To want a dry wake for my sister?

We had my mum’s wake at a local bowls club and bought in M and S sandwich platters and had cream cakes and tea - sorry for the loss of your sister

I’m sorry for your loss OP.
Look for Muslim caters OP, ask around your south East Asian friends. Or if you have any friends who work in large offices ask who they use - there are plenty of daytime carers doing large events.

otherwise you might be able to find a cafe who will cater sandwiches cakes and drinks

We held my dad's wake at a local community centre and asked a local takeaway to provide a hot buffet. By the time people returned from the burial, it was past 5pm so we served an early dinner instead.

We also went to costco & bought cakes, teas, coffees and soft drinks.

I'm so sorry for your loss.

I would try a local church/guide/village hall and just do the catering yourself. They'll have hot/cold water and facilities to heat up things as well.

I'm sorry for your bereavement.
There will be a church or village hall, or small restaurant somewhere near you that doesn't have an alcohol license that you are able to hire. Either the funeral director will know of somewhere, or perhaps the people who facilitate the Al-Anon meetings might know of somewhere.
Failing that, explain to the hotel why you want a dry bar. There are all sorts of alternatives they can offer.

My understanding is not so much the venue, but how to get it catered for. If you book a church hall, you will still need to provide the food. I am guessing the caterers you have asked are wanting to include alcohol as part of the package for the profit.

My suggestion would be to either provide platters from M&S etc, or ask local bakeries if they do this and can deliver to your chosen venue.

But I am surprised that you HAVE to have alcohol, even if you book a room in a pub or hotel. I would have thought they could just provide tea/coffee.

All my relatives' funerals have been either at village halls or at home, with caterers providing sandwiches etc, and friends and family manning the coffee and tea provision.

I would mske sure you provide some soft drinks s well as tea and coffee though as not everyone drinks tea and coffee.

Google funeral tea then your area

Book a normal restaurant or bar and tell them you don't want alcohol served.

I would just book a venue without a bar ,a village hall type place sounds idesl
Having recently been to my mum snd uncles funeral there were bars at both venues but i dont think people were intersred in having more than a couple of drinks but fair enough if you dont want any alcohol.

I have been to two funeral receptions recently in our church hall. The first had the usual caterers' food with tea and coffee, and the family provided wine. The second was similar without the wine - it was teatime, with cakes, biscuits and cups of tea and coffee.

Methodist church hall as already suggested. Alcohol isn't allowed but there will be a tea urn. Sorry to hear about your loss and hope you get somewhere suitable.

How about a school hall?

I've just been to a funeral where the wake was in the church hall, a caterer brought sandwiches and tea and coffee making stuff, nice cakes etc and it was fine . Or you could book a bit of a restaurant maybe? One of the crematoria near me has it's own venue for a wake which is a good idea if you don't want a bar.

I am sorry for your loss, OP. I think a church hall or community centre is your best bet unless you want to host it at home. You could also look for art galleries, libraries, museums, and civic buildings. They may have space to rent.

You could just also state that as a family it will be a dry wake and as such people are not to buy alcohol per the family's request.

I’d ask a coffee shop because they have no alcohol license in the first place.

FIL’s wake was in the church hall attached to church where the funeral was held. Catered externally and there was wine available, but could easily have just been teas and coffees and soft drinks.

ETA: sorry, didn’t see your part about not finding anyone to cater specifically soft drinks. Maybe you could get someone to do the food and just nominate a friend/ relative to be in charge of tea/ coffee using the church hall facilities.

Salvation Army hall. They’re a greedy lot for cash, but it will be dry.

Hire a village hall?
It's what I did for my 'dry' wedding reception.

I was going to suggest this. We have a Methodist church hall that gets used a lot for children's parties and you have to sign a contract confirming no alcohol will be served.

They will have tea and coffee making facilities and you could get a load of catering from M&S or similar.

When my FIL died, we had the wake in the garden with no booze - just tea and soft drinks. Obv the time of year is key, but a village hall would be perfect.

Agree village hall with external caterers.

I'm so sorry for your loss.

I would suggest a village/church hall as generally, they don't have bars or if they do, they don't have to be open.

Or you could try a larger cafe?

Or someone's home depending on numbers?