To have complained about another mum’s swimming ‘costume’

Those of you assuming it’s jealousy… are you joking or trolling or genuinely as banal as you sound when you make such a trite response.

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Could never be this jealous to be honest. The fact that you took what the receptionist said so personally shows that your “outrage” is driven by your own deep insecurity.

Sorry but you sound like a hater 🤷🏽‍♀️

Wouldn't bother me, everyone to theirown... but then I grew up in a country where a body didn't always need to be covered from head to toe.

I actually do think there's no reason to wear a thong in an indoor communal swimming pool.

If someone wants a tan they can get naked in the tanning booth or go to the beach where arguable thongs are more acceptable. Not pleasing on the eye in many cases but still, it's a beach, it's sunny.

I would welcome a 'no thongs' rule in such an environment. If they have a huge market for thong wearers they could open up a specific paid session for them?
Beyond all else it's not necessary or comfortable and can only really be for exhibitionist reasons.

I find this modern idea that the only bit of a woman that needs to be covered is her vulva, to be absurd. How have we got to this state?

Of course it’s gross to walk around with your bare arse hanging out. It’s not ‘confidence’, it’s porn culture.

Surely there has to be a sensible middle ground between full burqa, and ‘anything except your flaps’.

I'm on the fence. I kind of agree with you (though I wouldn't have actually complained, just thought it to myself) but, at the same time, I think my issue with it comes from my psychological issues with my own body than from any logical reason why other women shouldn't be able to wear that if they want to. I am almost as horrified by the idea of wearing a one piece swimsuit in public. I'd never do it but it's perfectly acceptable swim clothing to 99.9% of people. The last time I had no choice but to swim I rocked up in a short sleeved leotard and knee length lycra dance skirt. My friends (probably rightly!) pissed themselves laughing!

Actually imagine the fun you could have by watching your husbands face if you decided to wear the style of swimwear the other mum was wearing. He is so nonchalant about it until you put it on I bet.

Ha yes maybe next time be all friendly and say I so admire your confidence for wearing a thong with such a lumpy arse. Bet that'll put a stop to it .

I would be very surprised and would judge her for that. I don’t think this was appropriate costume for this fort of activity. Not sure about complaining but I could have asked about rules on the reception, more out of curiosity.

I can’t understand why your DH is embarrassed to go with you next time. Does he usually wear thongs when visiting this swimming pool?

She's probably someone who's constantly after attention, so gets it by waving her bare arse around at children.

Until a few years ago it was generally considered indecent to have buttocks on show too.

I’d be equal parts horrified and jealous 😂 but I wouldn’t have complained - I’d have just probably said really loudly something along the lines “of gosh don’t some people like to have it all on show” but then again I’m the sort to announce loudly that a man in a loudly revving car is likely making up for certain inadequacies elsewhere

Hate thong swimwear on both sexes. Cover your arses, people!

Why were you watching her prancing up and down rather than concentrating on your DDs swim lesson?

Thongs are not for me but I wouldn't have complained about someone else wearing one.

Yes, French swimming pools are full of men crammed into compulsory tiny Speedos to the point I could probably produce an accurate drawing of their genitals. I’ve managed to refrain from reaching for my smelling salts. Ditto many European beaches with women sunbathing topless.

All look fine to me! 🤷🏼‍♀️

I’m always quite shocked at just how little clothing people wear. But then I think if we went back far enough people were routinely having sex in public spaces and anything went basically. Would I have complained? Probably not. Do I think your husband should say he’s embarrassed to go with you next time - no, I think he’s a twat.

It’s not for me, but I’d not have complained.

I think most would raise an eyebrow at a thong on a parent/dc swim session.

I doubt many would complain though because what can pool staff do, there isn't a swimming pool dress code as long as genitals are covered.

Why do you care?

Last time I went on holiday, most of the women were wearing thong bikinis, not one person looked good in it, all the buttocks were horrid and full of cellulite. One young girl who had quite a nice figure turned around and her buttocks were all lumpy and awful. If people are going to wear them at least check in a mirror before you go out

I would be upset with this in front of children. It just seems to fly in the face of any feminist message we try to pass on to our daughters

If it were a public place, I don’t think complaining would have been useful, but as it’s a private club that you pay membership fees to, I think it’s fine to expect them to uphold a certain standard of decency, and to express your opinion.