Page 6 | Neighbour’s kid picked my daffodils

Lucylooloo2 · 2025-03-21T22:48:12+00:00

Just that really, had lots of notifications of movement on the doorbell camera and lo and behold a kid (8ish years old) from a few houses down with a bunch of daffodils in her hand. Checked mine in my front garden when I got home and Every. Single. One. has been taken. I’m just really sad tbh. Know there are much bigger problems in the world but they were a little spark of joy for me 😕

TheHerboriste · 23/03/2025 22:08

godmum56 · 23/03/2025 21:49

And again I say that if a child is not old enough to know not to take things which do not belong to them, then they shouldn't be out alone.

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Exactly. Where was the supervision, if she's too dimwitted to understand the concept of private property?

Does she steal things from her teachers, schoolmates, clubs, shops?

TheHerboriste · 23/03/2025 22:07

Enderwhere · 23/03/2025 20:57

"Victim of the theft"
absolutely insane way to talk about a child unthinkingly picking some daffodils.

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Funny how she didn't unthinkingly pick her MOTHER's daffodils, did she now?

justuskul · 23/03/2025 22:01

Lucylooloo2 · 21/03/2025 22:57

Thanks all - I don’t feel so silly about feeling so sad about it now.

I am also slight annoyed about it because they literally have their own daffodils in their front garden but they’ve been unharmed!

Go pick theirs

ruethewhirl · 23/03/2025 21:54

@Wishingplenty and another thing - how is this ever likely to become a 'more harmonious world' if kids aren't ever taught right from wrong and never have their behaviour corrected?

godmum56 · 23/03/2025 21:50

asrl78 · 23/03/2025 19:15

Stealing someone elses and depriving them of the joy is not sweet. Lets not got down the aww-bless-its-a-child-let's-invent-a-woe-is-me excuse for justifying something that is wrong. A child that desperately wants to give their mum a bunch of flowers could pick daffodils from the local park or some other public place, there are plenty around even urban areas, or they might even knock on a door and ask nicely whilst putting on the butter wouldn't melt look, that would work on most people.

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They shouldn't be picking them from public spaces either.

AnAlpacaForChristmasPleaseSanta · 23/03/2025 21:49

WearyAuldWumman · 23/03/2025 21:39

It's not unthinking when they cleared out every single daffodil in the OP's garden, but didn't touch those in their own garden.

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👆How many times does this need repeating! To misquote the bible there are none so deaf as those who wont hear.

godmum56 · 23/03/2025 21:49

Enderwhere · 23/03/2025 21:10

Wow I hope I never live such a miserable life that I'm unable to give a child grace for a mistake.
kids don't always think things through, they are impulsive and their understanding of consequences of their actions aren't the same as an adults.

And again I say that if a child is not old enough to know not to take things which do not belong to them, then they shouldn't be out alone.

ruethewhirl · 23/03/2025 21:49

Wishingplenty · 23/03/2025 11:41

I think the responses are truly interesting and also concerning. It just goes to show if adults are prepared to go to war for a child taking a few flowers, then there really is no hope for achieving any peace on this earth. The human race truly is petted minded. Everyone has their own opinions and views, and the backlash I am receiving for offering a more level headed prespective shows what stage we are at, as humans trying to live in a more harmonious world. It ain't happening anytime soon. Op if it was such a heinous crime that this little girl committed then why did you not just call the police?Surely that would have been the right thing to do for such a serious incident.

Level headed perspective??

You've accused pps of thinking the child needs 'locking up and an Asbo', called OP disgusting and pathetic, are now accusing people of being 'prepared to go to war' over this, and have thrown some pretty far-fetched sarcasm into the mix for good measure.

This thread seems to have really got under your skin for some reason. You're entitled to your opinion obviously, but the absurd hyperbole isn't exactly helping your case.

godmum56 · 23/03/2025 21:46

Leedsfan247 · 23/03/2025 19:13

Kids do stupid things buy yourself a £1 bunch of daffs at the supermarket

And they will continue to do stupid things unless someone stops them

WearyAuldWumman · 23/03/2025 21:39

Enderwhere · 23/03/2025 20:57

"Victim of the theft"
absolutely insane way to talk about a child unthinkingly picking some daffodils.

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It's not unthinking when they cleared out every single daffodil in the OP's garden, but didn't touch those in their own garden.

WaterMonkey · 23/03/2025 21:21

Enderwhere · 23/03/2025 21:16

Well op said her neighbour and daughter left a plant for her on the door step, so I'd assume that is an apology and the child has been spoken to about it and it won't happen again.

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I would certainly hope so. An apology to OP’s face would have been less craven, but perhaps this is all she’s going to get. It’s not kind to rip up someone’s hard work like that. I hope the parents have made that clear.

Futurehappiness · 23/03/2025 21:20

Enderwhere · 23/03/2025 21:10

Wow I hope I never live such a miserable life that I'm unable to give a child grace for a mistake.
kids don't always think things through, they are impulsive and their understanding of consequences of their actions aren't the same as an adults.

This wasn't a 'mistake', this was a deliberate act to deprive the OP of her property and by a child who is old enough to know better.

Nobody is suggesting the child should face adult consequences fgs. Just that she should be made to face appropriate consequences such as: being made to apologise in person to the OP, and pay for replacements out of her own pocket money. That would be enough to teach her that actions have unforeseen consequences.

That has absolutely zero to do with how miserable (or otherwise) our lives might be. Personally speaking my life is not at all miserable, though unfortunately it is occasionally blighted by the selfishness of others.

Enderwhere · 23/03/2025 21:16

WaterMonkey · 23/03/2025 21:15

I don’t think expecting her parents to discipline her so that it doesn’t happen again and to do what they can to make good the loss is a sign of someone with a ‘miserable life’. Surely a child’s ‘understanding of consequences’ develops exactly like this? I’m not aware that anyone is calling for her to be flogged in the public square or anything.

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Well op said her neighbour and daughter left a plant for her on the door step, so I'd assume that is an apology and the child has been spoken to about it and it won't happen again.

WaterMonkey · 23/03/2025 21:15

Enderwhere · 23/03/2025 21:10

Wow I hope I never live such a miserable life that I'm unable to give a child grace for a mistake.
kids don't always think things through, they are impulsive and their understanding of consequences of their actions aren't the same as an adults.

I don’t think expecting her parents to discipline her so that it doesn’t happen again and to do what they can to make good the loss is a sign of someone with a ‘miserable life’. Surely a child’s ‘understanding of consequences’ develops exactly like this? I’m not aware that anyone is calling for her to be flogged in the public square or anything.

Ariana12 · 23/03/2025 21:14

This is really not OK at all. Sounds as though the mother hasn't come round with daughter to apologise, which is a real shame, and bad parenting. If you see them locally, you might say something to her?

DisneyTokyoNewbie · 23/03/2025 21:13

Enderwhere · 23/03/2025 21:10

Wow I hope I never live such a miserable life that I'm unable to give a child grace for a mistake.
kids don't always think things through, they are impulsive and their understanding of consequences of their actions aren't the same as an adults.

What does giving grace look like to you?

Enderwhere · 23/03/2025 21:10

Wow I hope I never live such a miserable life that I'm unable to give a child grace for a mistake.
kids don't always think things through, they are impulsive and their understanding of consequences of their actions aren't the same as an adults.

WaterMonkey · 23/03/2025 21:05

CustardySergeant · 23/03/2025 21:03

Why "unthinkingly" when she "thought" to leave all the daffodils in her own garden untouched, preferring to enter the garden of one of her neighbours and take all the daffodils there? Seems quite deliberate to me. She just didn't know that neighbour had a doorbell camera, so would know who took them all.

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Absolutely cleaned OP out, too. No ‘some’ about it.

CustardySergeant · 23/03/2025 21:03

Enderwhere · 23/03/2025 20:57

"Victim of the theft"
absolutely insane way to talk about a child unthinkingly picking some daffodils.

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Why "unthinkingly" when she "thought" to leave all the daffodils in her own garden untouched, preferring to enter the garden of one of her neighbours and take all the daffodils there? Seems quite deliberate to me. She just didn't know that neighbour had a doorbell camera, so would know who took them all.

WaterMonkey · 23/03/2025 21:02

hopesforsummer · 23/03/2025 21:01

it wasn’t done unthinkingly, the child who the Op said is around 8 intentionally took all of them

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Yes. She ‘thought’ at least long enough to decide to take from someone else’s garden and not her own.

WaterMonkey · 23/03/2025 21:01

Enderwhere · 23/03/2025 20:57

"Victim of the theft"
absolutely insane way to talk about a child unthinkingly picking some daffodils.

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I don’t see how. There was a theft - the daffodils. And there was a victim of that theft - the OP.

hopesforsummer · 23/03/2025 21:01

Enderwhere · 23/03/2025 20:57

"Victim of the theft"
absolutely insane way to talk about a child unthinkingly picking some daffodils.

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it wasn’t done unthinkingly, the child who the Op said is around 8 intentionally took all of them

Enderwhere · 23/03/2025 20:57

CaptainMyCaptain · 23/03/2025 20:05

Ridiculous. The child's mother should buy them not the victim of the theft.

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"Victim of the theft"
absolutely insane way to talk about a child unthinkingly picking some daffodils.

DisneyTokyoNewbie · 23/03/2025 20:54

Wishingplenty · 23/03/2025 11:41

I think the responses are truly interesting and also concerning. It just goes to show if adults are prepared to go to war for a child taking a few flowers, then there really is no hope for achieving any peace on this earth. The human race truly is petted minded. Everyone has their own opinions and views, and the backlash I am receiving for offering a more level headed prespective shows what stage we are at, as humans trying to live in a more harmonious world. It ain't happening anytime soon. Op if it was such a heinous crime that this little girl committed then why did you not just call the police?Surely that would have been the right thing to do for such a serious incident.

Don't be ridiculous. A harmonious civilised society is not created by ignoring and excusing selfish and thoughtless behaviours. Children need adults to teach them about boundaries and model good behaviour. In this case both Op and the child's mother went some way in doing that. No one should demonise the child, who doesn't have the same understanding of the ramifications of her behaviour, but the adults have a duty to her to put boundaries in place for her learning (and safety).

Agapornis · 23/03/2025 20:51

I think I might attach a sign along these lines to my front garden fence. First a tulip height, then at clematis height.