To feel very sobered by this thought?

My mum died of a subarachnoid brain hemorrhage aged 45, i'm now 46, it's horrible to think i'm living a life she never got the chance to experience :(

Yes, I feel it too. My sister, who is the most unsentimental person ever, also felt it and told me without prompting how relieved she was to get past the age our mum died. I also felt the same and felt more at peace with it for many years.

Now, however, in 2 years, my oldest child will be 18 - the age I was when my old life ended with her death and my other life started. This is preying on my mind- it crosses my mind that I've only got 2 years left!

YADNBU....but focus on the blessings, the good, the happiness, the love in your life. Let the darkness take care of itself.

I completely understand why you feel like this. I’m starting to get close to the age my mother was diagnosed with dementia, she died 4 years later. It was horrible to watch her disappear and I’m terrified I’m going to get that horrid disease as my grandfather also had it.

it’s a very sobering thought and I know people say, make the most of everyday, but it doesn’t stop me thinking of it all the time

I think overall I'd see it as a positive in some ways that I got that much time. The way the world is at the moment, and the constant threats from all kinds of things, I often wonder if we can make it another 5 years. Or whether we can make it another 5 years but it's miserable as all hell and no real life to live and we wish we'd quit while we had it good.

I will be the same age this year, as my DF was when he died. I think about it constantly, and I'm not sure why. It freaks me out a bit

I recall my father becoming very low when he turned 54. His mother had a catastrophic stroke at the age of 54 and although she lived another 18 years she was bedridden and non-verbal all that time.

I am 52 and have already had the thoughts of my GM.

I think the only thing any of us can do is to live well. Live honourably. Live lovingly. And be aware every day that many out there would have wished that they or their loved ones had lived as long as we have right this very same day.

This year I will be older than my Mum ever was.

it’s a very sobering thought and my emotions around it swing wildly.

I’m three years younger now than my mum was when she died. I feel young. I’ve got a grandson on the way. Lots to do and look forward to. It makes me understand that she was so young x

I'm the same age my mum was when she died and it's on my mind most days. Apparently it's a thing, not seeing yourself pass the age your parent died. For some people anyway. Hugs all round

I understand op...I recently turned the age my mother was when she died and I'm now older than she ever was...it's a really weird feeling isn't it

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No, you're not being unreasonable to be freaked out about things like that.

My very sensible levelheaded dad surprised me on his birthday one year and said he was glad to be the next birthday along from the age his dad had died.

My dad was only nine years older than I am now when he died (quite young at 65) & as my own health is not great, it does make you think.

What I hadn't thought about until now is that I am now roughly the age my grandad his dad was when he died.

Sometimes it pays not to think too much🙇🏻‍♀️

I completely get this OP. I am two years from the age my mother was when she died. She was only diagnosed a few months before dying. She was a very healthy, clean-living person, and kind and generous and I am so, so grateful to have had her. I don't think I really clocked how young she was until I stated approaching that age myself. It will be very strange to become old (as I hope to do) and knowing that I have left her age behind.
Sending you a hug. It's very odd isn't it.