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Going mad: best friend and her PFB

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Mummyof2too · 23/03/2025 18:55

Name change for this…partly a lighthearted whinge and partly asking for advice

One of my best friend had her first DC at the same time as I had my second. I love her, her husband, and their DC to bits. But I’ve also realised she’s become a bit insufferable since having DC.

  • She’s fully embraced “natural” living, no plastic allowed in their home. We were out at a park and she’d forgotten a snack, I had sliced berries in a plastic container and she said asked if the container had been through the dishwasher and she wouldn’t give them to her child because of the microplastic risk.
  • DC just turned two and both parents are reasonably clever, so i won’t be surprised if DC is as well. But they says DC is toilet trained, except for when they’re not home, or for a poo, or overnight. So, not really toilet trained!
  • Our oldest (5) just had Covid and I said he’d sat in the lounge for two days and watched films all day, she glared and asked if I had thought about reading instead to keep him entertained because screens are so horrible for children’s development. (For the record, we don’t actually have a telly and he only gets screen time when sick or out at the cinema).
  • They say their 2 yo is reading and send videos of their PFB saying some of the words (“Peepo!”) but not exactly reading, obviously.
  • she’s still breastfeeding and keeps asking me why I’ve stopped and how my 2 yo must miss it and be sad.
I love her to bits and she was not at all like this before baby, we’ve been friends for nearly 20 years and I’m really blindsided by how much she’s changed. I don’t think I was ever this precious with my first, so don’t have a good idea of whether this is something she’ll grow out of with time? Or am I being a mean friend and I should be more patient and understanding?
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WhereIsMyJumper · 23/03/2025 19:01

She will grow out of it eventually. Give it a couple of years and there will be chicken nuggets and too much TV galore

Pomegranatecarnage · 23/03/2025 18:59

I would find this hard to tolerate! She sounds very competitive and “holier than thou”! YANBU.