Not to take husband to work everyday and pick him up

I'd do it just like with toddlers. Say no and then answer no or just ignore the question if it gets asked repeatedly. If he keeps asking then tell him the fresh air will do him good. Stick to your decision and remember all the things you are doing that day for your children. You definitely have the harder job not him

Tell yourself that you don’t need to feel guilty about saying no. Then say no more lifts. Then repeat that it’s no longer feasible and you won’t be doing lifts. If he argues, pesters, or nags you about it, keep repeating that you’re putting the kids first, so he needs to stop asking. Just repeat that and then refuse to discuss it further. Exercise your right to be cross about this. His demand is unreasonable.

20min walk is nothing, he needs to man the fuck up and get himself to work to save dragging all the kids out when you’re trying to get ready for school!

You're not being selfish, he is. He's disrupting 4 people's routines for his own needs. And even worse in the evenings when you're trying to organize the kids and everyone is tired and ratty. Unless he has some kind of disability that means he can't walk or cycle, he's being utterly unreasonable.
Suspect this is not the only place where he undermines you.

Kids-you’re getting up early to take daddy to work…

actually kids, we are not. Daddy is walking as that is healthy and better for the environment and we are busy getting ready for school

He’s close enough to get himself to work , walk , bike etc . Also this lack of compromise is not good . Not sure any partner should be dictating what the other will do . Is he like this with all family decisions

This is absurd. He sounds so childish. A 20-min walk is nothing, and it’ll do him good. Keep saying no. Keep telling him to get a bike.

He’s a selfish cunt.

when he asks-are you sure you won’t take me, I would say yes! 100% not taking you. You need to manage your morning accordingly.

you may need to take him this morning but I would be very firm that this was the last time

So he wants you to drive while sleep deprived with the entire family in the car? What a lazy arse.

He sounds wet. Before I could drive my DS and I used to walk half an hour to school, then I would walk ten minutes to get a bus to work. And the same in reverse. So he can easily walk 20 minutes or get a bus.

Tell him to fuck off and get a bus or taxi he is being a dick head

His health must be pretty atrocious if he can’t manage or doesn’t want to do a 20 min walk.

He comes across as selfish!! Dragging you all to drop him off and pick him up is ridiculous! STAND YOUR GROUND!!! No means NO!

You just have to put your foot down whatever it takes this is absurd.

What’s wrong with him that he can’t walk for 20 minutes twice a day? If it rains use an umbrella. So lazy.

Of course it is a lot to put 4 people out of their way because 1 person can’t be arsed to walk a 20 minute walk that I damn well expect he would think his children would be capable of. Thousands of school children are currently getting ready to or are leaving to walk distances further than this.

OP I would tell him unless it is torrential rain he walks

I’m sorry but I find this ridiculous. A 20 minute walk is nothing. If it’s raining maybe ok but even then come on. He’s a grown man and disrupts his entire family in the morning for this. Why are his needs prioritised over everyone else? And the way he’s just imposing this as though he is somehow is the important one is just selfish and unkind. No. He doesn’t get to command everyone to do his bidding. YNRB

I don’t think it’s much to scoop the kids up in their Jimmy’s, bung them in the car, run DH to work and carry on once he’s dropped off.
Ppl on the outside never do think 'its too much'

Regarding home time, I’d fix him a 30 min pick up window if he wants a lift, outside of that he’s walking. If he has a laptop he can finish up work when he’s home, or take shorter lunch breaks, or walk.
Did you just make up some make believe fantasy world for op and her husbands work? The woman doesn't want to take him and pick him up every single day she has a baby, kids, and many other bits to do im usre. Do you understand that? He's a grown man! He can walk 20 mins!

A 20 min walk is nothing. It’s bright and sunny most mornings now by 7am.

Thats mental, 20 mins walk is nothing. In fact in a busy household it's a treat, I'm on a year off with my toddler and day dream about a quiet walk sometimes 😂

You're on maternity leave but you're not off, you have more to do than ever with a 5 month old and kids to hustle, does he help with that? His convenience doesnt trump anyone else's, and unlike the primary age children, he can walk to work alone, and unlike the 5 month old, he can feed himself. If it was saving him an hours walk then fair enough but 20 mins!?

He managed it just fine during the winter (because baby was a newborn) without a second car so I think we can safely assume he’s being lazy.

What a controlling bastard your husband is. He sounds like he's jealous of the time you spend on the kids and wants to consolidate his position as alpha male.

You need to investigate the reasons why when you tell him "no", he fails to understand.

Yes, this is as far as I would go. Tell him this - and if it doesn’t happen, no lift. He can’t force you to put your shoes on. You are giving in.

You need to get tougher with his efforts to grind you down, like you would a pestering child in the supermarket. Mine would be told, you can’t seriously be expecting a lift this morning after the night I’ve had? Don’t be ridiculous. You can walk. And ignore his calls later if it’s not convenient, or text back, no can do, I’m feeding.

And if he tries to weaponise the DC, respond clearly - silly Daddy! He thinks his legs have fallen off and he can’t walk!!

Time to practise some assertiveness.

He can't walk 20 mins?

Is it about the distance or is it about control? Not taking no for an answer would suggest the latter.

No way would I being do this for a grown man! Jesus it’s a 20 min walk, how pathetic of him!

stay firm! He is selfish!