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My boyfriend gets mad when we don’t have sex

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BeTicklishOtter · 24/03/2025 07:42

my boyfriend has been saying that all I do is sit in my phone and never speak to him or spend time with him. I work 40 hours a week - the only time I really go on my phone is when I finally get into bed & he as well is just on his phone

so last night we decided to watch a movie together, 2 in fact because I never make time.

movie finished and he tries to have sex, I told him no that I’m tired & I couldn’t be bothered.

he then proceeds to call me a fat bitch that he doesn’t love me anymore that I’m boring and he will go and find someone better to watch this then took him self to sleep down stairs after shouting up that im horrible and he’s leaving me.

we literally had sex 2 days ago - we have sex like 2-3 times a week but all he ever does is say we don’t even have sex when we clearly do.

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Thepeopleversuswork · 24/03/2025 11:48

goodforher · 24/03/2025 07:44

This is not about your boyfriend.

It is about why you feel you are not worth better than this man who treats you with open contempt. I suggest you leave him and work on placing value on yourself and how you expect others to treat you.

This. You know you deserve better than this.

TertiaryAdjunctofUnimatrix01 · 24/03/2025 11:34

This is not love or respect for you, OP. Please leave him.

outerspacepotato · 24/03/2025 11:30

Your "boyfriend" is verbally and emotionally abusive and sexually coercive.

What is he thinking that calling you abusive names would get you in the mood for sex. He sounds aggressive and mean.

Dump him. He's a turd in human form.

RobinEllacotStrike · 24/03/2025 11:22

He's clearly horrible.
Dump him.

You deserve much better OP.

zoemum2006 · 24/03/2025 11:09

You are absolutely wasting your time with this abusive man. There are so many red flags it's pointless to even try to sort anything out.

Do yourself a favour and tell him to f**k off and then avoid getting into a new relationship until you know that you are worth more than being treated like that.

KimberleyClark · 24/03/2025 10:37

This man is an arsehole, please leave him.

Mancala · 24/03/2025 10:37

You are worth so much more than this op.

JHound · 24/03/2025 10:36

he then proceeds to call me a fat bitch that he doesn’t love me anymore that I’m boring and he will go and find someone better to watch this then took him self to sleep down stairs after shouting up that im horrible and he’s leaving me.

Single woman here is this ^^ normal? I would be out of there so fast if a man spoke to me like this.

Qmalrg · 24/03/2025 10:34

Get rid. Right away. There is no excuse for what he said and it will only get worse. Much worse.

ImWearingPantaloons · 24/03/2025 10:31

He’s a cunt. Leave him

Feelinghurt2 · 24/03/2025 09:33

I echo the thoughts of all the previous posters. Your post actually made me tearful. How dare he speak to you like this and how in the name of God does he think that calling you horrible names is going to make you want to have sex with him? Is he thick as well as a downright nasty piece of work? Please get away from him before he completely erodes your self-esteem. Any boyfriend worth his salt should be treating you like a queen and respecting you and your wishes. I really really hope you can see that he is no good for you (or anyone!) and if he carries on like this, he doesn't have a hope in hell of any woman wanting to get into bed with him, ever again. What a pig.

Oldandcobwebby · 24/03/2025 09:19

I'm a bloke, and I can assure you that if I tried that sort of crap with my wife, I would EXPECT to be turfed out. He's a boorish, self-centred pig. You need to get shot of him ASAP. The fact that you are even questioning this shows that he has already destroyed your self-esteem. You deserve so much better than this.

LollyLand · 24/03/2025 09:17

I would have got up and started packing for him. He would be gone by today if it was me.

ReignOfError · 24/03/2025 09:17

Obviously, tell him good riddance, don’t let the door hit you on the way out.

He’s abusive, and you shouldn’t put up with him - or anyone, ever - behaving that way towards you.

TheHerboriste · 24/03/2025 09:16

Why would you waste your time on this piece of garbage??

48wheaties · 24/03/2025 09:16

He sounds horrible. Get rid and raise your bar!

Matcha95 · 24/03/2025 09:15

What has gone wrong in your childhood that makes you think it’s acceptable to stay with a man that is abusing you like this?

And yes, calling you names is abuse.

For whatever reason your self esteem is rock bottom and that’s why he is with you. A confident women would have ended this relationship the first time it happened.

I dread to think the damage done to the children if you were to get pregnant.

BunnyRuddington · 24/03/2025 09:15

Do you live together @BeTicklishOtter?

AtrociousCircumstance · 24/03/2025 09:15

Leave him.

ohfourfoxache · 24/03/2025 09:13

Run fast. Run far.

BooomShakeTheRoom · 24/03/2025 09:13

Speaking to a partner like that is not normal. It’s verbal abuse and you shouldn’t stand for it.

Tell him to go fuck himself.

Calliopespa · 24/03/2025 09:12

Leave. It’s abuse.

( But also get off your phone cos that is bloody annoying …)

allthemiddlechildrenoftheworld · 24/03/2025 09:11

@BeTicklishOtter whose house or flat is it? kids??? what age are you both?

allthemiddlechildrenoftheworld · 24/03/2025 09:10

@BeTicklishOtter why is he not your ex????

Screwyoukeithyoutwat · 24/03/2025 08:57

YABU not to leave the prick immediately. Come on OP he is a monster!