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She ordered a Curry and hasn’t paid me

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OnePeachA · 22/03/2025 20:51

Friend came to my house

I was going to cook but she asked if I fancied a curry. I said that would be really nice actually

Her JustEat app wasn’t working so I said have a look on mine for places that are open. She picked Indian.

I put everything I wanted in and she added hers. Total came to £52ish. Over 65% of that cost was hers.

I said I could just check out and sort it later. I have messaged to ask if she had the money today as a gentle reminder, and she said she thought it was my treat?

I said oh, we must have got crossed wires then. She said ‘I did cover the shop’

She went to the corner shop for wine and snacks. I got a Grape Fanta!

Where do I go from here? Leave it? Was it reasonable for her to assume it was in fact my treat?

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IlooklikeNigella · 23/03/2025 18:33

Bitofanchange · 23/03/2025 18:32

You looked up banquet nights?

You’ve got nothing better to do on a Sunday evening, than try to “shame” me about food!

Looking at your other posts, well I’m glad I’m me!

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Wonderful. That's the most important thing.

Bitofanchange · 23/03/2025 18:32

IlooklikeNigella · 23/03/2025 18:29

I was referring to the wording 'stuffing yourself' the other poster used and described it as enjoying herself.

However as I have you - I just looked up banquet nights Indian restaurant UK and have no doubt you wouldn't feel stuffed or sick or whatever on the meal described by the OP.

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You looked up banquet nights?

You’ve got nothing better to do on a Sunday evening, than try to “shame” me about food!

Looking at your other posts, well I’m glad I’m me!

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 23/03/2025 18:31

I've also never been to an Indian restaurant and asked if I want rice or naan bread. Frankly I'm wondering who these weirdos are who don't have both.

IlooklikeNigella · 23/03/2025 18:31

Bitofanchange · 23/03/2025 18:29

I think you must…..

Whereabouts are you based, just one sure I don’t visit!

Next you’ll be saying you don’t have poppadoms and the lovely relishes!

😋

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Poppadums are your favourite part of the meal are they? Probably your whole week! You are certainly living life anyway.

HellDorado · 23/03/2025 18:30

IlooklikeNigella · 23/03/2025 17:28

Well...

They do here.

My DH is Indian and it's my absolute favourite type of food so we have eaten in a lot of Indian restaurants.

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They ask “Rice? Naan?” Not “Rice or naan?”, as if it’s an either or scenario.

Bitofanchange · 23/03/2025 18:29

IlooklikeNigella · 23/03/2025 18:21

Well we don't have banquet nights so maybe I do and I didn't realise...

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I think you must…..

Whereabouts are you based, just one sure I don’t visit!

Next you’ll be saying you don’t have poppadoms and the lovely relishes!

😋

IlooklikeNigella · 23/03/2025 18:29

Bitofanchange · 23/03/2025 18:26

I don’t, I’ve never felt physically sick from eating, have you?

have you made yourself sick from overeating?

Have you felt uncomfortable with your eating habits?

Why do you think that is? What do you think that means? Disordered thinking about food?

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I was referring to the wording 'stuffing yourself' the other poster used and described it as enjoying herself.

However as I have you - I just looked up banquet nights Indian restaurant UK and have no doubt you wouldn't feel stuffed or sick or whatever on the meal described by the OP.

Crikeyalmighty · 23/03/2025 18:28

Good gracious- what is it with people who feel the need to comment on other people’s portions when it seems ‘a lot’ - OPs post wasn’t asking ’is this a bit of a greedy blow out’ - it was’is she a CF not paying !!

Pippyls67 · 23/03/2025 18:28

DenholmElliot11 · 22/03/2025 20:54

And the answer to anyone who ever says "I thought it was your treat" is "what made you think that?"

This. Brilliant!

Bitofanchange · 23/03/2025 18:26

IlooklikeNigella · 23/03/2025 18:23

Can you explain to me what is so good about it? Presumably you feel physically sick and uncomfortable afterwards so I am guessing it's some sort of mental high.

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I don’t, I’ve never felt physically sick from eating, have you?

have you made yourself sick from overeating?

Have you felt uncomfortable with your eating habits?

Why do you think that is? What do you think that means? Disordered thinking about food?

Buffs · 23/03/2025 18:25

If that’s how she pays her bills then yes she can go to the bank. Let us know if she ever does!

IlooklikeNigella · 23/03/2025 18:23

SpringIsNearlySpringing · 23/03/2025 18:20

You come across very bitter.
I’m sorry you can’t enjoy stuffing yourself once in a while, maybe if you remove the stick from up your arse you’d have more room?

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Can you explain to me what is so good about it? Presumably you feel physically sick and uncomfortable afterwards so I am guessing it's some sort of mental high.

cardboardvillage · 23/03/2025 18:23

her deliveroo wasnt working?
doesnt do online banking?

suggested curry and thought it was on you?

she is a cheeky fucker alright

IlooklikeNigella · 23/03/2025 18:21

Bitofanchange · 23/03/2025 18:19

I HAVE NEVER (obs upper case means it’s true) been asked rice or nann!

Do you live in teeny tiny land by any chance?

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Well we don't have banquet nights so maybe I do and I didn't realise...

SpringIsNearlySpringing · 23/03/2025 18:20

IlooklikeNigella · 23/03/2025 18:14

I'm definitely not virtuous but at least I know when I'm eating too much.

The irony of considering 'stuffing yourself' a treat then telling other people they have food issues is strange to me.

That's great you have a healthy BMI.

You come across very bitter.
I’m sorry you can’t enjoy stuffing yourself once in a while, maybe if you remove the stick from up your arse you’d have more room?

Bitofanchange · 23/03/2025 18:19

IlooklikeNigella · 23/03/2025 18:17

And I've ALWAYS been asked if I want rice or naan so I guess we eat in different types of places (I've never heard of banquet nights) which might contribute to the difference in opinions.

I HAVE NEVER (obs upper case means it’s true) been asked rice or nann!

Do you live in teeny tiny land by any chance?

Itisjustmyopinion · 23/03/2025 18:19

OnePeachA · 22/03/2025 21:38

On the list was

Butter chicken
Sweet Naan x3
Rice
Vindaloo and rice
Coke 1Ltr
Delivery fee £5

Not the point of the thread but that’s all you got for £52!

I live in London and that wouldn’t cost that much. Only one curry and three naans!

MrsSunshine2b · 23/03/2025 18:18

OnePeachA · 22/03/2025 21:45

Her reply says

‘Oh right. I didn’t realise but never mind!! I’ll have to go into branch cos I don’t do online banking. Or I can hand * the cash to give you, she lives nearby doesn’t she’

Doesn't do online banking? How old is she?

IlooklikeNigella · 23/03/2025 18:17

And I've ALWAYS been asked if I want rice or naan so I guess we eat in different types of places (I've never heard of banquet nights) which might contribute to the difference in opinions.

ThistleTits · 23/03/2025 18:16

@OnePeachA her just eat wasn't working, a likely tale. I've never had my app not work, yours worked. She had no intention of paying. CF.

Sleepytiredyawn · 23/03/2025 18:16

Her Just Eat app wasn’t working…she knew exactly what she was doing.

IlooklikeNigella · 23/03/2025 18:14

I'm definitely not virtuous but at least I know when I'm eating too much.

The irony of considering 'stuffing yourself' a treat then telling other people they have food issues is strange to me.

That's great you have a healthy BMI.

SpringIsNearlySpringing · 23/03/2025 18:05

IlooklikeNigella · 23/03/2025 17:18

Actually I think you've hit the nail on the head here with the words 'stuffing yourself' and shed a bit of light on why posters are butting heads.

Group A are saying: on top of everything else she ordered a massive meal on your dime.
Group B : why are you shaming someone for ordering what they want, how judgemental. You have an eating disorder and are a competitive under eater.
Group A : I'm not an under eater but you can't deny it's a big meal. Saying otherwise is just not true.
Group B : why are you policing?

I think everyone agrees it's a massive meal. For one thing in a restaurant they always ask if you want naan or rice. This guest had rice and two naans.

Acknowledging that doesn't mean you have any feelings about the person eating it (assuming they aren't manipulating a situation where you have to pay).

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I think everyone agrees it's a massive meal. For one thing in a restaurant they always ask if you want naan or rice. This guest had rice and two naans

I don’t agree it’s a massive meal actually. When I have an Indian I’ll have onion bhaji starter with onion salad, veg biryani (inc rice), popadoms and naan and sometimes chips. NEVER in all my life have I been asked if I want rice OR naan when I have something other than biryani.

You obvs have issues with food so have a very strange outlook and I guess you make yourself feel better by insinuating we’re all greedy pigs and you are nothing but virtuous. I have a healthy bmi albeit on the high side of normal but I love my food so am happy with that.

oldmoaner · 23/03/2025 18:02

I'd say Indian was your idea, I'd already bought stuff to cook for us, but if you can't afford it, like me, then please feel free to visit again next week and you can foot the bill. Bet she won't visit again for a long time.

Teddybear23 · 23/03/2025 18:00

Remind her it was HER idea to have a curry, and you NEVER said it was your treat. Until she pays you back I’d consider it similar to theft😡 and never speak to her again.