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To think I’m officially old now? What was your defining moment?!

332 replies

moggo · 23/03/2025 12:31

That’s it. I’ve now officially hit old age. Went to a concert with my daughter this week and it was standing. I was on the fringes of a mosh pit and it was very annoying. My feet are still bruised, my hips and legs are killing me and I can’t hear anything. I’m still absolutely exhausted too. I’m 58.

When did you have your epiphany?

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AdditionalCharacter · 23/03/2025 17:30

I've started listening to a radio station specifically for music from the decade I was a teenager.

If I reminisce about my childhood to my DC, they like to remind me it was last century.

My youngest has no idea what a phone dial is and has never seen a wired telephone apart from in a museum. He's 17.

Charlize43 · 23/03/2025 17:28

I'm 58 and I'm still up for most things.

I have a friend who is in her 80s, still very active, who likes to go clubbing as she likes to be around younger men. Luckily, she's an elegant, classy dresser and doesn't dress like she's trying to imitate a twenty year old (neither do I) as I am often very conscious that we are the oldest women in the venue. We tend to do this more when we are abroad together.

Howlongdoesittake · 23/03/2025 17:25

Mrscharlieeeee · 23/03/2025 15:33

I’m 41 and am now the proud owner of crocs and Skechers. I bought them specifically for a Disney world trip as we’ll be doing a lot of walking but I’ve been wearing them at home as my god they’re comfortable.

I got Sketchers from my son for our Disney trip I love them! But don’t feel old at 65.

morningtoncrescent62 · 23/03/2025 17:24

When people started offering me seats on the bus. (I'm 63 and it began happening around my 60th birthday.) Also, when my youngest daughter had a big bash for her 30th birthday and described it as "entering middle age".

GrandHighPoohbah · 23/03/2025 17:22

I have always thought of Reece Withersppon as a peer age wise. I suddenly noticed she was getting "mum" roles and realised that's how I must be perceived too!

littlefox90 · 23/03/2025 17:21

34 here but was shocked to find out some of my younger colleges didn't know what fools and horses was 😳 made me feel old. Oh and a post I saw on face book describing 1996 as the late 1900s

WearyAuldWumman · 23/03/2025 17:21

moggo · 23/03/2025 12:31

That’s it. I’ve now officially hit old age. Went to a concert with my daughter this week and it was standing. I was on the fringes of a mosh pit and it was very annoying. My feet are still bruised, my hips and legs are killing me and I can’t hear anything. I’m still absolutely exhausted too. I’m 58.

When did you have your epiphany?

The same age.

I was in a cafe with my late husband when a middle-aged woman came up to me: "You were my teacher!" No, that wasn't it.

It was when she introduced me to her grandson.

SpanThatWorld · 23/03/2025 17:21

A new job meant I was commuting on the tube for the first time in years and suddenly I was being offered seats.

catzrulz · 23/03/2025 17:18

Getting contact lenses and doing my make up with them in, using a magnifying mirror.
NOT a good idea, saw my Gran looking back at me, never mind my Mum.

Longsummerdays25 · 23/03/2025 17:16

When flights of any description became an endurance rather than excitement! But maybe that’s because they are nowhere near as good now and are exhausting.

I swing from feeling great to feeling drained so quickly (52) and feeling young when I hear music, learn something new, exercise or feeling ancient going to bed so early with bed socks on relieved not to have to go anywhere!

Tdp123 · 23/03/2025 17:13

When I started making a noise every time I got in or out of a chair.

Knickknacketty · 23/03/2025 17:12

Younger than you but when I couldn’t remember if a certain actor had died and I debated it with my husband - then felt like my parents 😂

YourBestFriend · 23/03/2025 17:11

At 45 I still mosh pit pretty hard so nice to see I am still young then.

Opinionsprettyplease · 23/03/2025 17:11

When it snows and all you can think of is getting wet and cold 😭

TorroFerney · 23/03/2025 17:11

lifesabitchandthenyoudie · 23/03/2025 16:12

A few years ago I saw an old lady in the shop window, assumed she was behind me...

Few years ago I looked out of the window, was dark and I had lights on. Thought my mother was coming up the drive, nope it was my reflection.

Happyspendingthedayinthegarden · 23/03/2025 17:10

Call it God, Karma, nature whatever is kind to us as we age. Our eyesight gets fuzzy. I can look in the mirror in the morning & think 'Hey Girl you still got it' then I put my glasses on & think OMG get those specs off quick! 😂

Disturbia81 · 23/03/2025 17:10

45 and not felt it yet, and hopefully won’t for a long time yet.
Think it’s partly health, partly attitude

Gingernaut · 23/03/2025 17:10

I work in healthcare

When I speak to a mother born in 2004 and realise she's 21.

Leaves me stunned every time

notprincehamlet · 23/03/2025 17:08

When someone (the bastard) gave me a helium balloon with 50 on for my birthday. 50! All the air left my lungs and I was like how the absolute fuck did that happen? That said, I ran 20 miles yesterday and feel remarkably sprightly today so maybe I'm not ready for the chipper just yet.

BigTubOfLard · 23/03/2025 17:07

Staying in a Youth Hostel dormitory in Venice: all my roommates had introduced themselves and seemed very nice. New roommate bursts into the room and announces that she's been invited to a party by a local and does anyone else want to come? Cue everyone else in the room excitedly exclaiming that they'd love to join her. Me, on my bunk, thinking "YES! They're all going to go out and I'll have the whole room to myself to read my book in peace and quiet". That's when I knew I was old...(I was in my mid 40s)
I should mention that they had strict age limits on the Youth Hostel but I looked younger and "accidentally on purpose" had left my passport with a friend so couldn't produce it on demand for age verification. Youth Hostel was waaaay cheaper than any other accommodation so I bucked the system by pretending to be 39.

Pussycat22 · 23/03/2025 17:06

Seeing my wrinkles after cataract surgery. I thought I only looked 45. Wrongo !!!

Happyspendingthedayinthegarden · 23/03/2025 17:06

61 DH 70 recovering from an afternoon spent in bed 😁

RobertaFirmino · 23/03/2025 17:05

One of our volunteers was having problems with her UC claim and I asked her if she'd had her giro yet. She hadn't a clue what I meant.

Lilyundervalley · 23/03/2025 17:05

Got an inkling at 39 when the film Tristan and iseult was released and the gorgeous Rufus Sewell was not cast as Tristan but as king mark... Properly realised at 56 when I visited an outdoor museum that had a parade of shops from the 1970s and I recognised every item sold in the pharmacy/drugstore, then thought omfg, my youth is is in a museum....

RampantIvy · 23/03/2025 17:03

Getting my state pension.

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