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To think laundry isn’t the easiest chore

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outofofficeagain · 23/03/2025 19:07

I do all the washing. DH says ‘it’s not that big a deal’

I do.

It’s a lot to do multiple loads a week, and dry it, and sort it into piles.

There are times when I find it overwhelming.

AIBU to say that if he thinks it’s so easy, then he should do it.

OP posts:
TheMissingLinkHasBeenFound · 23/03/2025 20:32

Wolfpa · 23/03/2025 20:26

Open the door, shove clothes in, add detergent, press button.

And then... ? You're forgetting that there's more than that involved.

ilovepixie · 23/03/2025 20:32

Garlicgarlicgarlic · 23/03/2025 19:17

I only need to do a load once every two weeks. No separating stuff or ironing, and it either dries outside or inside.

Does your husband leave it to you?

What about underwear, bed clothes, towels? Thats without clothes? More than one load a fortnight surely?

TheMissingLinkHasBeenFound · 23/03/2025 20:32

Lamelie · 23/03/2025 20:30

Who’s in your household?
I do at least one wash a day. Also mix everything up, put everything on quick wash and probably do an hour of ironing/ week.
Family of four- three beds which are changed weekly.

Even if it was just OP, she can't possibly fit 2 weeks worth of clothes into one load, unless she's got an industrial sized washing machine.

Plus, she apparently doesn't wash towels, bedding or kitchen stuff 🤢

Iudncuewbccgrcb · 23/03/2025 20:31

Wolfpa · 23/03/2025 20:26

Open the door, shove clothes in, add detergent, press button.

Ooh you sound like my DP who does no fucking laundry and can't understand why we have baskets of clean laundry everywhere.

It needs sorting into family member, folding and putting away too. Or worse beds putting back together - the fairies don't do it and he certainly doesn't so I'm not sure who he thinks does!!

SnugglyJumpersMakeItBetter · 23/03/2025 20:30

I like laundry! The machine does it for you! We use those colour catcher sheets though, so not too fussed about separating. Also train everyone to unball their own socks etc so you don't have to do that.

Ironing is the worst for me. Hate it and am terrible at it!

Lamelie · 23/03/2025 20:30

Garlicgarlicgarlic · 23/03/2025 19:17

I only need to do a load once every two weeks. No separating stuff or ironing, and it either dries outside or inside.

Does your husband leave it to you?

Who’s in your household?
I do at least one wash a day. Also mix everything up, put everything on quick wash and probably do an hour of ironing/ week.
Family of four- three beds which are changed weekly.

varden · 23/03/2025 20:28

For a family I'm sure it's relentless and the machine goes on every day. But it's not as easy as shoving the stuff in and pressing a button either. You know all the steps involved.

I do two loads once a week. I live alone so that's OK for me. Sheets and towels in one load, and clothing in the other. TBH it's drying it that's the issue for me. I don't (and won't) have a tumble drier, so it's either on the rack in the spare room with the dehumidifier or on the line. But I get twitchy if I put it all on the rack indoors, and then the sun comes out, oh god, will I put them out or leave them there. I am having a lighthearted laugh here BTW as I usually leave them there. And then the opposite if on the line, will it rain..... Then it's taking it down from the rack/clothes line, folding, putting on hangers or in the airing cupboard. Ah you get the picture, I'm a mad old git! I don't iron anything either.

My washing machine is in a utility room far away from where I spend my time, so I have to set the alarm on my watch to alert me that the cycle is finished, since I can't hear that damned sing song from the machine to tell me! Then I turn the alarm off and forget.....

So yes, washing is a pain in the arse.

sel2223 · 23/03/2025 20:27

Wolfpa · 23/03/2025 20:26

Open the door, shove clothes in, add detergent, press button.

And then the laundry fairies come and dry it, sort it, iron it and put it all away 😅

Wolfpa · 23/03/2025 20:26

sel2223 · 23/03/2025 20:24

for you - it is not a chore at all for you

Clearly it is for the OP and others on this thread

Open the door, shove clothes in, add detergent, press button.

EdithStourton · 23/03/2025 20:25

Laundry is a struggle to keep on top of if there are a lot of you. When the DC were young I was forever doing laundry, planing tomorrow's, putting away yesterday's and then thinking, That's it, I'm done - NO! Bollocks, I need to change the DCs' sheets (as soon as they could strip and make their own beds, those chores were passed to them).

I realised how little clue DH had about it when we were in an AirBnB with a washing machine and he said about 5 days from the end of the holiday, 'Well, the kids have got enough clothes to last them till we get home now, you don't need to do any more washing.'
???!!??? I pointed out that if I did that, I'd spend the first week after we got back trying to get ahead of it all again, as yet more dirty laundry hit the washing basket.

He remains utterly terrible at laundry.
He cooks, though.

CoffeeTable22 · 23/03/2025 20:25

It's like emptying the dishwasher. It just always needs doing.

Washing and drying is easy. I'll hang it out in the summer if I've got enough time, otherwise I'll use the tumble dryer.

Sorting into piles can be annoying but I always dump the lot on the bed so we can't avoid it. We can't chuck it all on the floor as our cat will piss on it all, so it all gets done and sorted.

I find it only gets annoying when I get behind, or if there's sheets/towels to wash as well. Thankfully I only tend to wash those once a fortnight. I've never washed bedding weekly. Completely unnecessary in my opinion but then maybe that's why I smell like a dog most of the time.

IMustDoMoreExercise · 23/03/2025 20:25

It is the easiest chore for me.

Given the choice I would always do the laundry over everything else.

sel2223 · 23/03/2025 20:24

Wolfpa · 23/03/2025 20:21

Are you including the ironing in this? Just putting a load on and either transferring it to the tumble dryer or hinging it up is not a chore at all.

for you - it is not a chore at all for you

Clearly it is for the OP and others on this thread

Manchesterbythesea · 23/03/2025 20:23

I wash most days to try and keep on top of it. I don’t find it that difficult but just never ending. I love the smell of clean clothes so don’t really mind sorting and folding. I hand piles to the owners and they can put away themselves.

TheMissingLinkHasBeenFound · 23/03/2025 20:21

Garlicgarlicgarlic · 23/03/2025 19:17

I only need to do a load once every two weeks. No separating stuff or ironing, and it either dries outside or inside.

Does your husband leave it to you?

How on earth how do you fit

14+ pairs of underwear, 14+ pairs of socks/tights, 7+ bras, 10+ bottoms, 10+ tops, however many jumpers/cardigans, a few sets of night clothes etc in your washing machine?

And that's not even including things like clothes for exercise, coats, towels, bedding

Wolfpa · 23/03/2025 20:21

Are you including the ironing in this? Just putting a load on and either transferring it to the tumble dryer or hinging it up is not a chore at all.

RandomUsernameHere · 23/03/2025 20:20

It depends on the context of the comment and what he's comparing it to. I don't find laundry to be a big chore and much prefer it to cooking or cleaning.

Heidi2018 · 23/03/2025 20:19

It's absolutely 100% the worst chore in the house! There are so many steps to it, gathering, sorting, washing, hanging out to dry, folding, putting away in the right place. And then you turn around and somebody has changed their clothes and the laundry basket you emptied 5 minutes ago is suddenly half full again! I hate it! 🤯

RampantIvy · 23/03/2025 20:18

@outofofficeagain How many people are you washing for?
Are you the kind of family that washes everything after only one wear/use. Oviously I would expect that for underwear, but jeans, jumpers, towels etc?

I don't find washing onerous at all, but there are only two of us (three when DD is home).

notatinydancer · 23/03/2025 20:17

Garlicgarlicgarlic · 23/03/2025 19:17

I only need to do a load once every two weeks. No separating stuff or ironing, and it either dries outside or inside.

Does your husband leave it to you?

Sheets ?
how many people in your household ?
How is it possible to do one load every two weeks ?

Tetchypants · 23/03/2025 20:15

”It's not like we're walking miles to the river and beating the washing against rocks”

This, really. I suspect some people are seriously over complicating the process.

DorothyStorm · 23/03/2025 20:14

outofofficeagain · 23/03/2025 19:55

I think this might be one of my ‘do I have ADHD’ questions.

I struggle with the multiple stages. Often I forget I’ve put it in the machine, or it stays in the drier for days. If I put things on the line I almost always forget to bring it in and it gets rained on. Also we have a huge number of socks that are all distinct pairs (no generic sets).

It’s easier if I do it all on one day because I don’t drift off, but then I find it a much bigger chore.

My sister cannot handle the laundry load exactly like you describe. She cannot find a pair of socks at all. Ive bought her packs upon packs. When packing a bag she will empty the dryer into it. No outfits, just clothes. No trousers? She wouldnt have even considered needing them. Ive frequently picked her child up for sleepovers and had to go and buy him outfits for the time ive got him as she provides nothing he could wear. One time she sent a bra. He was 5. And a boy. What she didnt send him with for a whole week away was a pair of shoes.

swissrollisntswiss · 23/03/2025 20:14

Also we live in a flat. Having previously lived in houses, I find most chores easier when you live on one level. No lugging anything up and downstairs.

swissrollisntswiss · 23/03/2025 20:13

I quite like doing laundry. Most nights I put on a load on the timer so I can hang it out first thing in the morning. It goes straight from the clothes horse into the drawers unless it need ironing. I do the ironing a couple of times a week whilst watching tv. DH does the food shop and most cooking in return. Probably also depends on how many in your household, were 2 adults and 2DC and I do around 10 loads per week

TheMissingLinkHasBeenFound · 23/03/2025 20:12

Garlicgarlicgarlic · 23/03/2025 19:17

I only need to do a load once every two weeks. No separating stuff or ironing, and it either dries outside or inside.

Does your husband leave it to you?

Wait, you manage to put two weeks worth of clothes, bedding, towels, tea towels and dish cloths into ONE load?

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