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ImNotARegularMomIACoolMom · 2025-03-22T19:58:01+00:00

Hi so basically my social worker is writing false reports as far as I’m aware the social workers have to write reports on what they’ve seen and not what they have heard is this correct? so my social worker has written that I never have food in nor do I ever have gas and electric, I’ve met her 3 times and not once has she been in my house without me having any of that, I have all my receipts from food shopping every fortnight, and I also have my utilities app which shows me making regular payments and my gas and electric is never off also my son had an operation end of January of this year on his left testicle as he had a cyst, we thought it was a twisted testicle, he had a minor operation and 2 weeks off school and he has been right as rain, as soon as he started comparing of pain I took him up to the hospital and within 2 hours of him complaining of pain he’s all ready gone down for his op in her report she’s wrote ‘Oscar’s operation was more then likely due to neglect’ how can she give a medical opinion she’s a social worker???! also how would my child having a cyst on his left testicle be because of neglect?! This is a common thing for young boys so for that basis my kids have been placed on child protection I’ve tried to show her my receipts and my gas and electric app but she’s not having none of it can someone give me advice? Also she is siding with my kids dad who has never been in regular contact he doesn’t see his daughter only his son, has issues with drugs, and is abusive to his gf and her children, he also disappears for weeks/months at a time and constantly lets his kids down AIBU and if not what do I even do? I’m scared to complain incase she escalates things

Bumpitybumpbumplook · 23/03/2025 00:23

A SW can record any neutral or positive event or interaction as “concern” - they will never admit to wrong doing. (If anyone has experience of a SW willingly admitting to a mistake like OP has experienced, please let us know).

Know of a case. Child with genetic syndrome with excessive weight gain. Family kept no snacks, no sweets, no biscuits. Family very aware of medical condition & had dietary & behavioral advice from medical experts. Has SW because of child SEN education. Parents had complained school was giving free access crisps as “rewards” undermining child’s health.
SW completely ignored medical records given to her confirming genetic diagnosis with weight gain and recorded weight gain likely do to excessive unhealthy snacks freely available at home & parents are not supporting healthy eating. Functional parenting classes recommended. & weight monitoring. No mention of school. Parents had no junk food as child had this metabolic genetic problem since birth and they were commited to keeping child healthy.

Did I mention that the SW was very overweight? Laughable she is giving weight management advice.

Parents tried to get records changed which started more battles and more SW targeting the parents.

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ImNotARegularMomIACoolMom · 23/03/2025 00:16

Fraggeek · 23/03/2025 00:09

The father of my child is high up in SS.
He is abusive. He came up with every excuse not to see his child, but made out I was withholding contact. He ignored my child's mental and physical health needs despite ongoing struggles. He even went as far as to try and pay me off and then disputed DNA when I sought legal advice.
This is just the tip of the iceberg.

So I promise you, all kinds kind be SW. Not everyone will be truthful and in the case of my ex some can't even practice what they preach.

Yeah I can believe that there’s a social worker that lives in a town very close to me and she is well known for her nights out and drug taking but then works with vulnerable adults and children it’s frightening

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ImNotARegularMomIACoolMom · 23/03/2025 00:15

lilmishap · 22/03/2025 23:54

@FairlyTired She obviously is not.

It's clear from everything op has written she is not comfortable challenging the SW in person, but it is 11.50pm and she has had a fair few snotty responses stating that she must be a shit mum and too thick to realise it.

SWs are authority figures who can remove your children, this creates fear and Sws should be aware of this dynamic. Frightened people are not always polite and by the book, OP has also stated she is vulnerable.

OP came here for advice and received a lot of judgement. Being defensive when unfairly judged is entirely normal behaviour. Why would you try to suggest it isn't?
Would you simply sit back and trust the system if a social worker turned up? Trust me you would not.

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Thankyou exactly I would never speak to her in that way because I’m frightened of what she can do🫨

and yes some of the comments here they clearly don’t live in the real world to believe this doesn’t happen

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Fraggeek · 23/03/2025 00:09

The father of my child is high up in SS.
He is abusive. He came up with every excuse not to see his child, but made out I was withholding contact. He ignored my child's mental and physical health needs despite ongoing struggles. He even went as far as to try and pay me off and then disputed DNA when I sought legal advice.
This is just the tip of the iceberg.

So I promise you, all kinds kind be SW. Not everyone will be truthful and in the case of my ex some can't even practice what they preach.

lilmishap · 22/03/2025 23:54

@FairlyTired She obviously is not.

It's clear from everything op has written she is not comfortable challenging the SW in person, but it is 11.50pm and she has had a fair few snotty responses stating that she must be a shit mum and too thick to realise it.

SWs are authority figures who can remove your children, this creates fear and Sws should be aware of this dynamic. Frightened people are not always polite and by the book, OP has also stated she is vulnerable.

OP came here for advice and received a lot of judgement. Being defensive when unfairly judged is entirely normal behaviour. Why would you try to suggest it isn't?
Would you simply sit back and trust the system if a social worker turned up? Trust me you would not.

JohnofWessex · 22/03/2025 23:53

May I add to the excellent draft letter that has been produced

the report states that my childs operation was needed as a result of neglect.

Please can the report writer

provide details of their medical qualifications, and
Explain how they reached this conclusion.

I might also suggest

The report states that there was no gas or electricity in the property. Please can the date and time when this was observed be provided in the report.

You can then when you have these details provide your account details that shows that the supply was on

And dont forget

https://www.socialworkengland.org.uk/concerns/raise-a-concern/

when they reply

Raise a concern - Social Work England

As the regulator for social workers in England, we can only investigate concerns about social workers’ fitness to practise. We cannot investigate concerns about social care services or employers of social workers. Information on whether to raise a conc...

https://www.socialworkengland.org.uk/concerns/raise-a-concern

WhatWouldPhylissCraneDo · 22/03/2025 23:52

FairlyTired · 22/03/2025 23:06

Foodshops every fortnight would concern me, do you have fresh food top ups in between those shops?
What was the initial report due to?

I only do a big shop (which I call the food shop) once a month. I top up the fresh food in between, but don't consider buying a couple of things as a 'shop'
Eg I went to the co-op today. I bought bread, milk and some reduced veg for tomorrow.

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ImNotARegularMomIACoolMom · 22/03/2025 23:50

FairlyTired · 22/03/2025 23:48

If youre acting as hostile and confrontational to the SWs advice as you're acting on here then that's probably not reassuring them that you're capable of making the necessary changes.

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I am not being hostile or confrontational crash is basically accusing me of lying?

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HateLongCovid · 22/03/2025 23:50

we made a complaint about our GP once . Next minute Gp referred to Social services and made a load of lies up about me and my daughter. Fortunately the SW’s couldn’t find any issues with us as parents and told the GP practice so. Liars are unfortunately found in all sorts of professions . I believe you OP. People who don’t believe are both naïve and lucky not to have suffered.

Bumpitybumpbumplook · 22/03/2025 23:49

ImNotARegularMomIACoolMom · 22/03/2025 20:55

Does anybody know on where I can find a template to write something by email maybe to her or her manager as I’m not good with my words at all and want to sound mature and professional (like I know what I’m talking about basically) as I feel they are taking advantage of me for not knowing my rights and stuff, I’m also classed as a vulnerable adult as I have extreme depression and anxiety

Trust me on this-
First step is to make a complaint via the councils complaints procedure. Take screen shots etc so you have a “receipt”
Make the complaint short and clear. SW X, has made false reports give examples. Say this is unacceptable you want the record to reflect corrections. (Apparently they cannot change records … you must request official addition to file stating what was incorrect and what is correct)

They have to reply writhing a certain number of days. And you get a reference number.
There is a process & escalation process. If you don’t follow their procedure then complaint isn’t official.

If it’s still a problem you can make an Ombudsman report. It’s easy, but you will need your documents and record of official complaint.
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you can also request all files at social care where you are mentioned, by full name, by initials or referred to as “parent or carer or mother”
Keep record of date of your request, they must supply data within certain number of days & they often “lose” or “don’t receive” your request do you must be vigilant and keep track. You can use records to support your complaint.

Mostly the social workers, imo, investigate each other, and will likely not support your complaint which is why it will prob need to go to ombudsman.

FairlyTired · 22/03/2025 23:48

ImNotARegularMomIACoolMom · 22/03/2025 23:09

Are you struggling with it yeah? Then imagine me sorry are you accusing me of lying? Why would I post for advice but lie? The advice wouldn’t be for me then would it not woukd there be any point of my post or to follow advice, I’m glad that you have not been victim to a bad social worker but sooooooo many people have and it makes her job harder does it? Nope it makes it easier one less person on her caseload to deal with I know what she’s trying to do probably to get my kids removed like I said it’s one less caseload for her sorry are you aware of baby P or Arthur or thousands of children that have been left to suffer there’s no way there social workers didn’t know what was going on because half of them admit they did, so sorry if you think there is only good social workers so this might come as some sort of shock to you

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If youre acting as hostile and confrontational to the SWs advice as you're acting on here then that's probably not reassuring them that you're capable of making the necessary changes.

LucyBee0ox · 22/03/2025 23:19

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RoastDinnerSmellsNice · 22/03/2025 23:17

RageQuit · 22/03/2025 21:12

[Your Name]
[Your Address]
[City, Postcode]
[Your Email]
[Your Phone Number]
[Date]

To: [Manager’s Name]
[Social Services Department]
[Local Authority Name]
[Address]
[City, Postcode]

Subject: Formal Complaint Regarding Inaccuracies in ICPC Report & Request for Social Worker Change

Dear [Manager’s Name],

I am writing to formally raise my concerns regarding the Initial Child Protection Conference (ICPC) report written by [Social Worker’s Name]. I have identified significant inaccuracies and misleading statements in the report, which misrepresent my circumstances and could negatively impact decisions about my family.

Key Concerns:

Factual inaccuracies – The report contains statements that are demonstrably untrue. [Provide specific examples, e.g., “It states that I failed to attend medical appointments, but I have attached evidence showing my attendance.”]
Omissions and misrepresentation – Crucial context and evidence that provide a balanced view of the situation have been left out. This creates an unfair and biased perspective.
Failure to adhere to professional standards – The inaccuracies in the report suggest a lack of impartiality, which undermines my confidence in the fairness of the process.

Under the Children Act 1989 and Working Together to Safeguard Children statutory guidance, I have the right to expect fair and accurate reporting in child protection proceedings. Furthermore, Social Work England’s professional standards require social workers to be honest, transparent, and evidence-based in their assessments.

Given these concerns, I formally request:

A full review and correction of the inaccuracies in the ICPC report. I ask that any false statements be amended or removed, and that my own evidence and responses be included.
A change of social worker – Due to the apparent bias and misrepresentation in the report, I do not feel confident that [Social Worker’s Name] can work with me fairly. I request a different worker who can assess my case objectively.
A written response to this complaint within [reasonable timeframe, e.g., 10 working days], outlining what action will be taken.

I am committed to working cooperatively with social services in the best interests of my child(ren), but I must insist that all reports are accurate and impartial. If my concerns are not adequately addressed, I will have no choice but to escalate this complaint to the Local Government and Social Care Ombudsman and seek legal advice.

I look forward to your prompt response. Please confirm receipt of this letter and provide details of the next steps in your complaints process.

Yours sincerely,
[Your Name]

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This looks really good to me OP.

However, if you still don't feel able to cope with the situation, may I suggest that you make an appointment with your local Citizen's Advice Bureau, they should be able to help you, I would have thought.

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ImNotARegularMomIACoolMom · 22/03/2025 23:16

LucyBee0ox · 22/03/2025 23:14

OP I’m sorry you’re going through this. I’ve heard horror stories so I do believe you.

Could you maybe put up cameras in your home if she comes round again so you can record your interactions with her? And show her you have food etc on camera?

I’ve recorded everytime she’s come round (voice memos) she doesn’t really check my cupboards and stuff so not quite sure why she’s said this

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HottyBotty · 22/03/2025 23:16

ImNotARegularMomIACoolMom · 22/03/2025 22:56

This is brill thankyou however it won’t let me copy it?

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If you want to keep your children and get off cp plan, take the time to write it out word for word if you can't copy it. It's a good letter. It may take a.while but it's surely worth it?

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ImNotARegularMomIACoolMom · 22/03/2025 23:15

Oblomov25 · 22/03/2025 23:09

This needs contesting. She doesn't have grounds and her manger basically needs to be told this.

She doesn’t have grounds for what?

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LucyBee0ox · 22/03/2025 23:14

OP I’m sorry you’re going through this. I’ve heard horror stories so I do believe you.

Could you maybe put up cameras in your home if she comes round again so you can record your interactions with her? And show her you have food etc on camera?

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ImNotARegularMomIACoolMom · 22/03/2025 23:14

FairlyTired · 22/03/2025 23:06

Foodshops every fortnight would concern me, do you have fresh food top ups in between those shops?
What was the initial report due to?

Why would foodshoos every fortnight concern you there’s only 4 of us in this house 😂 do you not know how to shop because I do? I don’t just buy crap I buy actual ingredients to make meals 😊 also yes during the week if we need anything like bread and butter milk cheese cereal etc I get it from the shop

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lilmishap · 22/03/2025 23:11

FairlyTired · 22/03/2025 23:06

Foodshops every fortnight would concern me, do you have fresh food top ups in between those shops?
What was the initial report due to?

Why?
A sw is not going to be concerned by fortnightly shops and no fresh food available daily as frozen, tinned is fine. Empty cupboards and fridge is not fine, The op hasn't said anything to suggest that though.

Popping to the shop for fresh stuff is a luxury a lot of people are doing without right now, it certainly wouldn't be seen as a need for intervention.

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ImNotARegularMomIACoolMom · 22/03/2025 23:11

lilmishap · 22/03/2025 22:36

@crashbandicooty why do you think there are procedures in place to deal with this, if it never happens?

Do you honestly believe working for social services means you are incapable of lying or misinterpreting situations? How would that even work when every human is capable of it?

I think she plays too much crash bandicoot and doesn’t live in the real world like look around love this stuff happens every single day they’re are amazing social workers because I’ve seen them and been involved in them but some are bad and some are dangerously bad

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ImNotARegularMomIACoolMom · 22/03/2025 23:09

crashbandicooty · 22/03/2025 21:58

At the ICPC a safeguarding nurse would have been present to share health information which would have disproved the inaccuracies in the SW’s report about your DC’s procedure? And if the children are school age, the representative from the school would have been able to share positive reports? It’s not the SW who decides if a child protection plan is put in place, it’s a multi agency decision.

I know that there are crap SWs about. But I am really struggling with the idea that a SW would bother going out of their way to just make stuff up to put your DC on a child protection plan. She doesn’t know you to have a pre existing grudge and there’s just no reason to, it creates much more work for her.

Are you struggling with it yeah? Then imagine me sorry are you accusing me of lying? Why would I post for advice but lie? The advice wouldn’t be for me then would it not woukd there be any point of my post or to follow advice, I’m glad that you have not been victim to a bad social worker but sooooooo many people have and it makes her job harder does it? Nope it makes it easier one less person on her caseload to deal with I know what she’s trying to do probably to get my kids removed like I said it’s one less caseload for her sorry are you aware of baby P or Arthur or thousands of children that have been left to suffer there’s no way there social workers didn’t know what was going on because half of them admit they did, so sorry if you think there is only good social workers so this might come as some sort of shock to you

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Oblomov25 · 22/03/2025 23:09

This needs contesting. She doesn't have grounds and her manger basically needs to be told this.

FairlyTired · 22/03/2025 23:06

Foodshops every fortnight would concern me, do you have fresh food top ups in between those shops?
What was the initial report due to?

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ImNotARegularMomIACoolMom · 22/03/2025 23:05

crashbandicooty · 22/03/2025 21:58

At the ICPC a safeguarding nurse would have been present to share health information which would have disproved the inaccuracies in the SW’s report about your DC’s procedure? And if the children are school age, the representative from the school would have been able to share positive reports? It’s not the SW who decides if a child protection plan is put in place, it’s a multi agency decision.

I know that there are crap SWs about. But I am really struggling with the idea that a SW would bother going out of their way to just make stuff up to put your DC on a child protection plan. She doesn’t know you to have a pre existing grudge and there’s just no reason to, it creates much more work for her.

When we had the core group meeting at the school a few days ago the school said nothing but positive things yet only negative things have been written in her report

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ImNotARegularMomIACoolMom · 22/03/2025 23:04

1000DayChallenge · 22/03/2025 21:37

My daughter had social workers in her teens due to mental health problems, which thankfully have improved so much now. Anyone thinking this sort of thing can’t happen is completely wrong. There were so so many inaccuracies in reports they could have been written about another person. There were also damning reports from a social worker who never turned up, so never even met my daughter. I have no confidence in them.

Me too when it all started I did because I hadn’t had a social worker that was bad until now she does seem very kind face to face however in her reports make it sound like my kids need removing asap she has written that my home is in a state of disrepair yet my kids still live here? It’s just madness the house does need decorating yes but we are uo and moving very soon so I’m not wasting another penny in this house however I am told that aslong as the kids bedroom and beds are clean the house is warm and there’s food in with hot water we are all good, my kids rooms are clean so is the bathroom and kitchen and living room if anything my room is always a tip but I do clean it for when they visit however now there is unannounced visits it’s abit different but it shows real life.. the way they expect you to live is intrusive and unrealistic if I lived how they expected me too my hoover would be on all day and so would my hot water for cleaning it’s ridiculous yet you see those mums doing there clean with me vids on TikTok and it’s normalised it’s crazy

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