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To have complained about another mum’s swimming ‘costume’

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Raven25 · 22/03/2025 13:48

This morning I went to a weekly parents/young children swimming session with my DD at a national hotel/leisure club chain. We go most weeks and there’s usually a similar crowd in attendance.

It is predominantly other Mum’s who go, with the odd Dad.

Today, one of the other Mum’s was wearing what I can only describe as a thong, in fact it was more of a g string and barely contained her modesty. My DD pointed at her from the pool when she was walking in the opposite direction and asked where her clothes were. I could tell others in the pool had noticed her and didn’t know what to think.

Everyone else was wearing all in one style costumes or the odd bikini which actually fits.

I found this completely inappropriate given it was a swimming session for toddlers/young children, that outfit was more appropriate for someone on only fans!

On the way out, I spoke to one of the staff on reception and asked them whether they enforce certain standards to which I was told it’s up to visitors what they wear but they draw the line at any full nudity - which I’d argue this was. They didn’t seem too bothered and the young female colleague listening in next to her said ‘it’s nice to see a mum with that much confidence’ which I felt was rude. It’s not about confidence, it’s about respect.

I’ve got home and told DH who thinks I was ridiculous to complain and says he’d be embarrassed to turn up there with me next time we go to the gym together!

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Raven25 · 22/03/2025 13:54

londongirl12 · 22/03/2025 13:52

Assuming her genitals were covered, then it’s not up to you to police how much bum cheek was on show. Sure there wasn’t a teeny bit of jealously there?

Jealous of not walking around wearing something which shows everyone what I had for breakfast? Absolutely not

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BarneyRonson · 22/03/2025 13:53

Yuck. People that don’t value a bit of discretion and style are ruling the roost. Vulgarity is having its day, it’s tedious isn’t it.

londongirl12 · 22/03/2025 13:52

Assuming her genitals were covered, then it’s not up to you to police how much bum cheek was on show. Sure there wasn’t a teeny bit of jealously there?

AssassinsBlade · 22/03/2025 13:52

Raven25 · 22/03/2025 13:51

She spent more time prancing around by the loungers on the side of the pool than actually in it, like it was some sort of parade..

Oh for goodness sake 🙄

Raven25 · 22/03/2025 13:51

Jshrbt · 22/03/2025 13:50

Sorry yes I think it’s pearl clutching; when you go on holiday with children you’ll see the same and I’m assuming you wouldnt complain on a holiday abroad? Also surely if you’re in the pool it’s only briefly when you’re getting in and out you’d see her bum.

She spent more time prancing around by the loungers on the side of the pool than actually in it, like it was some sort of parade..

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blowingbubbles1 · 22/03/2025 13:51

You sound jealous…

Jshrbt · 22/03/2025 13:50

Sorry yes I think it’s pearl clutching; when you go on holiday with children you’ll see the same and I’m assuming you wouldnt complain on a holiday abroad? Also surely if you’re in the pool it’s only briefly when you’re getting in and out you’d see her bum.

DrummingMousWife · 22/03/2025 13:50

I don’t think you are unreasonable. If a man walked around with his arse cut out of his shorts, every mum in the pool would be rioting ! People have to learn to reign in their need for constant attention.

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