To have complained about another mum’s swimming ‘costume’

Op needs to stop staring at women like a creep and concentrate on her child in the swimming pool.

My local pool has posters up showing what is acceptable swimwear in the public pool. It’s a while since I’ve been so I can’t remember what was on it but things like you can wear tight fitting long sleeves and legs but not big baggy trousers, you should wear a swimming hat if your hair is longer than a particular length etc. Roll these out I say!

Honestly can’t believe you complained! Let her live her life and you live yours. It had zero effect on your ability to swim and enjoy the class!

Do we really have to fall back on being misogynistically catty when a woman dares to have even basic standards of public decency? Lots of veiled assumptions that the op is jealous or not as thin etc.

I've got an arse you can bounce a penny off. I still have no desire to show it all off to little children at a swimming pool.

I'm with you op, though I wouldn't have bothered to complain. Vulgar is in vogue right now, but I'm sure it will eventually swing back.

Why is that always the reaction?

Maybe the OP actually means what she said?

Agreed. And her daughter has seemingly learned that rudeness from somewhere.

I'm surprised at the comments. I saw someone in a thong bikini at a beach for the first time last year and I was really surprised by it and felt a bit awkward about it in front of my young sons. I'd be very surprised at seeing it in a swimming pool and would not think it was at all appropriate.

Jealously is a horrible trait.

This is interesting, I am always complaining to DW and Dd (30) that gyms should ban women in bra/crop tops and micro shorts. They tell me vociferously that I'm a dinosaur and women can wear whatever they want. It's not for other people to police them.
FWIW Op, I'm with you.

I think the bigger issue here is:

My DD pointed at her from the pool when she was walking in the opposite direction and asked where her clothes were.

We should be empowering our children to wear what they like without judgement and prejudice. Particularly females who are often blamed for the appalling actions of others towards them because of what they chose to wear.

There was a similar thread recently on this. Someone questioned whether it would be alright for men to show off their butt cheeks, would we complain if they did. There was much debate about whether a thong is a sexualised item of clothing. It was interesting, many different views on it.

I agree OP it crosses the line for me into indecent and I may not have complained myself but I think its no harm that you did. Having public decency standards isn't some sort of conservative attempt to restrict people's freedom of expression, it simply is about behaving in a civilised way in a way that makes everyone comfortable. There are many things that are acceptable in one environment but not another. Topless sunbathing was ok in the Riviera once upon a time, not at a Manchester bus stop. A skimpy dress is ok in a nightclub not in a church etc. Likewise a thong may ok in Marbella in July but is not acceptable in a pool with children.

Would he have been scarred for life?

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You should be teaching your child not to be rude and comment on other people appearances.

But it's normal for men's nipples to be uncovered and for women's breasts and nipples to be covered. Buttocks are the same for both sexes.

I agree with you, we have recently been on holiday, and there was a woman wearing one of these costumes, honestly she was constantly walking up and down around the family pool talking on her phone, as proud as anything. My husband was asleep on a sun bed, I was just thinking please don’t wake up, imagine that sight being the first thing your eyes see.

Why is it different on holiday,,. There's still families in holiday resorts

But I really don't give a flying fig

Would it be considered inappropriate for a man to wear something similar?

I think that’s your answer. I wouldn’t feel comfortable with a man wearing a thong and just about containing his testicles. So I think the same standards should apply to women.

There are bigger problems in the world to worry about than what a woman wears to swim in. Just don’t look if it bothers you so much

This is the latest in a series of threads about thongs…

are you just acting naive 🤣

You can’t argue that it was “full nudity.” 😅 That isn’t something that is up for debate. She was either nude or she wasn’t. In this case she wasn’t.

Don’t be so officious. Complaining about someone’s swimwear? 🙄 Seriously, don’t you have anything better to do with your time?

I think you bumped into my SIL 😁 she’s beautiful, a genuinely lovely person. We do encourage her to at least make sure you can’t see her individual labia. After that, if people don’t like how she looks, it’s their problem not hers.

and has no one ever had to see blokes in budgie smugglers?

Spend your time worrying about things that matter.

was there enough lifeguards? Did the emergency buttons work? Were the lifeguards attentive and trained and focussed?

none died because someone’s arse was hanging out but otoh…..

I think the female receptionist was spot on and love her attitude.

Both sexes have nipples, but it would be generally considered indecent for women to have theirs out at a kids swimming session.