To have complained about another mum’s swimming ‘costume’

I did not say there was anything wrong with it as such. It’s just not remotely comparable to breastfeeding. I’m super flattered that my opinion matters so much to you.

Did she have bacon and eggs hanging out of her vagina? Didn’t think so. Behave? Teach your child that bodies all look different. Stop being that person.

There was a woman at my local leisure centre wearing one of these last week. I admit that my thoughts were initially somewhere between envy and incredulity at first, before settling on mildly amused as she repeatedly attempted to manipulate it into a more comfortable position as her arse kept swallowing it as she walked. Anyone who can tolerate that level of discomfort in the name of style and fashion has another level of endurance. I didn't complain, but I did inwardly congratulate myself on the undoubted comparative comfort of my boyleg swimming constume, which I can wear without needing a Brazilian.

The interesting thing being that all serious swimmers wear costumes that come down to their knees.

Now wondering if anyone complained about me when I attended my toddlers swimming lesson 10 days overdue with DS2 with terribly fitting bikini as there was no hope of the costume going on and I wasn’t about to buy a bigger size for a couple of weeks. Sounds like I would have had a similar amount of arse out.

Re holiday, assuming you mean somewhere sunny, then I think you’re wrong. A lot of women are obsessed with tanning and wearing something like a thong means they get more of a tan so that is often the reason.

We've just last year had an Olympic games featuring female athletes in several.sports including aquatic sports, gymnastics, and track and field events wearing very skimpy athletic gear, with buttocks hanging out left, right, and centre.

Beaches and public pools are all full of bare female buttocks, in the skimpiest of swim bottoms.

Leggings leaving little to the imagination have been fashionable for years.

Dogs with noticeable haunches are all the rage - corgis, French bulldogs, etc.

I'm surprised the OP hadn't noticed the trend until she went swimming.

As they don’t appear to know the difference between jealousy and envy, they are going to be completely stumped by ‘banal’.

they draw the line at any full nudity - which I’d argue this was

Could you see her vulva?

If not, YABU.

I agree with the OP. Trouble is, it is designed to be sexualised, nudity would be less confronting in a way.

It is really difficult to buy a swimsuit or tankini that allows you to just swim without fear of a boob popping out or showing far more of your bum than you'd like.

Swimming is swimming, it is a leisure and fitness activity and life skill we teach our DC. It would be nice to be able to do that without it having to be an arena for body positivity that we are obliged to 'celebrate'.

Yawn!

You sound wel jel.

You sound abit jealous… if staff seen her like that and thought it was okay then it’s okay isn’t it? Bikinis don’t really cover much anyway so what the difference in showing a bit of extra butt cheek?

I'm 45 and I remember on the beaches of my childhood all the thong bikinis and topless women. People seem more offended now!

OP is coming across badly, women shaming.

Some self reflection might be useful.

100% Awful misogynistic term.

I wouldn’t have complained but I do think it’s a bit grim to have to see the majority of someone’s arse cheeks on display, whilst their arse crack munches up the string of the thong. I don’t know why people do this - particularly at a little kid and parent swim thing. There are a lot of people defending this mum and I wonder whether they themselves took their toddler swimming with their entire arse cheeks out? I bet not.

I don't agree with the OP but calling another poster Karen is not on.

I wouldn’t complain, as it wouldn’t bother me. I’m not sure I’d particularly think about it. Different degrees of swimwear are just that. If my DC asked why someone was naked, I’d explain they’re not.

But if you politely and discretely complained, I guess it’s not that big a deal, though looks like it didn’t breach any dress code.

What’s the difference between a g string and a thong?

How do you know she was prancing and not just walking!

I hate the word "inappropriate" in this context. That's for wearing a coat in winter or flip flops up Ben Nevis. A swimsuit in a swimming pool is fine.

If you had discreetly emailed the place to ask them to consider their policy then I would have been alright with that. But to approach the lifeguards about a particular woman who hadn't broken any rules? No, that's rude.

As for people complaining about seeing too much, you're all slopping about in labia and testicle water whenever you get in. It's a big shared bath.

It’s totally attention seeking and unnecessary to have your bum cheeks out at a municipal swimming pool. I think you are reasonable to ask if there are standards in the etiquette.

These swimmers are the norm now. They’re not for me, but they are very much mainstream. I imagine they’re as shocking to women my age as the swimmers I wore 25 years ago were to my grandmother.

I really dislike the phrasing that implies you could ‘see what she had for breakfast’. It’s illogical, vulgar and comes from a place of deep misogyny. The crack about only fans is also extremely unpleasant.