Being laughed at on the School Run

They sound awful OP. I have no advice other than ignore them, which does seem a bit inadequate as no one should have to put up with that.

Middle finger goes up, the other mams laugh at my hippy gear but they all look the same so 🤷🏽‍♀️

Assuming you have no history of paranoia and these women are really laughing and dancing at you when you barely know them
all you can do is ignore

please also ignore any advice that tells you to say or do something as that will make you look batshit crazy especially if their behaviour turns out not aimed at you , to have the upper hand morally / emotionally you need to be above reproach and to have done nothing at all

can you ask another mum for their opinion on the matter ? Or to walk with you to experience the laughing and give an opinion

I'm a bit jealous I have never felt that gleeful on drop off ! Mostly just harassed and rushed

hi @ChoccyBiscuits123 i would try to catch one of them separately and just start chatting and smiling kindly and they will likely soon warm up and realise they’ve been a bit mean

They sound like a couple of twats and personally I would mutter as such as I passed them.

In fact, I'd be inclined to dress up really smart and strut past them like they're peasants..😂

Talking about their clothing vs her Joules coat. Not sure how any of it is relevant

That’s absolutely awful OP - I would be so upset if this happened to me, and I had DCs at an infamously bitchy school, albeit a very middle-class one.

Do you have any mum friends at the school you can talk to about this? Have you been able to observe them from afar - do you know what year their DCs are in, which mums they hang around with?

I agree with a PP that you need the hind of a rhino to get through the junior school years. As it got to the last couple of years for my second child, I could literally feel the stress evaporating away…

It's that mean girl thing of giving people around them stupid nicknames, so they can say look there's stupid nickname and laugh. You are petite and blond = Kylie. You will not be the only one.
I know how hurtful it is. School gates can be hellish.
I think your policy of ignoring them, complete utter indifference, is the best way. Once they see they can't get a rise out of you, that their behaviour doesn't impact on you in any way, they won't be getting the reaction they are dying for, and it won't be creating a further installment for them, they will move on to their next idiotic morning stunt. Little things please little minds. Your best revenge is that you are not them.

As the weather's turning a big pair of sunnies is great cover and as pps have suggested ear buds and a podcast/music.. (Guitar solos should tune them out😀)
I've also done the thing of arriving a bit earlier, or a bit later so you don't have the whole walking towards them thing. Anything which stops this thing being a daily routine will help it not implant so much.

Also, tell your friends/friendly acquaintances at the gate. A problem shared is a problem halved and you won't feel so bad about it and once these two jokers see you standing in a group, that will also encourage them to back down. They'll soon be getting some puzzled stares from others themselves.

Sounds like they haven't moved on since they were at school themselves.

How pathetic.

Hold your head up high op and be grateful you're not like them.

These types of people are just small minded idiots. It's not you, it's definitely them.
People like this have to put others down to feel better about themselves, they put on a 'tough' front but I can guarantee you they are self conscious and riddled with nerves about how others perceive them. This is why they act the way they do.

I know this because this is exactly how my mother used to act and it was absolutely mortifying.

Do not confront them, this will only make them worse. They don't have the type of mindset to resonate with. The best thing to do is ignore the behaviour like it's not happening and like pp have mentioned, a pleasant 'good morning' or 'hello' will grind their gears as they will think that you aren't bothered by them.

How is the OP being snobbish?

Grown women behaving like they're in high school?! I wouldn't give them another thought, move on and leave them to play in the playground.

😂 same but I doubt you'd be laughing in someone's face and acting mean ❤️

I'd just say something like "Nice to see someone enjoying them themselves on a Monday morning!"

Or you could go full-on Goodfellas "Are you laughing at me? Am I funny to you?" but that might be a bit much for a Monday morning. Maybe save that for Thursday.

Excuse me….have I missed something here? What snobbery and judgement?? You really don’t need to make things worse by coming out with snide and, to my mind, unjustified comments!

I would just ask them outright - have I done something to upset you / something you find amusing? Could you share with me? When they refuse just tell them how rude it is.

This is awful advice, as the best thing you can do is not engage with them at all. If you respond they will see it as a victory that you have noticed them and their stupid antics, or been rattled. So don't let them know you have noticed their behaviour - no filming on phone or saying anything. Either ignore them completely, or give a cheerful "Good morning" as you pass them. You will seem in control then. Also non-response leads to boredom among bullies - so they tend to stop and move on if they don't get a rise.

The amount of times I’ve been laughing then caught someone’s eye and I think “Shit did it look like I was laughing at them?” Is not a small amount.

You could just ask them - I wouldn’t do any of the petty shit people are suggesting. If it turns out you’re wrong and it’s not about you you’ll look like a nutter

Oi! I’ve done the school run before dressed like that as I wfh and I’m not ‘chavvy!

op, some people are just not very nice. I’d advise headphones on and give them a smile next time. And sorry, some people are dicks.

i was going to suggest Ceelo Green's Fuck You, but this is SO much better

They actually put their faces in your face and laughed? And when they sang Kylie they shouted your name first?

I think you’re being paranoid. And a bit snobbish TBH

Pretend to be on your phone. As they approach be on the phone saying within ear shot "Oh god here they come...yes I know...very childish tinkly laugh..."

Do you wear golden hot pants or short shorts and a sparkly top? Do you have soft curls and a happy disposition?
Be proud to be reminding people of Kylie.

If I saw two women messing about and singing Kylie in the street, I wouidnt assume it was about me - or some comment about what I'm wearing or my make-up. I'd just think 'ok whatever.'

OP, if tomorrow, they come round the corner doing the locomotion, it might be time to have a word. Otherwise, just think nothing of it.