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To think I’m officially old now? What was your defining moment?!

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moggo · 23/03/2025 12:31

That’s it. I’ve now officially hit old age. Went to a concert with my daughter this week and it was standing. I was on the fringes of a mosh pit and it was very annoying. My feet are still bruised, my hips and legs are killing me and I can’t hear anything. I’m still absolutely exhausted too. I’m 58.

When did you have your epiphany?

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Wingedharpy · 23/03/2025 16:35

When the lovely lady on the supermarket till asked me if I was keeping myself "warm enough" during a particularly cold snap.
I am 126 but don't need to be reminded!

WhatterySquash · 23/03/2025 16:35

Mid-50s here. I went to a gig with my teen DD and her friend, as U-16s had to be accompanied. Now I actually like the band and wanted to see them, but fuck me if I'm standing up for 2.5 hours being shoved around on a sticky floor while trying to have a plastic glass of wine. So I asked the staff if there was anywhere to sit down. I meant like a seated area or balcony, but they led me to a nice room in the back with tables and chairs. There I found several middle-aged women sitting around reading, knitting or working on laptops. It was the old giffers who want to sit down room! I was sad to miss seeing the band but I could still hear them and sitting down was a no-brainer.

TulipTuesday · 23/03/2025 16:34

When, at the age of 43 I told someone I’d become a grandmother. Instead of saying ‘wow, you’re very young to be a Nan’ they just said ‘ah, lovely. Congratulations.’

Chicheguevara · 23/03/2025 16:34

61, just in from a 14 mile run. I haven’t had my old age epiphany yet. I don’t go gigging but mainly as half the bands that I have loved are semi retired now.
I have decided not to get old as I don’t really have the time.

SpringIsSpringing25 · 23/03/2025 16:34

worrisomeasset · 23/03/2025 15:38

I’m a primary teacher and kids would sometimes call me ‘Mum’ by accident. A few years ago I got my first ‘Nan’.

OMG Did you lock them in the supply cupboard?

Pandimoanymum · 23/03/2025 16:31

Willow12345 · 23/03/2025 16:02

Me too @worrisomeasset!
That was a shock 😄 I’m 54.

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I see your Nan shock and raise you mine. I was in Clarks looking for shoes for my son when a very elderly lady started talking to him. She then turned to me and enquired, "and what does he call you? Nana? Gran?"
He was 3 and I was 40 😩

Inyournewdress · 23/03/2025 16:31

I can’t judge ageing on physical grounds as I developed arthritis and other musculoskeletal issues in my mid 20s, so for me it would have to be mental shift. Not quite sure what to look for but don’t think I am quite there yet in my 40s!

DrMadelineMaxwell · 23/03/2025 16:30

5 years ago, when my class of 11 year olds was forced onto google meet due to the pandemic. Playing around with backgrounds it came to light that they had no idea what a cassette tape was.

To think I’m officially old now? What was your defining moment?!
AngelicKaty · 23/03/2025 16:29

47 for me - I became fully menopausal and needed reading glasses that same year! 🤓😂

IcedPurple · 23/03/2025 16:26

GrandHighPoohbah · 23/03/2025 15:41

When people started calling me "madam" in shops.

I lived in Italy many years ago and used to be addressed as 'Signorina'. In my mid 40s, I returned for a short trip after not having been back for over a decade. I was dismayed to find I was now 'Signora'! Well, maybe not dismayed but it was one of those moments!

AInightingale · 23/03/2025 16:25

When people stop referring to you as a 'girl' (any woman aged between 0-45 where I am).

Pandimoanymum · 23/03/2025 16:25

I don't think I'm old, but realise I've been doing "old people things" for several years.
-I grunt when I flop down onto, or get up from the sofa.
-I don't want to stand up at concerts.
-I like to know where the nearest toilet is.
-I say things like "gosh, xxx is SO expensive these days" (this started pre-cost of living crisis)
-I don't understand some of the words my 19 year old uses.
-my knees hurt sometimes.

I think at 57 I'm pretty much there!

cockeyedoptimist · 23/03/2025 16:24

Mine was on holiday France in my mid 30s being called madame - not Mademoiselle by shop assistants and waiters

INeedEvidenceMum · 23/03/2025 16:24

I’ve always wanted to visit Australia and New Zealand but now I’m thinking that’s ‘a bit far’ 😂

NovemberMorn · 23/03/2025 16:19

When people stopped mentioning I was too young to be a nana.

SwanOfThoseThings · 23/03/2025 16:19

I think when I reclassified going to the pub for a drink from 'a fun activity' to 'far too much hassle and a waste of money', which would have been about 10 years ago in my early 40s.

FootTapping · 23/03/2025 16:18

I'm 46.

Sometimes I feel 12!
Often I feel 26!
At night, when all I want to do is clamber into bed, I feel 85!

So sometimes I feel young and sometimes old ;)

SauvignonBlanche · 23/03/2025 16:17

When I started listening to the Today programme on R4 on my drive into work. 😂

UpsideDownChairs · 23/03/2025 16:15

I thought it was when my hips ached and I took a bit of time to get moving after I got out of bed in the morning - but since reducing my dairy that's completely cleared up. So I'd have to say, it's the first time I kissed a guy over 40.

I don't know how I'll feel should I get in a relationship again, since that would likely be a bloke over 50, and that really would make me feel old.

BarneyRonson · 23/03/2025 16:14

It’s realising I’m happy without any excitement or events or flirtations … I’m just happy. I think Ive reached my old age where I can just very happily do the garden and have a bath etc and I feel perfectly content and I don’t care about trivial things. I was a much busier person inside as well as outside when I was younger.

lifesabitchandthenyoudie · 23/03/2025 16:12

A few years ago I saw an old lady in the shop window, assumed she was behind me...

MoshPitMum · 23/03/2025 16:11

Mine also best not be a mosh pit

Arraminta · 23/03/2025 16:09

mamaduckbone · 23/03/2025 15:27

I'm 49 and fitter and healthier than I was at 30 or 40...however, I had a rare night home alone last night (Dh away and ds out). Thought about seeing if friends were free to go out but instead I excitedly made myself a mushroom risotto, drank a single glass of wine and did some crochet.

We would be such good friends! Last Saturday night I actively encouraged DH to go and watch the rugby, just so I could excitedly tackle a tricky bit of my jigsaw. I made a pot of tea to sustain me, too.

PenneyFouryourthoughts · 23/03/2025 16:08

When my daughter started dressing like I did in 1994 and refer to it as vintage.

Notaflippinclue · 23/03/2025 16:07

71 new hip

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