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To be jealous of my SIL?

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londoner1980 · 24/03/2025 15:49

Hi all

I am very hormonal so I am sure IABU, but have joined MN for your wisdom / support / experiences /venting

I've been trying to conceive with my DH for a few years now - we've had tests, treatments, IVF, homeopathy, you name it. We're late 30s

In the meantime, my super-rich DBIL, a couple of years older, has had the most perfect two DDs with his very young super beautiful model fiancee, - the first unplanned when they were barely been together (and she was not even 25 yet ffs), the second just literally as soon as they decided they wanted another, almost straight after birth

Now my IVF round has just failed again + she is pregnant AGAIN.

I can't bear being around them. My DH & his DBro (who were always very close) are also struggling to still be friends.

It also doesn't help that she always looks completely flawless, can be a SAHM with a nanny, is still stick -thin even after two babies... etc. When we go out with the whole family she gets so much attention - so superficial I know but it's grating. I work FT and feel constantly run-down and overweight!

BIL has given us a lot of money for private treatment, which we're grateful for, which somehow feels like it complicates things. I think I'm just sick of it all. AIBU to not even want to speak to them 😓

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ForZanyAquaViewer · 24/03/2025 15:52

I’m very sorry about your struggles, it must be very hard. You clearly know YABU, so I hope commenters are kind and don’t stick the boot in. You never know on here.

londoner1980 · 24/03/2025 15:50

Reading back: yes I can see I'm being bitter and dramatic. I've just had enough I think of all the TTC. It's making me go a bit crazy

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