Not to take husband to work everyday and pick him up

He can walk 20 minutes.
He is being extremely rude to expect you to do it and is controlling the situation by telling your children.
Just don't drive him, but I understand that you'll have to deal with the fall out from him, so might not be as easy said as done.

What a horribly selfish man. Does he often put himself first at the expense of other family
members? Are there other areas in which he ignores your boundaries?

So basically he is another child with not consideration or respect for you. I am sorry you had 3 children with this man.

Selfish git he is. And disrespectful of your time and needs.

Well ignoring the no parking issue yes that’s exactly why people buy a second car funds allowing.

You don’t have to justify your decision. I imagine your mornings are crazy at the moment.

He is a grown man and it’s a 20 minute walk. Leave him to it and stop caving in. The most worrying bit is him bulldozing your decision - it shows a lack of respect.

Thanks @thepariscrimefiles I loathe the new mumsnet format, such a big font means I seem to keep missing things.

Could you buy a second car?

Seriously? You'd spend at least* £1000 per year to use a car for 40 minutes per 5 days a week 48 weeks a year, just to avoid walking for 40 minutes.

Thats £5 a day

*Taking into account purchase prices of car, MOT, Insurance< Servicing and the car lasting 5 years

If you weren’t looking after his children he wouldn’t be able to go to work unless he paid expensive child minding fees. Tell him to make his own way to work and don’t be bullied into a situation disrupting everyone . He will only get worse if you allow this !!

No, get a bike & a really good chain lock
repeat, broken record technique works well - it has on you so far

Show him inconvinience. Adjust your family spending for a few weeks and make him pay for an uber. Book it every night before bed and you all stay in bed til he has gone. He has no respect for his family at all and there is not a cat n hells chance i would pander to his demands,You do enough with the kids ,,fuck him.

OP has said that there is no parking available where he works, which is why he doesn't just drive himself.

“Are you sure you don’t want to take me to work”

"Yes, I am. Stop asking."

Are you car sharing so you dropping him off leaves you the car available all day?

Car sharing is always problematic.

Could you buy a second car?

Can't he take the car. 20 min walk is nothing. I walk that with dd to school and back.

It's less about a 20 minute walk, than the effort required of other people to save him 10 minutes.

This is a huge red flag for the rest of yiur life op. He is unreasonable and unkind and this slithers into control and/or abuse.

I rarely say it, but I think you shoukd be making plans to leave.

It's also not much to put on some shoes and walk for a piddly 20 minutes.

Does he have chronic constipation?? Or is it just so he doesn't have to deal with the children?
Is there a reason he doesn't drive?

A 20 minute walk? Is he serious? I’m not being snide, this is a genuine question, does he have some sort of health problem, or a physical disability that makes this a problem? Is he quite unfit? I can’t imagine an adult wanting to be driven a 20 minute walk!

A 20 minute walk? Is he serious? I’m not being snide, this is a genuine question, does he have some sort of health problem, or a physical disability that makes this a problem? Is he quite unfit? I can’t imagine an adult wanting to be driven a 20 minute walk!

A 20 minute walk? Is he serious? I’m not being snide, this is a genuine question, does he have some sort of health problem, or a physical disability that makes this a problem? Is he quite unfit? I can’t imagine an adult wanting to be driven a 20 minute walk!

My husband and I would never do this to each other. We both work and can get ourselves there. We would not drag our little kids out of the house for our commute. Very selfish.

Oh yes, she's the unreasonable one, not the grown ass man who refuses to walk 20 mins? I have a 45 mins walk twice a day, no matter what the weather, after a train ride, it helps me mentally prepare for and wind down from work and it's good for me physically.
I would laugh at anyone nagging me for a lift for what is essentially a short stroll, even without adding three small children into the equation.
Oh, and my DC walked that distance and longer to school from the age of three. He is utterly ridiculous.

There is nothing selfish about what you are doing. He is nagging you into submission, which sounds bordering on abusive to just keep wearing someone down

Twenty minites walk and he won't walk it, that's nothing the lazy arse. I walk 15 minutes at each end of my train journey to work twice a day, every day.

Also why is everyone going on about rain, umbrellas and coats exist , he's not the wicked witch of tbe west, he won't melt! Honestly no wonder people are so unfit!