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To feel this bad

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Feelingblue11 · 22/03/2025 05:26

I have just flew to Australia for a family wedding. I arrived yesterday and I feel AWFUL. It didn’t help that I didn’t sleep one wink on the entire journey (27 hours awake). I now have really bad anxiety and can’t sleep properly despite feeling so exhausted. The anxious feeling is just so intense! I guess I’m just shocked at how I have reacted to the journey!!! Any advice from anyone with how to deal with the anxiety?

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Feelingblue11 · 22/03/2025 19:15

I haven’t slept again. Think I got 2 hours. The anxiety has got a grip on me.

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Feelingblue11 · 22/03/2025 10:16

@KellySeveride thanks. I didn’t even think of this. I just know my anxiety is linked to missing my home.

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KellySeveride · 22/03/2025 08:07

I agree with monkeysox. First thing I thought of was you need to get checked for DVT….long haul flight followed by massive anxiety that you can’t shake. Sounds like the sense of foreboding.

Did you move around properly on the plane?

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Feelingblue11 · 22/03/2025 08:07

@SapporoBaby gosh. That must have been tough! I was awake for 27/28 hours and felt dreadful. But have only had sporadic sleep since.

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Feelingblue11 · 22/03/2025 08:05

@MightAsWellBeGretel thanks. Why do you think it’s a bad idea? I’m uncertain and don’t want to take it. But my family say it will take the “edge off” and get me to sleep.

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SapporoBaby · 22/03/2025 08:04

Sounds like JetLag. When I flew to Thailand for work I was awake for three days straight. By day 3 my colleagues were seriously worried.

I ended up having a few whiskeys and a natural sleep aid and felt like a new woman when I woke up.

MightAsWellBeGretel · 22/03/2025 07:47

Feelingblue11 · 22/03/2025 06:06

@Batbatbatty my mum actually has some diazepam with her which she’s offered me. But I’ve not taken anything before so I’m worried.

Jesus, jump the usual sleep aids and straight for the diazapam? You must really be sleep deprived because that's a terrible idea!

Extreme tiredness can make you feel like you've got flu and I've experienced a really depressed mood and dark thoughts through severe lack of sleep - it can definitely mess you up!

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Feelingblue11 · 22/03/2025 07:45

@monkeysox ok. Thanks. Doesn’t really feel like foreboding though. Anxiety is linked to my lack of sleep and missing my husband

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Feelingblue11 · 22/03/2025 07:43

@rainbowstardrops thanks

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Feelingblue11 · 22/03/2025 07:42

@Tradersinsnow thanks for this

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Feelingblue11 · 22/03/2025 07:42

@FeministUnderTheCatriarchy thank you. It’s good to hear from someone who has done this before and has felt similar.

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monkeysox · 22/03/2025 07:41

Feelingblue11 · 22/03/2025 07:40

@monkeysox why?

Sense of foreboding is a sign but not widely known .

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Feelingblue11 · 22/03/2025 07:40

@monkeysox why?

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Feelingblue11 · 22/03/2025 07:40

@Iwannakeepondancing thank you. I’m tempted to do this but my daughter will be asleep next to me and I am wondering if it’s irresponsible

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rainbowstardrops · 22/03/2025 07:38

I haven't flown to Australia but I am notoriously awful at being able to sleep and I heard a sleep expert on the TV the other day, saying that it doesn't matter if you can't sleep but just say to yourself that it's ok to just rest. Then hopefully sleep will come naturally and hopefully your anxiety might subside.
Try and enjoy the time with your family and daughter Flowers

Tradersinsnow · 22/03/2025 07:33

Melatonin is prescription only in Australia. Restavit is over the counter with a pharmacy consult.

FeministUnderTheCatriarchy · 22/03/2025 07:32

I've made that journey loads of times (born in NZ) and I never, ever sleep on the flight. The anxiety is just being overtired and it also feels like a shock to the system (no matter how many times you do it).

I always feel a bit out of sorts and grumpy and displaced.

Treat yourself as if you are in shock. Hot shower or bath and then something quite sweet. So hot chocolate or sweets and then if I'm honest I probably would take a sleeping tablet or your mums diazepam and try to sleep for a good stretch.

You'll be totally fine after that!
I don't like being away from DH either, but think of the memories with your daughter.

monkeysox · 22/03/2025 07:31

Feelingblue11 · 22/03/2025 05:26

I have just flew to Australia for a family wedding. I arrived yesterday and I feel AWFUL. It didn’t help that I didn’t sleep one wink on the entire journey (27 hours awake). I now have really bad anxiety and can’t sleep properly despite feeling so exhausted. The anxious feeling is just so intense! I guess I’m just shocked at how I have reacted to the journey!!! Any advice from anyone with how to deal with the anxiety?

Get checked for Dvt ASAP.

Iwannakeepondancing · 22/03/2025 07:30

Not pathetic at all. I would feel the same on my own away from home without my safety blanket! If someone can watch your daughter, take a diazepam as it will knock you out and you’ll sleep and feel so much better. I feel for you but it’s totally normal xx

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Feelingblue11 · 22/03/2025 07:29

@GRex thanks. I tried this last night but at 9pm and I was bolt awake with anxiety at 3am! Haven’t slept since. I’m praying I have a better night tonight but have been feeling awful all day.

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Feelingblue11 · 22/03/2025 07:28

@Topjoe19 this might sound pathetic but my husband is like my rock and he’s not here with me. Plus I just keep thinking “if I’m home, I won’t feel like this” I will feel safe.

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GRex · 22/03/2025 07:12

What time is it, 6pm? Best thing you can do is stay awake until 7pm and then get a really long sleep, so you wake up on the correct time zone. Relax, take a walk, do gentle things, nice meal then off to bed.

Topjoe19 · 22/03/2025 07:04

What about it is making you want to come straight home?

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Feelingblue11 · 22/03/2025 07:01

I’m saying this here because I can’t say it in real life … but I feel like booking myself a flight and coming home!! As to not drip feed, my husband has not been able to come with us (work). So it’s just me and my daughter and other family members are here.

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Feelingblue11 · 22/03/2025 06:58

@phonecompaniesstink thats how I feel. Overwhelmed. Thank you

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