Social worker is writing false reports

Man here, who had, as a teenager the very same type of cyst as your son - it is not uncommon at all, and critically there is no way it can form through any form of neglect.

I would contact your GP and explain what has happened and get his opinion in writing, then contact SS, using the pp's template and append the information from the GP - if you can prove positive she is lying on one count then you have totally undermined everything she says, as it casts doubt on her professionalism.

Social workers don't want to take children away from their parents, there isn't the infrastructure or placements for children to go to. It is also proven that children taken into care have significantly poorer outcomes in later life. It's not in anyone's interest to remove children unless there is sufficient evidence of neglect. To move from a child in need plan to a child protection plan means that they have reason to believe that your child is at significant risk of harm. This requires a considerable amount of evidence &, as others have stated, is a multi agency decision.

As others have stated you can make a complaint, I would complile all the reports, highlight discrepancies and then provide evidence to disprove what's been written.

This sounds like a really difficult situation for you and your family. I hope you reach a resolution soon. My advice would be to log a complaint and show willingness, take advice and work with the social services. Your child's wellbeing should be informing decisions made by services, seems to me like that's something you all have in commons.

i read on a previous post that social workers were paid to take children away, that's laughable. They have never had the power or influence, or resources to do this. Children and family Social workers are paid to do everything they can to work with the families to safeguard vulnerable children.

Social workers have massive workloads and I seriously doubt they would prioritise making things up from the top of their head which would inevitably create more work for themselves. I'm not saying they're perfect, we've all heard of tragic cases of child abuse getting missed by them in recent years but I struggle to believe there's not more to this.

The letter above is really good, and I think that you should use a version of that to write to the social worker's manager.

I would also suggest that you go into school and ask to speak to the safeguarding lead. You say that they were supportive and spoke positively in the meetings.

Take the report, take your shopping receipts, take the gas receipts. Explain that there is food in your house and give examples of the meals you shop and cook for. Explain that there is money on your gas and electric meter. Give them permission to speak to the children about whether they have 3 meals a day and whether the lights in the house always work. Then ask them to contact social services on your behalf with their findings.

I would also ask the GP for an appointment and ask them directly if your son's cyst was caused by neglect. If they say no show them the report and ask them to write to social services.

What absolute and utter nonsense! If you’re coming here to support someone who’s struggling, then at least stop with the hyperbole.

Get yourself a family solicitor and talk to them about next steps.

keep food receipts and any bills.

id also speak to your child’s doctor and ask if he can provide a report on your child’s operation and why it’s needed

then, as long as your solicitor thinks it’s a good idea write a formal letter of complaint about the sw via the correct channnel with all the above information.

So no doubt you will have met many clients who don’t exactly tell the truth then?

Social workers absolutely cannot remove children! There are legal processes in place that have to be followed to the letter. A solo SW who has an axe to grind about a parent cannot suddenly decide to remove their children. Stop making things up.

Why would they write false reports? Most under social services are often in denial.

That works both ways - both social workers AND their clients can make things up. Except in the case of the clients, they have a greater reason to lie than a social worker.

Socials workers can and do write lies and they can and are influenced by the other parent I would never have believed that before I saw it with my own eyes. Not all social workers of course. I went to the Ombudsman in the end (lengthy but a very thorough independent process) and got a written apology and promise to review procedures. Which won’t happen obviously but I just wanted to say I believe you.

I'm a SW, not in the UK, not in children's services. It saddens me so much when I hear this kind of thing and I've heard it in my host country too. Honestly it makes me wonder what all these professionals were doing in their English class at school - want to write about someones character? You need a quote as evidence. Want to make a point about a theme? You need evidence.

You aren't being honest here OP. You definitely did not meet CP threshold for little food and gas and electric. There will have been many more concerns you have not mentioned.

You could use chat gpt, write what you want to write and they will polish it for you to write a professional one. Also you could ask them questions in terms of what to do in this situation and they will answer what the best action for you is. Just google chat gpt, and you can use it

Nope it makes it easier one less person on her caseload to deal with I know what she’s trying to do probably to get my kids removed like I said it’s one less caseload for her

Children don’t come off a social workers case load if there are child protection concerns, nor do they come off a caseload if they are removed. Removing a child creates a huge amount of work for social workers, and a child being in care similarly generates a lot of work for social workers. It’s not an easy process and no one does it for the sake of it. We also don’t get a bonus or financial reward for removing children or having them adopted.

@ImNotARegularMomIACoolMom you need to write to the team leader with evidence that your children are cared for. If the social worker has commented on your child’s operation that information will have come from someone involved in your child’s health care, the social worker will have been in communication with the professionals involved with your child. If the comments are made in a report for a meeting that hasn’t happened yet, write to social work answering each point you disagree with including any supporting evidence you might have and bring this to your meeting. Also arrange an advocate to attend with you if you’re worried about speaking up.

Hi OP

I’m the safeguarding lead at a school. It sounds as though you are very stressed out by this situation. I wonder if you can answer a couple of questions- I might be able to support a bit.

How old are your children?

Are there other professionals involved? Usually, there will be someone from education, and if you have significant MH struggles (which I think you mentioned, but apologies if I got this wrong!) someone from health.

The SW will have been involved for a while before the first CP meeting - about how long?

Hope you’re ok this morning.

Absolutely, there are social workers who lie/twist facts.

But then again every professional at a child protection conference has a vote if a child should be placed on a child protection plan.

The social worker can't decide by themselves and I seriously doubt an empty fridge and a documented medical problem would trigger a child protection plan.

social workers don’t get bonuses for removing children. That’s untrue. Actually their aim is to try and keep families together.

What was the recommendation at the end of the RCPC? If it is to continue on child protection or drop down to child in need, you have another 4-6 week window to continue working with all the different agencies and evidence your capacity to meet the children’s needs.

If the local authority were truly considering a care order or supervision order then you would have been told in a clear legal letter in a very specific format and would now be in a PLO process. Again, you would still have a period of time to evidence change and meeting needs.
This link describes the PLO process.
PLO process Please ignore this link completely if the outcome of the RCPC has said to continue on child protection.
Go and see the safeguarding lead or headteacher at your child’s school. They will have been there at the RCPC and will have a clear view on where things are at. They can support you to understand where you are at in the process and ensure the school perspective is seen by social care. Similarly, if you still have health visitor contact, they too will have been there and the health visitor will have been charged with a weekly or more frequent visit if you are now in the PLO process.
You are understandably very stressed and anxious. Make sure you have sought medical support on your own account as this is further evidence of your commitment to support the children. Get yourself on waiting lists for counselling, DV support or whatever you need to put yourself in the best possible place to go forward.
By all means, request a change of social worker but they will still be working within the parameters of the process and will have a timescale they have to adhere to.

They do. I had medical perinatal records that medication plan I took up, was breastfeeding friendly when my child was around 11 months old, fast forward to when my child was four, despite providing
my perinatal records the sw maintained I was placing my child at risk lf significant harm by breastfeeding against medical advice I mean wtf? I found by accident in my child’s medical notes the sw had emailed the duty pharmacist to ask what contraindications there were for breastfeeding on the meds I took with no info on myself or my child, the response was a generic patient information leaflet of to cease breastfeeding and switch to formula feeding the ‘infant’ when my child was four and a half, formed more the HV reiterated there is no risk at a conference, ignored entirely and buried in court. Another one was I was a drug addict as one of my pain meds is a controlled drug. Again provided medical letters and records yet sw still maintained I was misusing drugs. Again, despite having an ND diagnosis for myself and child via nhs and a private one, the sw decided I was making it up, had a personality disorder and munchausens and ordered psych tests which of course showed we are ND. Made no difference in court. I could go on, but health visitor, psych assessment, police records and so on all backed my truth yet the sw was determined to continue with their own narrative. And there is and was nothing I can do about it.

This. In fact removing children is the last resort. And it’s hours and hours of extra (often unpaid) work.

@LucyBee0ox, no social workers do not get bonuses for removing children😄. The threshold for removing children is extremely high and is the decision of the courts. You’re embarrassing yourself.

This is the correct advice. Refute as much as you can with evidence and request a new social worker.

@ImNotARegularMomIACoolMom Do you have any other numbers for ANYONE within social services? Are there other agencies you're working with?

The dynamic is wrong you honestly seem SCARED of this SW, if you were at risk of losing your kids YOU WOULD KNOW BY NOW. The process if they head for removal is very brutal.
At the moment it doesn't sound like you've been told they are going for removal but you sound terrified and confused and the ONLY reason can be a shit social worker.

IT DOESN'T SOUND LIKE YOU ARE AT RISK OF REMOVAL.

GOOD social workers try to encourage you and support and offer services to support you, these services are experienced with SS so they know all the fuckery that goes on.

Honestly do you have a number you can message or email? YOU NEED A DIFFERENT SOCIAL WORKER AND YOU ARE ALLOWED TO SAY THAT.
SHE WILL NEVER CONTACT YOU AGAIN. You won't have to explain to her why you don't want to work with her, she will just go.

Darling it's really scary standing up for yourself.
The important thing DON'T SAY HOW ANGRY YOU ARE. We don't get on, I can't engage with her, there were factual inaccuracies in her reports, SEND AS A MESSAGE/EMAIL and say nothing else.

If you do decide to do phone (I wouldn't) when they try to get you to say "No it's fine actually" when you feel like saying "sorry I don't want to cause trouble" INSTEAD say "I will get back to you after speaking to some people" THEN HANG UP.

Avoid angry when talking to them, even though you must be incandescent with rage, just keep words to a minimum and msgs, WhatsApp,email always better than calls. They will insist on calling, reply by text. It's not a crime to protect yourself

You have my sympathies OP

I had a few meeting with a court worker who was a social worker / mediator. She wrote down complete fabrications about me - one that was actually quoted verbatim by the family court judge as if I’d said it 🙄