To have complained about another mum’s swimming ‘costume’

I agree, it is so odd when women say this to other women. It is hateful enough when men do it. It is just a device to shut down a discussion (why, I don't know), because you don't have a valid point to make.

I never get the facile "Ooh, you must be jealous" argument in things like this.

If something is socially unacceptable, then it doesn't matter who is doing it. If you saw Megan Fox and Timothy Spall standing next to each other outside a nursery and both independently blowing smoke around, shouting aggressively and effing and jeffing as the little ones were going in, would you tell him off but not her, because "Ah, but she's so beautiful"?

So’s showing your arse in public.

Let me guess, the one in thong was also in better shape than most of the single piece wearing mums? Jealousy is a bad habit

I think that's a bit much, really - they may have a rule with a loophole that people can exploit to show their arse, but they also don't have an explicit rule that states that you CAN show your arse.

It's hardly fair making OP out to be some ridiculous prude who's out of step with everybody else's thinking: it's traditionally understood that bottoms are covered by swimming costumes.

You may well opine that such a swimsuit is acceptable; but equally, a great many people would deem it unacceptable.

It's not breaking the rules to complain either

If she's not breaking the rules then you're totally out of line. If you don't want to expose your children to that, don't take them to that pool. You're allowed to feel it's inappropriate but you're not allowed to expect the others to cater to your emotions. You are not the center of the universe and your feelings don't matter to anyone but you. Sorry to break the news.

It’s a bit off a tough one and I think you do come off as slightly jealous. But then as someone who wears thong bikinis to the beach and on holiday I would never think to wear one at a swimming lesson for children. There’s a time and a place. But then I have seen worse when I’ve gone to public pools so I don’t think it’s the worst thing to see. Sounds like everything was covered. I think it’s slightly unreasonable to expect everyone to wear swimmers that you deem appropriate.

The thing with 'it's not breaking the rules', though, is that there's no possible way that the people in charge can have thought of and ruled on everything, and they will make assumptions of normal behaviour - that doesn't mean that it's otherwise automatically OK.

OP says they have rules that swimmers cannot be completely naked, so technically, a man wearing a t-shirt and nothing else at all would not be completely naked, and so he would be within the rules and how dare anybody say anything when he isn't breaking any rules. He's wearing what he feels comfy in, and if any prudish, body-shaming pearl-clutchers don't like it, they can just look away and mind their own business, eh?

They likely don't have an established stated rule that you can't ride a bike along the pool side; or loudly play the trombone in the pool; or pay for your swim using potatoes - but that doesn't mean that they've declared it fine to do, should somebody wish to. In fact, it wouldn't surprise me if some TikTokker somewhere cottoned on to this and deliberately did outrageous things that nobody had thought it necessary to make a rule to ban, for clicks.

Until this trend of swimwear exposing bums began, it would just have been assumed that everybody would have been on the same basic page: that genitals, bottoms and female breasts would obviously be covered, without anybody having to spell it out.

Just like they don't have a specific dress code for the Oscars, Grammys and the like - but that didn't stop a lot of people being offended and outraged by Bianca Censori effectively wearing nothing at all. There will be a basic understanding of what is decent; and normal people don't need rules to tell them what should be blatantly obvious.

You Might have found it totally inappropriate but was she actually breaking any rules? No? Then i think your absolutely being petty. 🙄

I think it's not something you really see at swimming pools in the UK, hence the OP's post. However, it would be pretty common place at a beach on holiday along with women being topless and nobody bats an eyelid there. Personally, it is not something I could have got worked up about and complained about but people are entlitled to their own opinions.

What did you expect the staff to do escort her off the premises? Display a sign saying no buttocks on show? This has give me a good laugh tonight 🤣

Why do they wear these thongs in public places ie swimming pools though? - whats wrong with bikini bottoms covering the cheeks - the beach yes - swimming pool no end of - think there should be posters up showing what’s appropriate swimwear in public pools -

If they are appropriate for swimming on an adult why are they not appropriate for swimming on a toddler?

It’s obvious the ridiculous point you’re going to try and make but I’ll play along for now, where do I stand on nipples out at the pool? I don’t think women should be swimming topless at a toddler swimming session either, does that answer your question?

I hate this new world we live in. Where everyone is ' desensitized' to PORN. This vountry has come a long way from not showing ankles in 1900 , to practically NAKED in public. I sooo agree with the OP. Its only going to get worse Im afraid.

I think the person I most feel sorry for is the poor fuckers on reception, working on Sunday to hear complaints from some pearl clutching prude. It’s a swimming pool. You’re gonna see skin. Men show way more of their bodies than women. And even more when half of them show their builders bums popping out their shorts when they bend over. If you find it upsetting maybe stay home or hire a private pool

And they do sell things for adults because they’re appropriate for swimming on an adult.

You didn’t answer my question about nipples

As opposed to complaining about a woman minding her own business wearing what she wants. Blasting it all over the Internet calling her inappropriate attempting to belittle her!

Or calling a multiple women misogynistic for expressing their opinion? 🤔😂

Yep. If you're using misogynistic slurs, it really undermines the idea that your view is on the side of women.

You’re right, it wasn’t a toddler wearing a thong. They don’t sell thongs for toddlers due to them being inappropriate for toddler swimming sessions.

a person who dislikes, despises, or is strongly prejudiced against women.

The definition of a misogynist. Just thought you might need it seeing as YOU'RE throwing out accusations. Might hold more weight if you actually used if correctly lol!

Well it wasn’t a toddler wearing a thong was it

Where do you stand on nipples out in the pool?

I dread to think how you behave when you see nipples in the pool!

This is like the 7th swimming pool thing thread in a fortnight. What’s going on? Do people really care about seeing a bit of arse cheek?

You're
...and another misogynist.

Your completely unreasonable! It's not your business what someone else wears! Quite frankly you made yourself look like a complete Karen complaining about something you had no business to. My advice. When your out and about stop shaming other women and mind your own business you'll be much happier for it!