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Aibu No security at Daughters dance class

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loveyoutothestars · 24/03/2025 11:50

My 8year old daughter has been attending the same dance class since she was 5. The teacher is lovely, but she is the only adult in the room (she does have a teenage helper). Since the tragic events at a holiday club in summer last year, I have been growing more anxious at the lack of security at the dance class.

The class is held in a local village club, where there are a few small social rooms and a bar. It is very open and people come and go quite easily. The children enter through an unlocked door and exit through the fire exit, although with the warmer weather returning I noticed she has taken to propping the fire exit door open throughout the class which makes me very uneasy.

Parents drop off and pick up for the session, although occasionally I will hang around outside because of my nervousness.

I don’t know how to approach the teacher with my concerns as don’t want to be seen as an overly anxious mother, but events in the news terrify me and it feels like she hasn’t considered how vulnerable the class could be. It is worth mentioning that 5 mins away there is a Psychiatric hospital and we often see patients out and about in the community, although not always appearing well. Although I’m not suggesting this is my only concern, I do worry how open and vulnerable the class appears.

AIBU to raise this concern with the teacher? There isn’t usually time for any interaction between classes so communication is via email.

Appreciate your thoughts on how to approach, but please be kind this is my first post.

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Tiswa · 24/03/2025 11:58

What security do you want and exactly how do you want it to be actioned. You can hardly have a male security guard, lock the children in etc.

what happened in Southport was horrific but like a lot of things is an anomaly and isn’t indicative of real life

working on your anxiety I think might help - your child is only going to want more freedom as she gets older

IdaGlossop · 24/03/2025 11:57

Do you know whether other parents are also worried? If some are, a group approach to the teacher may work better than a lone voice.

Iloveshoes123 · 24/03/2025 11:57

How many kids are in the class? Not much chance of an 8 yo running off randomly so I think you are probably over thinking it.
Unfortunately I don't think you can have every environment totally secure and locked up.

Seeline · 24/03/2025 11:55

I think you are being over anxious.

It sounds as though the class is run in exactly the same way as hundreds of other dance classes held in village halls and church halls every week.

MummytoE · 24/03/2025 11:54

Are you thinking a locked door buzzer system type thing, or a bouncer? Sad that this is the world we live in eh but I share your concerns

CatsChin · 24/03/2025 11:52

I'm surprised that no parents stay. I assume her assistant is over 18?

I don't think you are being unreasonable. Not in case of mad people, but just in case someone runs off.

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