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If you’d booked a babysitter

157 replies

FanofLeaves · 24/03/2025 07:43

And they’d completed a 7 hour shift for you, entertaining and then putting your small children to bed, and then staying up until you get in at 1am, how soon would you be paying them?

I’m a nanny but I do a bit of babysitting work on the odd weekend for extra cash. Desperately in need of the extra cash at the moment and my bank account is looking pretty bare so am currently getting pissed off looking at my bank account and willing a payment of over £100 (including the uber home I had to get due to public transport having stopped, I don’t drive) to appear.

I sent a text with the amount owed and my bank details, attaching the taxi receipt, at 9:30am yesterday morning.

I think I’m going to either have to ask for some payment to be made in advance, or charging a late fee but this sounds a bit arsey snd I’m worried it might put people off. Then again, if you are say in a restaurant or have had your haircut you pay promptly after receiving that service, you don’t pay it at some point over the next few days!

i’ll send a nudge later this morning but it annoys me that I have to do it.

So I guess my question is, say you’d booked a babysitter, how promptly do you pay them? And would you expect to be charged a late fee for taking 24+ to pay? I get it, we have busy lives, I’m a mum myself, but it just feels like a piss take. I think I’ve had one babysitting gig this year where the money has hit my account before I’m even home, all the others take up to 3 days to make payment.

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KrisAkabusi · 24/03/2025 07:52

Cash or revolut before you leave the house.

DonningMyHardHat · 24/03/2025 07:51

Babysitting I would expect cash on the night/immediate payment by bank transfer unless it was an employer I worked regularly for and there was an agreement to add it onto wages

Outofthepan · 24/03/2025 07:49

I’d pay then and there. I think it’s reasonable for you to ask for payment when they return. Send bank details pre the evening and ask that they set this up

ItsCalledAConversation · 24/03/2025 07:46

I have to pay my babysitter there and then, before she leaves, otherwise I forget and she has to chase me.

I’m not a terrible inconsiderate person, it just doesn’t work unless it’s done while she’s watching me! Something about the late night/rush to get back maybe?

Fitzcarraldo353 · 24/03/2025 07:46

I pay immediately in cash or via bank transfer as they're leaving. Never occurred to me to wait at all - back in the day babysitting was always cash so in my mind you just pay at the end of the night.

Buttonknot · 24/03/2025 07:45

I agree with you that this is REALLY annoying, but I think charging a late payment fee will come across as arsey. Sorry.

Blackcountrychik83 · 24/03/2025 07:45

I would expect cash on the night or bank transfer in front of me before I leave .
I would not return if I had to wait days for payment .