leave her bedroom to get the first few bookings in

That's screaming ADHD. Can't stick at one thing. Hopefully an appointment with a GP will help before taking this any further. Medication may help her stay focused if it is ADHD...