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She ordered a Curry and hasn’t paid me

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OnePeachA · 22/03/2025 20:51

Friend came to my house

I was going to cook but she asked if I fancied a curry. I said that would be really nice actually

Her JustEat app wasn’t working so I said have a look on mine for places that are open. She picked Indian.

I put everything I wanted in and she added hers. Total came to £52ish. Over 65% of that cost was hers.

I said I could just check out and sort it later. I have messaged to ask if she had the money today as a gentle reminder, and she said she thought it was my treat?

I said oh, we must have got crossed wires then. She said ‘I did cover the shop’

She went to the corner shop for wine and snacks. I got a Grape Fanta!

Where do I go from here? Leave it? Was it reasonable for her to assume it was in fact my treat?

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goldfishcat · 23/03/2025 09:16

Calliopespa · 23/03/2025 08:51

I read that as “18 hours on the loo” doesn’t faze you. You reminded me of my BIL..,

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That’s what I read too. 😂 Thought for a second someone else must have been eating the spaghetti tyre!

Singinghollybob · 23/03/2025 09:15

AppleDumplingWithCustard · 22/03/2025 23:41

Sez who? Honestly, all this monitoring and faux horror on this thread about peoples food choices. Was it handed down to Moses on a tablet that thou shall order either rice or a naan. Never both? 🙄

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Exactly. It's so tiresome and completely irrelevant.

goldfishcat · 23/03/2025 09:14

Singinghollybob · 23/03/2025 09:09

Who said?

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That might be why @MidnightMeltdown has meltdowns at midnight. Hunger.

mumda · 23/03/2025 09:11

NoWayRose · 23/03/2025 08:58

So weird that CFs are willing to swap a friendship for one free takeaway, as that’s what she’s done. Especially if there was a home cooked meal on offer … if she didn’t have the cash, why not go for that

Was out with a lovely longstanding friend last week and the waiter was laughing at us because we were both fighting to be the first to handover our card and pay the bill.

She wasn't expecting the freebie train to stop so soon.

Some people have trouble asking for money back. And that's the golden ticket for a freeloader.

Singinghollybob · 23/03/2025 09:09

MidnightMeltdown · 22/03/2025 22:55

Surely if you’re ordering a rice each you don’t need naan? You’re supposed to order one or the other 😂. No wonder it was expensive!

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Who said?

TwistedWonder · 23/03/2025 09:05

NoWayRose · 23/03/2025 08:58

So weird that CFs are willing to swap a friendship for one free takeaway, as that’s what she’s done. Especially if there was a home cooked meal on offer … if she didn’t have the cash, why not go for that

Was out with a lovely longstanding friend last week and the waiter was laughing at us because we were both fighting to be the first to handover our card and pay the bill.

That’s me and my mum. She’s 81 years old and she’d wrestle Tyson Fury to the floor to be the one who pays the bill.

RampantIvy · 23/03/2025 09:00

NoWayRose · 23/03/2025 08:58

So weird that CFs are willing to swap a friendship for one free takeaway, as that’s what she’s done. Especially if there was a home cooked meal on offer … if she didn’t have the cash, why not go for that

Was out with a lovely longstanding friend last week and the waiter was laughing at us because we were both fighting to be the first to handover our card and pay the bill.

That's what my friends and I are like with each other.

Viviennemary · 23/03/2025 08:59

It's cheeky. She should go half. Since she suggested it.

NoWayRose · 23/03/2025 08:58

So weird that CFs are willing to swap a friendship for one free takeaway, as that’s what she’s done. Especially if there was a home cooked meal on offer … if she didn’t have the cash, why not go for that

Was out with a lovely longstanding friend last week and the waiter was laughing at us because we were both fighting to be the first to handover our card and pay the bill.

FootTapping · 23/03/2025 08:55

I would just let her get the next one.

LivelyHare · 23/03/2025 08:53

Ha ha you won’t see that money again, OP. No online banking my arse.

BlueSkyBeing · 23/03/2025 08:53

Loub1987 · 22/03/2025 21:48

Who doesn’t do online banking? How is it even possible?

And who doesn't use cash point machines... she actually has to go into a branch. Her "never mind' would wind me up too. I'd not persist with this friendship.

Sportswatchernotplayer · 23/03/2025 08:53

CheesePlantBoxes · 22/03/2025 20:52

"Sorry hun, cant afford to treat anyone in this ecomnomy 😆 Send me £X for the food and I'll send you £2 for the fanta."

😂yes, try this. Crossed wires, or she did this on purpose

Calliopespa · 23/03/2025 08:51

PeggyMitchellsCameo · 23/03/2025 07:15

It’s all luxury here. 18 hours on the loom doesn’t phase me.

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I read that as “18 hours on the loo” doesn’t faze you. You reminded me of my BIL..,

BlueSkyBeing · 23/03/2025 08:49

Thunderpants88 · 22/03/2025 21:17

I can’t BELIEVE anyone would have the balls to say “oh I thought it was your treat” when being reminded to pay for something they suggested, ordered and ate.

nightmare

I would reply “no not my treat. I was planning on making spaghetti and had bought the ingredients. Your total is £33.05 - £2 for the Fanta you brought = £31.05. Here are my bank details. Fire me a wee text when you have transferred it 👍 thanks”

please update us

This. Perfect!

RampantIvy · 23/03/2025 08:47

It looks like a few CFs have joined the thread. If I was going to cook for a guest then they decided that they would prefer a takeaway I would not be paying for their meal.

That said, I would have checked with them beforehand that the meal I was cooking was what they wanted to eat.

Moonnstars · 23/03/2025 08:43

Holdonforsummer · 23/03/2025 08:38

i just feel the person hosting is the one who provides the food and I would expect the same on the return visit.

The host offered to cook. It was the cheeky friend who instead asked to order takeaway, then couldn't because her app didn't work.
Sounds like she had it planned all along to get you to pay. Doesn't sound like a great friend to me.

Dee00 · 23/03/2025 08:43

I tend to agree with you. I would never expect someone to pay anything if I invited them to my house. I would also of had some wine in for her.
But I would have discussed prior, what food she liked and agreed what to cook/order.

nonevernotever · 23/03/2025 08:41

Just added that up from our local Indian takeaway (from their menu not just eat) and came to within a pound when I'd included delivery. Clearly there is a lot of variation around the country. That is a lot of rice and bread though!

TwistedWonder · 23/03/2025 08:41

Holdonforsummer · 23/03/2025 08:38

i just feel the person hosting is the one who provides the food and I would expect the same on the return visit.

Food was being provided by the OP but that wasn’t what the CF wanted. If the host has got food in and the guest wants to order takeout, then it’s more than fair to split the bill

Holdonforsummer · 23/03/2025 08:38

i just feel the person hosting is the one who provides the food and I would expect the same on the return visit.

Hunterdorm · 23/03/2025 08:35

Holdonforsummer · 23/03/2025 08:26

if she came to yours and you were going to cook, I would assume the food bill was on you!

Why? I can't imagine being so rude as to going to a friend's house when they had intended to cook and instead suggesting we order a takeaway in the first place. If it was my decision to order a takeaway instead of a nice meal the OP already planned and shopped for, I would have actually expected to be the one paying for the whole thing, not the OP!

CellophaneFlower · 23/03/2025 08:28

There's a huge mark up on the Just Eat prices, that's why it's expensive. We order direct from the restaurant. Our indian also has a 20% discount code, which only ever takes about 8% off 🤷‍♀️. Better than nothing I guess!

Personally I'd just write it off (if affordable), reply "oh don't worry, you obviously need the cash more than me" then block her. Life's too short to fill it with CFs.

Noperope · 23/03/2025 08:28

thenightsky · 22/03/2025 21:49

oh yes... this. No way 2 people need 3 naans and 2 boxes of rice FFS. Crazy.

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The friend also ate crisps!

<fans self>

FortyElephants · 23/03/2025 08:27

Holdonforsummer · 23/03/2025 08:26

if she came to yours and you were going to cook, I would assume the food bill was on you!

Why? She suggested takeaway. Even if she hadn't, I'd never expect a friend to pay all the takeaway, that's greedy and grabby.