Being laughed at on the School Run

I would get a pair of gold hot pants, put them on over my leggings and blast Kylie out of my phone on the way past….
’I’m spinning around, get out of my way….’
It’s already March. If you are doing the legends slot at Glastonbury again you need to get rehearsing!

Personally I would ask then straight what it is they are laughing at!! Which song were they singing at you? I can’t stand horrible immature women like this.

Please do not give them the satisfaction of asking them, you’ll never get the answer you’re looking for and you’ll only end up upsetting yourself in the process and fuelling their teasing. Hold your head up high, don’t make eye contact and set the example to your child that their opinions don’t matter so that if they find themselves in a similar situation in their lives then they won’t react as that often just encourages it.

you’re better than that, you can’t change people’s behaviour but you can choose how you respond to it.
noise cancelling ear buds and have a meditation podcast on and glide serenely past…they’ll soon lose interest and just remember - people who behave like that are often deeply unhappy.

You’ve got to do something to make them feel uneasy.
Not violent, just a bit unhinged, for instance, start manically laughing in front of them and then stop (not in school playground), straighten up and say “Sorry I thought that’s what we do”. Then walk away, it will blindside them and hopefully get the message through.

First post nailed it.

Regression is a way to relive a past they think was success to them.

How upsetting. « What? » would be a good answer to them honestly…

The poster who said report them for being drunk on the school run, 99% sure this is a joke but just in case, as an already overworked school Safeguarding Lead, please don't do this! 😂

Believe it or not I have, on more than one occasion, spent considerable time looking into safeguarding concerns raised by a parent who it eventually turned out was trying to cause trouble for another parent they'd fallen out with. Some people never grow up. And don't get me started on the bullying that goes on between grown women in the class WhatsApp groups!

Sorry to go off on a tangent there, OP. You seem lovely and they sound like utter knobs.

If it happens again I’d just give them a really genuine smile and ask them what the joke is. If you have never had any dealings with them it’s possibly some daft private joke that isn’t intended maliciously towards you at all. But if it is bullying let them explain themselves because we aint got a clue here on MN

You may not want to but I’d just ask them. You’ll never know otherwise.

Yes, I dod wonder same

Give them a taste of there own medicine. Point at them and laugh loud right back.

I find their behaviour really odd and I think if I were in your shoes I would find it hard to believe it was directed at me, but I am quite thick skinned. Don't let them destroy your confidence. They must be of pretty low intelligence and not worth a minute of your thoughts

Laugh when you walk past hold ur head up while doing it Bitches

They sound very immature and mention it to the school office. It’s really worth it as you might not be the only one they are picking on (I’m an EYS teacher)

how bizarre, but guessing they have very small lives so have to do something to make them more interesting 🤷🏻‍♀️. Do you know what year their kids are in/ presume you have you checked their kids aren’t making life hard for your DD?

it’s just ridiculous that grown adults still have school bully mentality. Equally I feel for you though as it’s awful how this kind of behaviour can take you right back to those school days.

Also, If you look like Kylie then good for you! I bet they don't! (probably more like Waynetta Slob)

Oh lovely, there is absolutely nothing wrong with you or the way you dress.
Everytime you happen to see them, i want you to smile but say nothing. Absolutely nothing. If they call you or try to belittle you. Then you need to call it out. These 2 are vile humans. They will always be.
you my lovely are a Beautiful woman. Xx

I see a lot of MN threads about bitchy Mums on school run. I've never encountered it in person

Many years ago, I remember people laughing on a bus and being absolutely convinced they were laughing at me. Horrible feeling. I was quite upset by it

A few years ago, some people were laughing on a bus. I clearly remember thinking that old (less confident) me might have thought they were laughing at me but new (more confident) me realised that (a) they almost certainly weren't and (b) even if they were, it wasn't really such a big deal if they e g didn't like my clothes

It really struck me how much our reaction varies according to how we feel about ourselves

Nor do I. I’m a very awkward person by nature so I think I’m an obvious target. I still hate the school run as I feel like people are judging me but forcing myself to be overly nice has stopped the dirty looks, obviously laughing and snippy comments.

I think some people don’t grow out of high school.

Why on earth would grown women do this? I don’t get it at all …

I had this when my DC started. Two mothers, no kids in reception with my son, but for some reason they targeted me and did some petty and horrible things. So I smiled every day at them. Every single day and within a few weeks they stopped bothering me. Now we walk past each other and no one acknowledges the other.

I don’t always advocate for kill them with kindness, sometimes people need something sharper, but in this instance it worked.

They are jealous of you. Just ignore. They are immature and probably uneducated. When I was teaching at a village school, I was ridiculed because I had a new pair of Camper shoes in blue. I heard them saying I was wearing children's shoes. Then later someone pointed them out that was the fashion. No need to say them anything either because they would just twist it and make you look bad. Put headphones on or something and no eye-contact.

They could have been singing that one day and then having seen you again be giggling in the ‘omg it’s that lady we made parts of ourselves in front of’ sense. Either way I agree with pp, either ignore them or if there’s one more instance just ask ‘can I help you?’

Liked the second part of you reply@!

Are you certain it's not just a coincidence? Like when people say Hi and it's to the person behind you 😂
They could have been laughing about something before you appeared, you then gave them a look as if it's bothering you so they sniffled their giggles?
Sometimes we get what we give off. If you don't look in their direction they won't think it's bothering you, regardless of whether it's about you or not. It seems you might be taking it a little to much to heart.
They may will be bullying but there isn't anything you have said for me to believe that is 100% the case. Just being honest. Just mind your business and they may mind theirs.