DH walking ahead

You haven’t seen the tik tok of the woman who talks about how her husband walking ahead of her is a form of abuse then I guess? Because it demonstrates a total lack of concern or respect.

Oooh forgot to add-
Make sure he forwards you the tickets/ email/ bookings, whatever beforehand, preferably at the time if booking, so you've got it on your phone as well.
Otherwise refuse to go out with him.
THEN if he yells at you again for demanding this, yell back as before.
Good luck OP, try it and see if it works. Let us know how you got on.
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I did this when my now DP and I first started to go out. He would march ahead without a backwards glance, changing direction without warning etc. so I would stop and find something to amuse myself, like looking in a shop window nearby, or scroll my phone, and wait for him to notice I was no longer trailing behind him. He would always come and find me, confused, but rarely angry. I’d tell him I’d wanted to stop but he was too far ahead to notice so I thought I’d catch him up, or that I’d lost sight of him so stayed where I was so he could come back and find me.

There was no malice in him doing it, he just wanted to get to wherever it was directly, as is the case with a lot of ppl who do this, particularly ND in my experience. It didn’t take too many times for him to stop doing it though.

OP, if he says you’re always unreasonable, that’s a shitty comeback and is totally subjective. Calling out twattish behaviour is not unreasonable to anyone but the person doing the twattish behaviour.

Funny that.

He sounds like a berk.

This is more common than one might think .... some people do walk much faster than their partner andhey really are not intentionally leaving the other person behind ... it's often a habit they adopted early in life when hiking or hill walking over distance or they might have a much faster gait / metabolism / drive ... I wouldn't get too paranoid about that kind of thing . You probably ( perhaps ?) spend the other 97 % of your lives in quite close proximity , anyway !

Let him.
You shout back too and call HIM unreasonable too.

Whatever he calls you, call him back, or keep saying 'Same to you' - this saves a lot of thought and breath and energy, as you won't have to think of abusive language to use- he'll do it for you....that way even the arguments won't be exhausting as he's doing all the thinking and you're just using his words back on him- win win win.

Rinse and repeat. Every. Single. Time

Trust me, the day will come when he slows down and starts considering you.

It worked for me.
I feel in control now.

My husband does this too.on holiday he is the absolute worst.with me and kids trying to keep up.i always say there he goes old father time won’t wait for anyone.

Utter rubbish, especially with an abusive DH. OP also likely doesn't have a joint account.

By boyfriend does this and is autistic. He does walk very fast anyway though. I would describe his walking as 'with purpose'. I ask him to slow down and he does for a bit.

Oh, they do that. Every man is on the spectrum, its just a matter of time before it eventually comes out. Mine does it, he says it's because he has longer legs. After 39 years I've given up caring on this front, in many other aspects he's still pretty normal (ish). I generally buy the tickets and hand them out in advance just in case. I treat our days out in town like a Scooby Do episode where they spilt up and look for clues.

Oh and I usually have the tickets/boarding passes etc anyway so he can’t get too far without me even if he does leave me behind 🤣

I have heart failure amongst other things. My husband will usually walk with me if we’re walking in town or whatever but occasionally forgets and takes off without me. I just do my thing now, nip into shops, stop for a rest or whatever. When we’re taking the dogs out together he’s miles ahead and I just toddle along enjoying the fresh air and scenery. I’ve been known to message him that I’m going for a coffee/wine somewhere and he comes back for me! I need to take my time, he likes to stride ahead and get his steps in. In the grand scheme of things it’s not the biggest deal for me. I understand it’s annoying but I pick my battles with my DH and this isn’t one of them.

He sounds like a dick. I just wouldn’t be there I’d go my own way and at my own time screw him. You allow him to do this by chasing after him, you need to stop facilitating. You have the tickets or just don’t go.

I haven’t read all the replies but this is very red flag narcissistic behaviour from him. As well as the other things you’ve said.

Mine does this too. I think its super rude.

Or just go with one of your friends/. family and let him live his ME life all by himself. Don't give him the satisfaction of you orbiting round him as your world.
Take back control. Live your life. Have ur friends and stop dancing to his tune.
If it was me I'd certainly not be going to theatre or walking along any street with him.

My dh does this in busy places, he does generally wait for me when he realises I’m behind though. It’s become a family joke as the kids have got older. It’s now generally dh and ds ahead and me and dd behind. We usually purposely walk slowly when they they start steaming ahead! I also make sure I always carry tickets, passports etc!

My oh has done this from time to time so I just stop and wait for him to come back. He marched on once when I was ill and a gentleman came to my rescue and when my OH came back this man politely told him that I needed looking after-which brought him down to earth. What your OH is doing is selfish and bad manners imo and he should have enough respect and consideration to walk with you.

Better yet, get the tickets on YOUR phone & he can wait for you

This would be a dealbreaker for me. It's hugely disrespectful, borderline abusive, ignorant, rude, bullying, and plain fucking nasty. It shows you don't give a fuck about the person you are with.

Relation experts say they have heard many women complain that men walk ahead of them. In all cases, the men were emotionally neglectful and insensitive towards them.

If any man was that much of a cunt that he constantly walked multiple feet ahead of me, I would fuck him off. He would only do it twice. First time I would ask him to not do it, second time, he's binned.

I know you are not going to leave this man @Angelofmycoins but you really should. It really is disgusting behaviour

This. ^

You do have a choice to leave him. Things can always be worked out. If it is financial then are you able to work?

I saw a older man doing this to his wife earlier near where I live. He kept pace with me and left her ages behind. I gave him a dirty look and sped off, but held my tongue. It's a narcissistic thing and I worried I might make things worse for his wife if I said something. It's ridiculous and done by man babies in my experience.

Your partner should want to be with you chatting and observing. With him also negging you I do think he may have narcissistic traits. Maybe do some research into narcissism in relationships.

Id just jet him walk off and wait for me, and I'd make him wait by stopping and looking in a shop, or getting a cup of coffee or something.

He is abusive.
It is the action of a man who wants to grind you down and humiliate you.

Please contact Women's aid for advice and support.
This is deliberate.
Your poor children.

Of course you can! You have posted here because you know you’re not being treated right - why put up with it when you know you’re being treated cruelly? From what you’ve gone on to say, him walking ahead is the least of your issues. He screams at you in public about minor points, and doesn’t came about your feelings.

The worst thing is that he’s bringing your children into it and slagging you off to them. Why stay with someone like this? What do you get from the relationship? And why do you want your children to think that this is how a woman should be treated?

Grow up and get rid - no one said it’s gonna be easy but it’s better than living with a selfish dickhead.