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To knock on a door at 7am on a Sunday

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CatRescueNeeded · 23/03/2025 05:48

Hi

My cat has been missing since yesterday evening and I’ve just found him up an incredibly tall tree up the road. I’ll contact an emergency tree surgeon asap. How early is it reasonable to knock on a neighbours door on a Sunday? AIBU to knock at 7am? They live a few doors up so I’ve never met them

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Ilikeadrink14 · 24/03/2025 15:20

TheCountofMountingCrispBags · 23/03/2025 06:55

For those wanting a picture because 'catsxare cute'
Go to insta/youtube or the myriad os social media sites with endless bloody cat videos.
Andxas for the rationale that a picture mmay aid several thousand harassed mothers to offer advice on the best way to get the cat down...
Really? That's the best excuse you have for nosiness?

Well, aren’t you a charmer??

viques · 24/03/2025 15:13

That photo is a photo of a very smug cat!

MrsSunshine2b · 24/03/2025 14:48

You'd get short shrift from me if you knocked the door before 10am on a Sunday for any reason other than imminent risk to life.

The cat will work out how to get down on its own given time, and it will be fine for a few hours.

Scrapsy · 24/03/2025 14:41

I'd be fine anyone knocking any time for an animal in distress but would rather they tried without waking me up

DraigCymraeg · 24/03/2025 14:31

TooTrue2005 · 23/03/2025 05:52

Call the fire service not a tree surgeon - tree might be protected

So glad you found your cat ❤️

The Fire Service will probably charge, and the Tree Surgeon is for climbing up to catch puss I suspect. Not to cut it down!

DontWheeshtMe · 23/03/2025 23:56

AndThereSheGoes · 23/03/2025 19:11

It’s not only just built.
There is absolutely a link to the number of cats that come into my garden with the decline in birds.
The trees, bushes and hedges are the same ( more of them if anything) and they aren’t worried about cars or humans as they have stayed the same.
Theres countless studies to show the link between cats ( even the presence of them) and decline in bird species. Australia and Scotland have considered limiting them haven’t they. Nothing against cats per se but they don’t work well for wildlife in concentration.

Another reason to

  • stop house building in the countryside and build flats in towns
  • Don't pull trees down in your gardens, plant them ( really p…… off first thing buyers of our old house did was fell all the trees….a ton of mature trees )
  • stop using crappy plastic grass
  • stop making concrete driveways
  • plant hedges not fences
  • plant insect friendly plants
  • and bird friendly plants
  • install nesting boxes, log piles, bee homes and bat boxes

I think we all get the drift 😃

Illegally18 · 23/03/2025 22:20

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 23/03/2025 20:35

Awwww, what a mean thing to say. 😢

No.

farmlife2 · 23/03/2025 20:53

DontWheeshtMe · 23/03/2025 20:25

Which is interesting.
SoThe odd bark …no big deal it’s not like it goes on and on.

The odd one off door ring at 7am because of a distressed cat and owner…not a big deal, it’s not like it goes on and on and will happen ever several times a week. Hopefully

That’s what I thought

If you're fine with it, sure. I'm not. An injured animal, fine. A cat that is stuck up a tree can wait an hour. I don't sleep well, I almost never get to sleep till 7am. If it's one of the blue moon occasions I get the chance then God help anyone who tries to wake me up except in an emergency, which an uninjured cat up a tree is not.

I got up for some injured wildlife at 2am two weeks ago and didn't mind at all. I have a lot of sympathy for animals for a cat up a tree can wait.

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 23/03/2025 20:35

Illegally18 · 23/03/2025 20:25

A lot of cat haters on this post. Nonsense. A lot of people who are indifferent to cats, and don't want to be woken up because of one. A cat is just a cat.

Awwww, what a mean thing to say. 😢

Sad Cat GIF by ciervo-blanco
Illegally18 · 23/03/2025 20:25

A lot of cat haters on this post. Nonsense. A lot of people who are indifferent to cats, and don't want to be woken up because of one. A cat is just a cat.

DontWheeshtMe · 23/03/2025 20:25

farmlife2 · 23/03/2025 20:09

It's just a little bit to let me know, then they're quiet (and they aren't actually that loud). They'll only carry on if someone lurks around the property oddly - like if you were standing at the bottom of a tree talking to your cat. It's a great security system. If someone is trespassing on my property I don't care who it annoys. I want to know.

Which is interesting.
SoThe odd bark …no big deal it’s not like it goes on and on.

The odd one off door ring at 7am because of a distressed cat and owner…not a big deal, it’s not like it goes on and on and will happen ever several times a week. Hopefully

That’s what I thought

farmlife2 · 23/03/2025 20:09

DontWheeshtMe · 23/03/2025 11:03

I couldn’t cope with that sort of noise every time the postman or delivery driver comes by. It would drive me nuts

It's just a little bit to let me know, then they're quiet (and they aren't actually that loud). They'll only carry on if someone lurks around the property oddly - like if you were standing at the bottom of a tree talking to your cat. It's a great security system. If someone is trespassing on my property I don't care who it annoys. I want to know.

AndThereSheGoes · 23/03/2025 19:11

Allergictoironing · 23/03/2025 16:35

So a brand new estate, only just built and rapidly increasing occupancy, the ONLY reason for wildlife reducing is the number of cats?

It’s not only just built.
There is absolutely a link to the number of cats that come into my garden with the decline in birds.
The trees, bushes and hedges are the same ( more of them if anything) and they aren’t worried about cars or humans as they have stayed the same.
Theres countless studies to show the link between cats ( even the presence of them) and decline in bird species. Australia and Scotland have considered limiting them haven’t they. Nothing against cats per se but they don’t work well for wildlife in concentration.

MsDitsy · 23/03/2025 17:29

How did you manage it....was the neighbour cooperative? As a cat lover/owner, being woken early would not have bothered us in the least.

Allergictoironing · 23/03/2025 16:35

So a brand new estate, only just built and rapidly increasing occupancy, the ONLY reason for wildlife reducing is the number of cats?

TheFatCatsWhiskers1 · 23/03/2025 15:49

@WinterFrogs I can think of much worse, like one place we lived that people were racing cars up and down our road into the small hours

Sympathies, this happens here too. Mopeds with exhaust cutouts racing around suburbia at 2am almost every night.

StartEngine · 23/03/2025 15:30

Needspaceforlego · 23/03/2025 15:06

It might be distressed but really it's not the tree surgeon problem. He is a neighbour the Op has never spoken too.

You have no clue what else is going on in the guys life, he could have still drinking at 2 or up at 3 in the morning collecting young adult kids for all we know.
Getting a stranger up at 7am on a Sunday for a cat is a bit selfish.

The cat had been up the tree for a day or so, another couple of hours isn't going to make any difference.

The neighbour isn’t a tree surgeon. It’s where the cat was.

Needspaceforlego · 23/03/2025 15:06

StartEngine · 23/03/2025 07:02

That’s sad when it’s for an animal in distress.

It might be distressed but really it's not the tree surgeon problem. He is a neighbour the Op has never spoken too.

You have no clue what else is going on in the guys life, he could have still drinking at 2 or up at 3 in the morning collecting young adult kids for all we know.
Getting a stranger up at 7am on a Sunday for a cat is a bit selfish.

The cat had been up the tree for a day or so, another couple of hours isn't going to make any difference.

AndThereSheGoes · 23/03/2025 14:52

@Allergictoironing
I’m not overestimating. I know all my neighbours.
And I was one of the first on my estate so I know what was in my garden and what has been the effect of my neighbours increasing the car population.
And I’m just in one corner of one estate in town of many.

Allergictoironing · 23/03/2025 13:39

My new build estate has two cats per house on my road alone. When I moved in it had every type of wild bird wrens, sparrows, tits and robins. Cats have reduced this to pigeons, magpies and crows.

So nothing whatsoever to do with trees and hedges being cut down, months or years of building works, people, cars, kids etc having any impact on wildlife in the area?

I also think you may also be over estimating the number of cats in your road (possibly to make a point) - 2 per house, really? I can't think of a single road I know where there are 2 cats in every house, out of the 12 houses in my terrace and the opposite one there are a total of 2 houses with 2 cats (one being mine, who are indoor only) and 1 with 1 (indoor only) cat. There's also around 15 dogs between those 12 houses (admittedly 10 in one house).

I see a couple of other cats coming in my garden but they come from the road over the back of mine

SalfordQuays · 23/03/2025 13:37

thankyounextplease · 23/03/2025 11:47

I've woken my neighbour at midnight, 3am and 5am over a similar thing.

Wow, mindblowing selfishness

hellywelly3 · 23/03/2025 13:34

Wouldn’t bother me knocking at 7. If it was every week then yeah.

Illegally18 · 23/03/2025 13:25

CatRescueNeeded · 23/03/2025 05:48

Hi

My cat has been missing since yesterday evening and I’ve just found him up an incredibly tall tree up the road. I’ll contact an emergency tree surgeon asap. How early is it reasonable to knock on a neighbours door on a Sunday? AIBU to knock at 7am? They live a few doors up so I’ve never met them

I'd be very annoyed to be woken up at 7.00 am any morning of the week, especially a Sunday, for a cat. A cat! A child in crisis, okay; a cat, never. FFS

WinterFrogs · 23/03/2025 13:18

To be clear, to all the people who've quoted me, I probably wouldn't go knocking on anyone's door early on a Sunday, but I wouldn't mind if someone knocked on mine if they were worried about a pet.
And re shift workers and the like, you might equally be met with fury at any other time of day.
I'd probably look for signs of life before knocking unless I was really worried.
I was more surprised at the number of people saying they'd be outraged at being disturbed. I can think of much worse, like one place we lived that people were racing cars up and down our road into the small hours, keeping the whole family awake. In comparison, a quick knock at the door to ask permission to get a distressed cat out of my tree would barely register. If I wasn't working, I'd just go back to bed.

BobbyBiscuits · 23/03/2025 13:06

A tree surgeon seems very rash. Surely once you're allowed access to the garden you can lure the cat down with treats and positive calls? He got up there, so he definitely is capable of getting down again on his own. I've seen it so many times.
7am is not reasonable. I'd put a note through the door. Then if they don't text you or call you by about 10 I'd try their door.
Can you speak to/call the cat from your property? Get the dreamies out! I'm sure he'll come down without a tree surgeon.