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She ordered a Curry and hasn’t paid me

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OnePeachA · 22/03/2025 20:51

Friend came to my house

I was going to cook but she asked if I fancied a curry. I said that would be really nice actually

Her JustEat app wasn’t working so I said have a look on mine for places that are open. She picked Indian.

I put everything I wanted in and she added hers. Total came to £52ish. Over 65% of that cost was hers.

I said I could just check out and sort it later. I have messaged to ask if she had the money today as a gentle reminder, and she said she thought it was my treat?

I said oh, we must have got crossed wires then. She said ‘I did cover the shop’

She went to the corner shop for wine and snacks. I got a Grape Fanta!

Where do I go from here? Leave it? Was it reasonable for her to assume it was in fact my treat?

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MissScarletInTheBallroom · 22/03/2025 21:42

Matronic6 · 22/03/2025 21:40

How is that relevant?

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It's not.

Renamed · 22/03/2025 21:42

So many layers of rude
No I’m not eating your food, let’s order in
No you’re paying, and I’m ordering a huge meal
No I’m not sharing anything, I’m taking my crisps home with me

Just… how?

littleluncheon · 22/03/2025 21:40

Poppadoms and chutney, two curries, two pilau rice and a peshwari naan would be £37 at my local pricey takeaway so £52 does seem quite steep to me!

Matronic6 · 22/03/2025 21:40

SheridansPortSalut · 22/03/2025 21:39

Did you pay her for all the baked goods she brought into work?

How is that relevant?

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 22/03/2025 21:40

"My treat? You suggested it. I would have been happy to cook. Sorry, I'm afraid I can't afford to treat people right now, so if you could pay me £30 when you get a chance, I'd appreciate it."

SheridansPortSalut · 22/03/2025 21:39

Did you pay her for all the baked goods she brought into work?

RunAwayTurnAwayRunAwayTurnAway · 22/03/2025 21:39

OnePeachA · 22/03/2025 20:59

Spaghetti with a tyre

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This is something the mafia would serve, whilst being very charming.

BatchCookBabe · 22/03/2025 21:38

I'd let her keep the money @OnePeachA and fuck her off. Don't bother with her again. She clearly has no intention of paying you the money back. What's that saying 'if someone borrows £20 and you never see them again, it was worth it!' Block her now!

Also, I genuinely wondered what 'spaghetti with a tyre' was! Thought it was real ... Like sometimes when you get your food served on a slice of slate! Blush😆

Also, 2 Indian takeaways, £52?! WOW, that's a lot. Me and DH pay around £22-£25 for the two of us. £52 is extortionate! And £35 of it was hers?! WTF did she have? Half the menu?!

Mickeychampionwhatgoodami · 22/03/2025 21:38

Going back to op,it seems a bit convenient that her takeaway app wasn't working.
Good on you for telling her to stump up.

Original poster
OnePeachA · 22/03/2025 21:38

On the list was

Butter chicken
Sweet Naan x3
Rice
Vindaloo and rice
Coke 1Ltr
Delivery fee £5

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ForestFox44 · 22/03/2025 21:37

The facts she even admitted she thought it was your treat... when clearly it wasn't after you messaged and then said she covered the shop 😅 some people have no shame!

Happyspendingthedayinthegarden · 22/03/2025 21:36

OnePeachA · 22/03/2025 21:34

Slightly side tracking but the poster replying with a shock to the 2 meals costing £52, does that seem a lot then?! I thought it was average

I have text to say ‘Sorry, no treats I’m afraid. This is my account details x xxxx. Hope to meet up again soon‘

Well, maybe I live in a cheap area (Devon), but we had a very tasty Indian meal for 2 delivered last week & it cost £38.

TheGhostOfPatButcher · 22/03/2025 21:35

But then, I stopped ordering them when it got to £40 for four of us!! 😂

ChessorBuckaroo · 22/03/2025 21:35

TwinklyRoseTurtle · 22/03/2025 20:53

I would message her back and say you are confused as you only got a Fanta from the shop which doesn’t cover a £50 bill- send her the amount she owes with your bank details, however could be the end of friendship but who would want a friend like that anyway

This. What an ignoramus.

TheGhostOfPatButcher · 22/03/2025 21:34

Happyspendingthedayinthegarden · 22/03/2025 20:58

£52 for 2 Indian meals?!!!😨

Yeah, this was my face last time I looked at the prices!

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OnePeachA · 22/03/2025 21:34

Slightly side tracking but the poster replying with a shock to the 2 meals costing £52, does that seem a lot then?! I thought it was average

I have text to say ‘Sorry, no treats I’m afraid. This is my account details x xxxx. Hope to meet up again soon‘

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Happyspendingthedayinthegarden · 22/03/2025 21:33

Hollowvoice · 22/03/2025 21:04

I now want a recipe for spaghetti with a tyre...
(Totally off topic. Your friend is a CF)

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I love a bit of tyre with my spag - my preference is for a well used Michelin nicely marinaded in a sweet chillie sauce😂

Bogginsthe3rd · 22/03/2025 21:31

Happyspendingthedayinthegarden · 22/03/2025 20:58

£52 for 2 Indian meals?!!!😨

I know. A bargain. Must have also had a discount code.

CathyorClaire · 22/03/2025 21:30

OnePeachA · 22/03/2025 20:59

Spaghetti with a tyre

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Way more filling than even a £50 curry 🍴

2Hot2Handle · 22/03/2025 21:28

CheesePlantBoxes · 22/03/2025 20:52

"Sorry hun, cant afford to treat anyone in this ecomnomy 😆 Send me £X for the food and I'll send you £2 for the fanta."

This is a pretty perfect response! Go with this!

Calliopespa · 22/03/2025 21:27

“ It wasn’t my treat; it was yours.

You suggested curry when I was all set to cook spaghetti with a tyre. But I’m happy to cover the cost of my curry and Fanta nonetheless.”

BunnyLake · 22/03/2025 21:27

BigDeepBreaths · 22/03/2025 21:23

Her JustEat app wasn’t working

yeah, right 🧐

But OP’s was (luckily for her).

Some people really have some gall.

Bignanna · 22/03/2025 21:27

OnePeachA · 22/03/2025 20:59

Spaghetti with a tyre

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Perhaps you cooked the spaghetti for too long!

surreygirl1987 · 22/03/2025 21:26

Absolutely shocked by your friend.

Rattai · 22/03/2025 21:25

I can't wait to hear her response to whatever text you decide to send

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