Searching your son's room for weapons

So many parents really back off from parenting their children once they get to secondary school and don’t have a clue what their children are up to, who they’re mixing with, what their views are on things etc. It’s more important than ever that you stay close and are willing to talk about anything with them. I’ve never had any reason to even check my children’s phone, never mind their rooms for weapons.

How many boys carry knives? Where on earth would I buy a machete or something like that anyway? Where do they get them from?

I know how often my son gets packages from the Internet and if that’s where they come from, I assume it’s not somewhere mainstream like Amazon.

I haven’t watched Adolescence but stabbings seem to happen too often.

I removed a now banned butterfly blade form teen ds's room..
The odd vape.
Nothing worse thank goodness.. He has ASD and has been on an awareness course run by the local council.. Referred by school..
He is a follower not a leader they assured me. Won't prevent him being in the thick of an incident though...

I’d like to know what would happen if a parent alerted the police to their son owning a weapon. As it’s stored at home rather than on their person on the street, I assume nothing. I assume that the sons would clean the knife if they hurt another person with it so it’s unlikely to yield dna

I think the impact of this Netflix show is really getting out of hand now.

Of course we should be trying to stop those at risk of committing violence (which is largely about early intervention and support). However, the vast majority of boys are not about to go and carry out attacks, and we need to remember that.

On TV, gangs store communal weapons in bushes and behind loose bricks in alleys. By gangs I mean men in organised gangs or ones that commit crimes in groups.
My son was a victim of a crime that involved weapons and the police found the weapons in question in a bush. (My son is fine btw) I don’t know if it was a bush that they knew about or if a member of the public alerted the police but I wouldn’t be surprised if dogs often find these weapons

I think the mums of these sons are probably terrified of them. They are probably usually from households where the mums aren't in charge.

My kids are into camping and survival skills, finding a knife is normal. Its more about who their friends are.

The had the hatchet from the garage up there yesterday teaching themselves how to sharpen it.

They don’t tend to store them at home. There’ll be a place that they stash them, like a specific bush somewhere close to home or something.

I live on an estate known for this and the police have begun to do regular weapons sweeps in the known spots, so no doubt they’ll have found new hiding places now.

Every parent?

Nope, no way would I ruin the trust and good relationships I have with my sons to go searching their rooms, what, weekly? Monthly? Daily?

Parents should do it if they have reason, but to suggest every parent do it is ridiculous.

I don't need to search my sons room, I know him and his friends, I know what he does and doesn't do I know he has no access to weapons.
Parents should know who their children are friends with and what risks they are likely to take and behave in accordance with that knowledge

Well, no. I see your point, but I'm not going to do fingertip searches of my house (how often? Weekly? Daily?) because there are murderous bastards around. I went with teaching children to be good people not machete-wielding maniacs. Working on a suspicion is different.
I agree though there needs to be accountability and answers to this problem.

Sorry I meant moreas like do the parents not care?

Really? I have an 18 yo at home and when I go in his room it’s more about collecting empty cups and bowls. Or telling him to bring his dirty clothes /sports kit downstairs. I have absolutely no reason to think he’s involved with violence and were he to find me looking for knives he’d rightly think I’d lost it. Others who suspect their kids may be involved in gangs etc may take a different view. I do have a lot of knives in the kitchen and none are missing.

Read the op

Are there muggers who still live with their parents?