She ordered a Curry and hasn’t paid me

Yeah probably.

You're very welcome about the 'snitty comment'. It was actually a genuine suggestion as you're so sure that it would go down well- look on it as an experiment and report back?

You can keep saying it time and time again but you know...doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different outcome...

I'm sure you know the rest😂

Same! And then all the second guessing yourself and energy that is required to get your own money back leaves such a sour taste behind.

If it was a genuine misunderstanding on the part of the friend her reply would have been "omg I am so sorry. I will get it to you asap." But she is making a case for why she doesn't feel she owes it (the shop) and how complicated it's going to be for her. So she's making it very uncomfortable for OP.

Depending on how much the money means to OP I'd chase it or I wouldn't but the friendship has taken a serious dip.

or spaghetti carborettor?

I don't know how many times I can say it, or how much more clearly: I can see (sort of) why someone might think that dinner was on the host in this scenario. I have said, ad nauseam, that I personally wouldn't think that, and I don't really think the friend thought that. But it's not beyond the bounds of possibility that someone might think differently.

Nice snitty little comment about trying it with my friends, by the way.

You’re never going to see that money, sorry. I really dislike people who are weird about paying people back.

No idea why you think this would concern me, fire away. But if you claim it's not a massive meal and anyone who thinks so has food issues then I will consider you deluded.

Looks like you're the odd one out Mark (with a C.)

If you shun a meal your host has said she will provide, you don't expect them to cover the cost of your takeaway WHICH YOU SAID YOU WANTED TO ORDER. It would be different if the host said 'okay, my treat as I was going to provide anyway.'

But that dialogue didn't happen, did it?

Maybe try it with some friends and see how they react?

your last paragraph doesn't make any sense. I've read and re-read it and can only think you've missed out some words or punctuation.

That’s not the behaviour of a true friend. She’s a user.

Actually Majorie Dawes I very rarely have a takeaway and always cook from scratch but if every now and again I fancy ordering the entire menu and gannetting away like Henry VIII then I will do so and no fucks given.

So drop the lectures and bore off

Again you have another dig!

What is wrong with you??

You’re so boring and opinionated.

Maybe I’ll go through your threads etc and have an opinion on your lifestyle and choices?

So you invited her round and had food in to cook but she suggested a takeaway and she is now saying you should treat her to that because she bought you a can of pop?!!

Fuck. THAT!

You've got a CF on your hands!

People who have a vague understanding of appropriate portion sizes are automatically hiding eating disorders and consuming over 3000 cals in one sitting is a great idea once you don't do it for every meal.

Omg, you just can’t help yourself can you? 😆

Her just eat account does work, fyi.

Perhaps, I'm losing the run of it now and have given it too much time already.

The friend is a CF, not just for skipping paying but for now forcing the OP to chase repayment.

OP is a pretty rubbish host.

People who have a vague understanding of appropriate portion sizes are automatically hiding eating disorders and consuming over 3000 cals in one sitting is a great idea once you don't do it for every meal.

The difference here is that the host wasn't the one who suggested the takeaway.

I KNOW.

Yes, I'm shouting, I'm sorry, but I've said it more than once now, including in the post you've just responded to; I know that wasn't the case here. I was saying that I can kind of see the thinking, in general, that if someone invites you round, even if you get a takeaway rather than cooking, they pay because they're hosting. Some people on this thread have professed never to have heard of, and to be unable to comprehend, that as a concept.

If she offers you cash, check it's not old £5 notes that are no longer legal tender.

The difference here is that the host wasn't the one who suggested the takeaway.

Personally if I had been invited round to someone's house and they had offered to cook me dinner, I wouldn't suggest a takeaway in the first place. It sounds like you're snubbing the host's cooking.

Suggesting a takeaway when you're the guest and then expecting the host to "treat" you to £30 worth of Indian food when they'd planned to serve you spaghetti carbonara at a couple of quid a serving is doubly rude.

Pretending that her app wasn't working just shows that it was premeditated. She could have just called an Indian takeaway and used her card to pay. Surely that's what someone so technophobic that they "don't do online banking" would do anyway? (And it would almost certainly be cheaper than using Just Eat or Deliveroo anyway. We discovered that our favourite takeaway became 20€ cheaper ordering it directly from the restaurant and picking it up ourselves.)

Especially as so many branches have now closed. Me thinks she is full of BS. Next thing she’ll say she’s lost her chequebook.

I thought people were saying it’s not a large order for the price, rather than just a large order.

Wins the thread! Brilliant!

No you and some of your thread buddies are utterly deluded and flinging out insults to anyone who counters that.

You’re quite getting on my nerves now.

But you have! Massive issues!

Learn to not overstep.