To want a dry wake for my sister?

We hired a local cafe

We had our mams funeral do in a pub, a full meal with tea or coffee, no alcohol served, we did the same for mil. If anyone wanted a drink they could buy one, but most people were driving so it wasn't an issue.

Totally fine op, church hall or community centre or someone's home would be the easiest way around this. So sorry for your loss.

I'm sorry for your loss, OP. Sports clubs frequently have secure bars (eg grilles across the actual bar bit) to stop members and randoms from sneaking in and helping themselves when the bar isn't open... This means they can often rent out their space with or without the bar, as needed. A decent caterer should be able to sort tea, coffee and soft drinks as well as food.

Baptist as well as Methodist Church Halls are TT.

sorry for your loss , I assume your D S passed with alcoholic complications ?

Why don’t you ask the recovering alcoholics what they would recommend/ prefer? Alcohol is everywhere they may not want arrangements to be made around them?

you can hire just about anywhere school halls
private homes, library’s, museums art gallery , cafe?

When my FIL died, we used the village hall.
Food was a mix if stuff bought at the (good) butcher down the road and some catered stuff.
One person handled the tea making. Bottles on the tables.
Same person organised the cleaning at the end (everything in the bin, cups for tea washed) whilst we went to the crematorium.

It’s a wake though. Not a randon event.
I really don’t think a wake ‘needs’ alcohol to be served.

Tea rooms, town halls, community centres, church halls, coffee shops, maybe?

I'm sure someone will cater sandwiches in your local area - we have at least three such options in my small town run by ladies from their kitchens at home and I bet they would run an urn for you - or perhaps an order from M&S, Morrisons or similar for platters, and only offer cold drinks not hot?

Do you need caterers? You could book a hall or use one of your homes and either manage by yourselves or hire a couple of local young people to serve soft drinks and hand round platters of food, and clear up.

Sorry for your loss OP. I'm not alcoholic but my father was which has left me with some issues, one if them being wakes (long story). As such I have made it perfectly clear there hasn't to be one when I die. Do you all definitely want a wake?

We've been to funerals where the wake was held in:

The cafe of a garden centre.

At home.
Community Centre.
British Legion Hall.

I’m not sure where you live or how many people will be attending, but try looking at Halal venue’s.
Sorry for your loss x

Have you asked if a place with a bar would only sell soft drinks? I’ve been to a wake where there was a sign at the bar saying that alcohol wouldn’t be being served.

I had my sisters wake at my house, and we bought platters from Morrisons the day before and a load of soft drinks.

Have you thought about other 'social' venues where alcohol isn't the main business - so thinking things like a golf club or a bowls club or a cricket club? Sometimes they have quite nice club house where you can hold events and usually a nice view of a green lawn.

Church hall then get catering from a local sandwich shop or even an Indian/similar restaurant to cater

Wakes aren't really about "making everybody comfortable" though, especially when there are alcoholics attending.

Fair enough but I've been at events with dry and wet bars and actually it makes everyone comfortable. The dry bar has a lot of camaraderie and there isn't temptation or stress.

They don’t want alcohol at all though due to the number of alcoholics attending who would feel uncomfortable. I don’t see how this would meet the need?

Could you ask for two areas of the bar- one for alcohol and one for none? This way booking a venue will much easier, those who don't drink can get a soft drink easily and those that drink can raise a final toast.

For my Nanna’s we hired the room above her fave cafe and just had a buffet and tea / coffee. It was lovely and relaxed and very ‘her’.

Church hall, scout halls, local cafe?

I run a community centre and we often have catered wakes. Proper kitchen for brews etc.

Is there a funeral director involved?

They might have an idea?