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She ordered a Curry and hasn’t paid me

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OnePeachA · 22/03/2025 20:51

Friend came to my house

I was going to cook but she asked if I fancied a curry. I said that would be really nice actually

Her JustEat app wasn’t working so I said have a look on mine for places that are open. She picked Indian.

I put everything I wanted in and she added hers. Total came to £52ish. Over 65% of that cost was hers.

I said I could just check out and sort it later. I have messaged to ask if she had the money today as a gentle reminder, and she said she thought it was my treat?

I said oh, we must have got crossed wires then. She said ‘I did cover the shop’

She went to the corner shop for wine and snacks. I got a Grape Fanta!

Where do I go from here? Leave it? Was it reasonable for her to assume it was in fact my treat?

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IlooklikeNigella · 24/03/2025 17:43

BatchCookBabe · 24/03/2025 17:42

No they don't .. It's just you hun. 😎

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I eat both.

zerofucksgivenever · 24/03/2025 17:42

Did you ever get your money op?

IlooklikeNigella · 24/03/2025 17:42

BatchCookBabe · 24/03/2025 17:41

Well it is ridiculous! 😆 No Indian restaurant would offer just curry and naan bread. (With no rice!!!) Your posts are utterly batshit! 😂

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Have you ever been outside of the UK?

BatchCookBabe · 24/03/2025 17:42

IlooklikeNigella · 24/03/2025 17:41

Well I'm sure somebody somewhere does.

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No they don't .. It's just you hun. 😎

IlooklikeNigella · 24/03/2025 17:41

BatchCookBabe · 24/03/2025 17:39

NO-one just eats curry and naan bread @IlooklikeNigella 😂

Everyone has curry and rice, or curry, rice, and naan bread.

Well I'm sure somebody somewhere does.

BatchCookBabe · 24/03/2025 17:41

IlooklikeNigella · 24/03/2025 17:01

nothing sly or little about my dig - it was a fairly upfront response to the post I had quoted which stated only being offered rice OR naan was 'ridiculous'.

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Well it is ridiculous! 😆 No Indian restaurant would offer just curry and naan bread. (With no rice!!!) Your posts are utterly batshit! 😂

BatchCookBabe · 24/03/2025 17:39

NO-one just eats curry and naan bread @IlooklikeNigella 😂

Everyone has curry and rice, or curry, rice, and naan bread.

IlooklikeNigella · 24/03/2025 17:38

BunnyLake · 24/03/2025 17:17

Then why are you acting so judgemental that people eat naan with rice?

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I couldn't give a toss what people eat or do in general.

I am however intolerant of people deluding themselves, declaring BS as facts and ridiculing anyone who disagrees with them.

A serving of an Indian main and one side (or two half sides like I usually get) could easily (depending on the restaurant) be a day's worth of calories. So yes it is already a large meal which only gets larger with extra sides, poppadoms, drinks etc.

If other people want to attach emotion / judgement or whatever to that fact is up to them.

BunnyLake · 24/03/2025 17:17

IlooklikeNigella · 24/03/2025 17:10

At the same time yes

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Then why are you acting so judgemental that people eat naan with rice?

BunnyLake · 24/03/2025 17:15

IlooklikeNigella · 24/03/2025 17:01

nothing sly or little about my dig - it was a fairly upfront response to the post I had quoted which stated only being offered rice OR naan was 'ridiculous'.

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It doesn’t mean anything other than that they’ll give you two items for an inclusive price and everything else is extra. It's a money thing, they don’t care about your eating habits.

IlooklikeNigella · 24/03/2025 17:10

BunnyLake · 24/03/2025 17:09

But never at the same time?

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At the same time yes

BunnyLake · 24/03/2025 17:09

IlooklikeNigella · 24/03/2025 16:41

I eat rice and naan (and most food).

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But never at the same time?

IlooklikeNigella · 24/03/2025 17:01

SpringIsNearlySpringing · 24/03/2025 16:32

“Already large meal” ha ha you need help , the sly little digs are never ending 😆🤣

#ProudCurryWhore

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nothing sly or little about my dig - it was a fairly upfront response to the post I had quoted which stated only being offered rice OR naan was 'ridiculous'.

IlooklikeNigella · 24/03/2025 16:41

BunnyLake · 24/03/2025 16:38

Oh for heaven’s sake, already large meal 😁

Are you saying that you find it shocking that grown adults might want to order some extras on top of one serving of rice and one serving of curry? What is going to mop up the remnants of curry sauce if not a naan? You are missing out on one of life’s little pleasures.

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I eat rice and naan (and most food).

BunnyLake · 24/03/2025 16:38

IlooklikeNigella · 24/03/2025 15:43

Again, I'm not in the UK. But in our indian restaurants the mains come with rice OR naan so they ask you which you prefer. You can of course order both and pay the extra. Or you can order two extras along with your already large meal and apparently that is totally normal. I find that ridiculous but hey.

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Oh for heaven’s sake, already large meal 😁

Are you saying that you find it shocking that grown adults might want to order some extras on top of one serving of rice and one serving of curry? What is going to mop up the remnants of curry sauce if not a naan? You are missing out on one of life’s little pleasures.

nationalsausagefund · 24/03/2025 16:33

Curry whores of the world, unite and over-order

SpringIsNearlySpringing · 24/03/2025 16:32

IlooklikeNigella · 24/03/2025 15:43

Again, I'm not in the UK. But in our indian restaurants the mains come with rice OR naan so they ask you which you prefer. You can of course order both and pay the extra. Or you can order two extras along with your already large meal and apparently that is totally normal. I find that ridiculous but hey.

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“Already large meal” ha ha you need help , the sly little digs are never ending 😆🤣

#ProudCurryWhore

Bitofanchange · 24/03/2025 16:24

nationalsausagefund · 24/03/2025 16:14

Thank you, I have secured threenaancurrywhore for my future name-change needs.

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I’m so going to have a name change along those lines!

Matsukaze · 24/03/2025 16:24

OnePeachA · 22/03/2025 20:59

Spaghetti with a tyre

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It's wheely out of order

Bitofanchange · 24/03/2025 16:24

IlooklikeNigella · 24/03/2025 15:43

Again, I'm not in the UK. But in our indian restaurants the mains come with rice OR naan so they ask you which you prefer. You can of course order both and pay the extra. Or you can order two extras along with your already large meal and apparently that is totally normal. I find that ridiculous but hey.

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I am in the UK and ours come with rice AND nann, you can also add, sides as many as you like, including Bombay potatoes, poppadums, etc to accompany your meal to make it MASSIVE. No one questions this, no food police visit, no arrests are made.

nationalsausagefund · 24/03/2025 16:14

HellDorado · 24/03/2025 12:37

I swear if OP came back and said her friend had come round and dumped the whole £26 on her doorstep in five pence pieces and screamed, “Here you are then - your thirty pieces of silver!! Eat THAT, curry whore!!”, people would still respond “Three naans? And £52?! Mind you, no wonder she wanted a curry if OP was going to serve a tyre, haha! A bit chewy eh?!”

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Thank you, I have secured threenaancurrywhore for my future name-change needs.

IlooklikeNigella · 24/03/2025 15:43

BunnyLake · 24/03/2025 11:42

I have never been to a restaurant that asks if you want naan OR rice that is ridiculous. Does that poster think restaurants would rather you only ordered one of their offerings instead of two?

The only way they’d ask is if you hadn’t ordered any and it was in the context of telling you what’s available. Like you might be asked if you’d like beer or wine, they don’t mean you should only have one or the other.

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Again, I'm not in the UK. But in our indian restaurants the mains come with rice OR naan so they ask you which you prefer. You can of course order both and pay the extra. Or you can order two extras along with your already large meal and apparently that is totally normal. I find that ridiculous but hey.

Eldermilleniallyogii · 24/03/2025 15:26

Did you reply to her @OnePeachA ?

LazyArsedMagician · 24/03/2025 13:33

She'll have to go to branch Grin oh my days. Of course she will.

jenrobin · 24/03/2025 12:49

MrsRuthFisher · 23/03/2025 21:13

You're not preventing me from discussing anything. You are spoiling my enjoyment of reading a potentially interesting thread, which is why I clicked on it.
Instead, I have had to plough through dozens of your tedious and self-absorbed posts, that have sadly completely changed how the thread developed. But you know that, as you have a whole agenda to push.

I was simply asking you, in a very polite fashion, to go and do it somewhere else, like the weight loss section. That's what that is for.

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I agree there's nothing more tedious than diet talk, especially unsolicited, but without that, and all the food budget horror, we wouldn't have the delightful pisstake from Sardines on Gingerbread on p9 of this thread, who has never seen Posh London rice but a friend has "with her own eyes". Still chuckling a day later.