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To think I’m officially old now? What was your defining moment?!

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moggo · 23/03/2025 12:31

That’s it. I’ve now officially hit old age. Went to a concert with my daughter this week and it was standing. I was on the fringes of a mosh pit and it was very annoying. My feet are still bruised, my hips and legs are killing me and I can’t hear anything. I’m still absolutely exhausted too. I’m 58.

When did you have your epiphany?

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SandrenaIsMyBloodType · 23/03/2025 16:06

It’s whenever I catch a glimpse of myself in a mirror or a shop window. I’ve realised that whenever I settle down to do my makeup or wash my hands in the bathroom I sort of arrange my face, even though it’s only for me. I raise my eyebrow and smile a bit and tell myself I don’t look too bad. If I catch a glimpse of my unprepared expression, it’s like seeing my mother. Or a bloodhound.

Avalovelace · 23/03/2025 16:02

When one of my colleagues said, “oh yes I’ve heard of O levels, my grandad did them”. I’m 55.

Willow12345 · 23/03/2025 16:02

worrisomeasset · 23/03/2025 15:38

I’m a primary teacher and kids would sometimes call me ‘Mum’ by accident. A few years ago I got my first ‘Nan’.

Me too @worrisomeasset!
That was a shock 😄 I’m 54.

varden · 23/03/2025 16:00

I'm 67 (but 37 in my head). Very fit for my age i.e. no aches and pains etc. I knew I had to face reality when every single day last week I was offered a seat on the bus/tram. It's very kind of people, don't get me wrong, but I never thought I looked like someone who would need one lol 😊That's my epiphany and it sucks to face reality quite frankly. We rarely see ourselves as others see us obviously!

Westfacing · 23/03/2025 15:58

A few months ago when I turned 70.

When you're 60-something you can go along with the '60 is the new 50' schtick but there's no getting away from 70!

So I reckon that I'm now officially old 🌞

SmudgeButt · 23/03/2025 15:57

CommentHere · 23/03/2025 15:49

When a young colleague said "oh my mom has a handbag like that".... I was 40.

Around the same time I was offered a seat on the bus. That was 100% proof I was definitely OLD.

Had a similar thing in reverse a few years back. I was just getting ready to cycle to work and was in front of the house putting my cycling helmet on. A 12 year old stopped and looked at me and said "my younger brother has the same helmet!"

Granted it was a plain round helmet (not a bike racing one) and had a cover that made it look like a bowl of jelly beans. I was about 58 at the time.

Binman · 23/03/2025 15:56

In my sixties and didn’t think I was officially old yet. However I wear crocs and sketchers and had to google mosh pit. So yeh maybe I am 👵🏼

SmudgeButt · 23/03/2025 15:55

Had to phone customer service admin line for, ok, I admit it, my pension, and the young chap on the line kept calling me "ma'am".

I took it for a while and then said to him "you know you're making me feel really old when you address me like that" all in a cheery, laughing way. He responded with "yeah I know, I've been told that before" and continued to call me ma'am.

Admittedly he sounded so very young and had to keep putting me on hold to ask for help with the questions I was asking. I've decided that he was 18 and it's his very first job.

Shegotanology · 23/03/2025 15:51

My sagging jawline. Yes, I'm vain.

CommentHere · 23/03/2025 15:49

When a young colleague said "oh my mom has a handbag like that".... I was 40.

Around the same time I was offered a seat on the bus. That was 100% proof I was definitely OLD.

Hekett · 23/03/2025 15:47

Grey pubes? 🤣

GrandHighPoohbah · 23/03/2025 15:45

Sulu17 · 23/03/2025 15:44

People never look surprised when I say I have grown up grandchildren 😫

Oh yes this too - people now just assume I am talking about an adult when I mention my son!

Tryingtokeepgoing · 23/03/2025 15:44

I don’t feel old on a day to day basis, but my husband died a few years ago when we were both in our mid / late 40s, and that was definitely a defining moment for me in the not being young any more stakes. The label ‘widow’ is definitely aging!! In some respects I envy him; he was ‘young’ all his life, and had the best bits of Gen X without the sh*tshow that political leaders round the world have lead us to today…

Sulu17 · 23/03/2025 15:44

People never look surprised when I say I have grown up grandchildren 😫

GrandHighPoohbah · 23/03/2025 15:41

When people started calling me "madam" in shops.

Trovindia · 23/03/2025 15:39

Wren I was diagnosed with osteoarthritis last week, age 50

NovemberMorn · 23/03/2025 15:38

When I needed a new knee on my left leg and a new hip on my right.

worrisomeasset · 23/03/2025 15:38

I’m a primary teacher and kids would sometimes call me ‘Mum’ by accident. A few years ago I got my first ‘Nan’.

Maitri108 · 23/03/2025 15:37

I was at a petrol station and sitting in the car, in front was a young man filling up his work van. Young and quite handsome and I thought, "I bet his mum's proud."

ConnieHeart · 23/03/2025 15:36

I'm 51 and it hasn't happened yet. I always think.if I was to.pop my clogs tomorrow people might say "she was so young!" 🤣🤣🤣

CheesePlantBoxes · 23/03/2025 15:35

When I saw memes that the yoof didn't realise the save symbol was a floppy disc.

Downloading The Net GIF
Nursingadvice · 23/03/2025 15:34

I’m 37, 35 for me.

CheesePlantBoxes · 23/03/2025 15:34

When someone told me they were going out at 9pm on a Saturday night and my stomach genuinely lurched at the idea.

BlueBurys · 23/03/2025 15:33

Well I’m 36 and feel old and ancient!

Mrscharlieeeee · 23/03/2025 15:33

I’m 41 and am now the proud owner of crocs and Skechers. I bought them specifically for a Disney world trip as we’ll be doing a lot of walking but I’ve been wearing them at home as my god they’re comfortable.

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