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To feel more lonely after going out with my friends?

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Pigling · 23/03/2025 22:44

I've come home feeling really sad. We often meet up on a Sunday night but I didn't make it last week. I just felt a total outsider. Everything that was said didn't match my thoughts or values and I just kept thinking "I have nothing in common with these people". We've been mum friends for years and I'm thinking that no friendship lasts forever but they all seem fine, it's just me. I don't think no friends is better so I don't know what to do or think 😞

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jezlifecoach · 23/03/2025 23:27

That’s growth - happens a lot, unfortunately. I’ve experienced it before but found new friends though faith recently (was a very strong atheist before) and am enjoying my time with them.

TheDandyKhakiDuck · 23/03/2025 23:18

It might be that you’re not being yourself with them. If you’re masking to fit in, the inner, real you will feel isolated.

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Pigling · 23/03/2025 23:18

HelloVeraPlant · 23/03/2025 23:11

What has changed? Surely you had stuff in common before?

You can’t force a friendship but I’m curious to know why you feel distant from them suddenly.

Our children have grown up and gone to school, we've all gone back to work, we don't see each other as much - things have changed and the need for close support has waned - we're not braving soft play or days out together anymore or commiserating about how hard it is.

I'm quite an odd-bod anyway- I like sci-fi and sword and sorcery so I don't always fit in well with other women or share their interests.

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onemorerose · 23/03/2025 23:17

What kind of things made you think you had nothing in common? How often do you see them? I’m far more awkward in group scenarios, even if it’s with old friends

HelloVeraPlant · 23/03/2025 23:11

What has changed? Surely you had stuff in common before?

You can’t force a friendship but I’m curious to know why you feel distant from them suddenly.

Treviarpelli · 23/03/2025 23:00

I’d see them one or maybe two at a time. I find people much harder in groups

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