To be 100% honest about kids/marriage intentions on first date?

To clarify we’d been together over a year and a half when we moved in together

I was absolutely clear to my late dh that I wanted children on the second date. So I support that approach. But I was 34 and already divorced (from a man who didn't want kids). My worry is that at her age, she is going to attract slightly unusual types with that approach, and one of the issues might be that they will be the sort who like to tie a woman down to exclusivity from about 30 minutes into meeting them. I personally have not had good experiences with that type of partner, or with that impulse in myself (see divorce above).

Worth talking about trying to meet more men as friends perhaps, to be a little less outcome-focused just yet. Maybe even some therapy- not because there is anything wrong with her, but just to understand herself.

Behaviour can be simultaneously reasonable and self-defeating. I expect that while it is logical to some, it comes across as a bit heavy/fast for others.

I had this approach to dates (date 3 onwards) from when I was about 27 onwards. Before that it was dating just for fun :)

That’s how I approached dating and it worked for me. A few years on tinder and was always honest. Met my husband at 19 (almost 20) and we moved in together in our 2nd year of uni. Then lived together throughout (both did 5/6 year courses). We then got our dog, adopted 5 cats, got married and bought our house at 25 with the intention of it being the family home as it’s a 5 bed. 3 months later and I fell pregnant with our first. I’m 29 weeks pregnant now with our baby boy. He will arrive 3 months before I turn 27, 7 years after we met

Geez she’s needs to unclench and live a little, have some fun, great sex, enjoy being young and fabulous. She’s 20 - of course boys (and most girls) her age don’t want to be thinking about marriage and kids yet!
Sounds like she been influenced by the “sugar daddy/trad wife” sector of the internet. She has lots of time to “settle down”.

I have a son the same age and I think he would choke on his drink and make a hasty exit if a date discussed marriage and children on the first date. It’s too much too soon too young imo.

It’s great your DD knows her own mind but she needs to go on dates, have fun, enjoy getting out with different people and places before even thinking about settling down. Very very few people settle with someone they meet at 20

Does she intend to marry/have children soon?