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To be a bit annoyed that I have to remind my DH to remind my DC that its Mothers Day soon?

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sausagebapsforlife · 22/03/2025 14:52

Anyone else have this?

It is approaching and no-one has mentioned it. Yet again it seems like no-one will do anything for me unless I remind them. I have to remind my DH to remind the DC. Both DC are adults and both live quite a long way from us. Neither of them are Mothers themselves yet.

So this morning, as usual, I mentioned it to my DH and asked him to not to forget to give them that nudge and he said he is not going to this year. They are adults and shouldn't need reminding.

While I do agree with that, I also know that both my DC have full on lives and won't forget on purpose. It will simply be overlooked. If not reminded they are definitely both likely to forget and then when they realise they have missed it will both feel really bad. And I actually don't want them to feel that. At the end of the day they are both good kids. Just forgetful and busy.

But every year I do feel a bit disappointed that they are likely to forget unless prompted and I don't think its too much to get a card and some flowers once a year.

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sweeneytoddsrazor · 22/03/2025 14:56

You would be told not to prompt your DH if it was for his Mum. So I see no reason for him to prompt your adult children

PaintYourAssLikeRembrandt · 22/03/2025 14:56

Your dh is right.

They are adults, with jobs and homes and lives, they don't need chasing up about Mothers day.

It's unfair to put it on your dh.

Merrygoround8 · 22/03/2025 14:56

If they are adults this is on them. “Busy lives” is bollocks, if they’ve been a supermarket in the last month - they know, and it is not hard.

Perhaps letting them fail and then feel bad would reset and they will do better in future years. DH giving them a nudge is really no different to you giving them a nudge, it’s still not off their own back - so you’re worried tell them yourself. But personally I think see how it plays out. They might surprise you.

hopefully DH will still mark the occasion for you a little but ultimately I do think this is on your kids now. X

Horizon32 · 22/03/2025 14:54

Sorry I'm with your DH, they're adults! Maybe you being disappointed and them feeling guilty this year will prompt them to remember next year.

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