To feel scared about having kids, especially boys, after watching Adolescence on Netflix?

I'm more worried for my daughter. When my sons were getting ready for secondary I didn't have to talk to them about which routes (in our safe leafy suburb) were safe walking routes.

Stopping your child being awful is fairly easy. Lay good foundations, instill good values, spend lots of time with them. Encourage them into decent hobbies and teach them to think critically. No way our 14 year old boys are out at 10.30. They are both getting ready for bed after an evening involving time with friends after school, some kind of sport.or hobby, a family dinner, chores and homework and some gaming or TV with parents. I asked my son if any of his peer group looked up to the likes of Andrew Tate and he was totally horrified at the suggestion, they can see that line of thinking is idiotic.

Protecting your children from others, particularly protecting your daughter from men, feels scarier.

My DC are late teen and mid and I was a gentle parent by most measures, they played with toys all the time, in fact that's mostly what they did as children as well as read loads of books, as well write scripts and perform Julia Donaldson stories. They are so far removed from the concerns raised by the drama. They do go online but it isn't an issue.

How many boys are stabbing girls to death? Are there other risk factors?

Yes, this is a strange moral panic that appears to be caused by a fictional story. What's going on?

It's pretty clear that the OP is concerned about parenting a boy to ensure that this does not happen. She isn't prioritising boys over girls.

Why? Could you explain please? Also surely it's quite sensible to have some concerns.

Bizarre that you’re more worried about having a boy when it’s the girl who got stabbed to death.

I completely understand, it’s definitely an eye opener. Too many parents rely on screens just to keep kids quiet, and I’ve seen it with our nephews and nieces. It’s concerning how it's affected their social skills! They're not interested in playing with toys or interacting with others. Hopefully, more parents will take note and start focusing on balancing screen time with teaching children right from wrong. While limiting screen time is important, gentle parenting doesn’t always succeed. Children need firm guidance, structure, and discipline for their growth and development especially during their teenage years

My son is almost 13. He would not be allowed to wander the streets at 10.30pm. He is home for 8 at the latest in the summer holidays. I have parental controls on his phone which I monitor. I think it’s a scary world with the social media influences for both boys and girls. However, if you ensure you have consistent, age appropriate boundaries and interact with your child as much as possible then I think you will likely be ok. The child in the tv show spent his time alone on screens, unmonitored and wandered around the streets late at night with his parents not knowing where he was from what I’ve seen.

Very few children go on to murder anyone. Parenting is hard but mostly works out fine.

Actually not "actual".

I have one of each, there is no difference, you just have to ensure you do actual interact with your children. No

Honestly, I think you are being ridiculous.

"Seeing what teenagers, especially boys, go through in today’s world - social media, peer pressure, mental health struggles"

Especially boys?

YANBU, me and my DH are aware of the minefield we've got coming with the teenage years.
We're going to try keeping our DC distracted with activities they enjoy and limited screen time.

Well, your first red flag would be allowing your 13 year old child to be out at 2230.

Beyond that, not introducing social media before a certain age, not allowing unrestricted access to the internet and trying to keep lines of communication open.

It’s a hard one though, I agree.

I completely agree. I have two DDs and one DS and I feel like I have a handle on what the girls need and I can guide them through adolescence. But I don’t feel I know how to navigate my son growing up. It really scares me. It’s like a world I don’t really understand now.