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Neighbour’s kid picked my daffodils

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Lucylooloo2 · 21/03/2025 22:48

Just that really, had lots of notifications of movement on the doorbell camera and lo and behold a kid (8ish years old) from a few houses down with a bunch of daffodils in her hand.

Checked mine in my front garden when I got home and Every. Single. One. has been taken.

I’m just really sad tbh. Know there are much bigger problems in the world but they were a little spark of joy for me 😕

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JudgeJ · 22/03/2025 12:05

Azulejo9 · 21/03/2025 23:23

Aw seriously, these are as cheap as chips, just think about the joy they may have brought her to bring them home to her Mum. Kids at 8yrs old are just that.. kids’

stop sweating about the small things

This thread shows the need for a Bollocks button.

mydogisthebest · 22/03/2025 12:05

Mamofboys5972 · 22/03/2025 11:49

Oh maybe I have a totally different view to everyone else. I wouldn't mind kids picking flowers 🤷‍♀️ each to their own

Well Mamaofboys you certainly do have a different view to other (normal) people. I suppose you are bringing "your boys" up with your strange viewpoint

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 22/03/2025 12:04

Trendyname · 22/03/2025 08:19

She can explain in any way she likes. I don't have to explain you why. You can go with op and complain and get 8 year old in trouble if you like. Stop being so angry with peoole you don't know.

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Angry? I didn't agree with you. That doesn't make me angry with you. I'd be bloody annoyed if I were in the OP's position, admittedly.

IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos · 22/03/2025 12:04

Mamofboys5972 · 22/03/2025 11:49

Oh maybe I have a totally different view to everyone else. I wouldn't mind kids picking flowers 🤷‍♀️ each to their own

You said you love having fresh flowers in the garden. Presumably you have paid for these flowers, to give you the joy of having them? If someone just walked in and took every one of them you wouldn't mind? No longer there for you to enjoy? As long as they were giving someone else joy, no matter that they took away yours?

It's alright for you to walk into someone else's garden and take theirs then, obviously?

Cancelthebreak · 22/03/2025 12:04

JudgeJ · 22/03/2025 12:03

And many responses demonstrate why some children become feral, there's always someone to make up excuses.

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Beat me to it 😁

Cancelthebreak · 22/03/2025 12:03

The people who are excusing this type of behaviour are the ones who will be in despair about their teenage children running wild with no respect for them or other people in a few years time.

JudgeJ · 22/03/2025 12:03

Sunbeam01 · 21/03/2025 23:15

I couldn't get upset over this because they were picked by a very young child.

Some of these responses are extremely OTT.

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And many responses demonstrate why some children become feral, there's always someone to make up excuses.

JudgeJ · 22/03/2025 12:01

Sminty2 · 21/03/2025 22:53

I know you loved them and feel sad, I would too but maybe she wanted to give them to her mum or gran and couldn’t afford flowers.
Not saying it’s right to steal but thinking that they may have been picked for a good reason, might take the sting out a little.

But you are saying that stealing is OK if one can make up some sob story to 'justify' it.

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 22/03/2025 12:00

Wishingplenty · 22/03/2025 08:16

Once upon a time not so long ago, this would have filled people with joy to see a child do this, but fast forward to now, that poor little girl deserves locking up and an Asbo. Oh how society has changed!
To even create a thread on this is disgusting, you obviously have literally nothing else in your life to complain about. Lucky Lucky you!

Really? I am 63. At no point in my life did keen gardeners rejoice to see local children entering their gardens and picking their flowers. You are the one who seems to have lost perspective here.

Hwi · 22/03/2025 11:59

Elboob · 22/03/2025 11:42

What rubbish. If they are £1 buy them!!

This kind of shit attitude is ruining the country.
Someone grew those in their own garden and now they are GONE and won't grow back for a whole year.
Everyone walking past and the gardener could have enjoyed them for a few weeks. But now noone can. It's not sweet.

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JudgeJ · 22/03/2025 11:59

LoremIpsumCici · 21/03/2025 22:49

They will grow back next year, so a minor harm.

So theft is OK in your tiny world!
I would go and tell the 'parents' that they had been sprayed with a powerful spray to kill bugs in them, the effects will not show for 48 hours. Give them something to worry about.

TheFairyCaravan · 22/03/2025 11:55

Mamofboys5972 · 22/03/2025 11:49

Oh maybe I have a totally different view to everyone else. I wouldn't mind kids picking flowers 🤷‍♀️ each to their own

You think it’s fine for kids to steal. Most of us don’t. That’s the difference.

Growlybear83 · 22/03/2025 11:55

The more I think about this the more I’m surprised that the child’s mother hasn’t been found to apologise. Surely she would have questioned where an eight year old had obtained a bunch of daffodils from and would then have realised that a serious apology was owed to the OP? An eight year old would hardly be able to have trotted off to Tesco to buy them. Or maybe the child is a liar on top of everything else.

LuckySantangelo35 · 22/03/2025 11:53

Catsbreakfast · 22/03/2025 11:46

Ok you’re drunk maybe because that response doesn’t even make sense. Sober up “hun”

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@Catsbreakfast

it does make sense. I’m saying that the poster who said she’d make up a gift for the kid with bulbs etc wouldn’t do that. And she wouldn’t unless she was living in an Enid Blyton novel. It feels twee and disingenuous and invalidating of OP’s very natural and normal feelings of annoyance. Hope that clarifies. No booze has been imbibed here Hun (not yet anyway!)

Topsyturvy78 · 22/03/2025 11:51

Mamofboys5972 · 21/03/2025 22:51

I also love having fresh flowers in the garden, especially daffodils. However, that little spark of joy they bring you? They clearly also spark that in others 🥰 maybe that little girl picked them for her mam for mothers day! Super sweet x

You can buy a bunch for a £1-£2. Nobody has the right to go into somebody's garden and help themselves to flowers that don't belong to them. Our local big park has lot's of daffodils every year. They are for everyone to enjoy. But every year people have to be reminded not to pick them.

Pinepeak2434 · 22/03/2025 11:50

I remember when my friend and I were children and picked our neighbour’s roses to make rose perfume. The next time we tried it she came out and told us to not pick them, that they were for everyone to enjoy - she was also really sweet about it when we told her why we picked them, but I never picked someone else’s flowers again and have always told my children not to. I guess I didn’t know any better at the time.

OVienna · 22/03/2025 11:49

Pallisers · 21/03/2025 22:54

if you know which neighbour it is I would go to them and say "your dd picked my daffodils today - can't do anything about it now and I know children will be children but I would appreciate if you could explain to her that the daffodils in my garden - just like the wildflowers in the wild - are not to be picked.

There is nothing super sweet about a child picking flowers from someone else's garden. That little spark of joy - gone because the kid picked them.

Co signed

BCSurvivor · 22/03/2025 11:49

OP, I would be upset too.
A long time ago I grew cherry tomatoes in my front garden border as I'd run out of space in the veggie patch.
One afternoon I heard children outside laughing, went to the window and saw that they'd picked most of my cherry tomatoes and had lobbed them at the house wall on the opposite side of the road!!!
I was livid.

Mamofboys5972 · 22/03/2025 11:49

Oh maybe I have a totally different view to everyone else. I wouldn't mind kids picking flowers 🤷‍♀️ each to their own

Catsbreakfast · 22/03/2025 11:46

LuckySantangelo35 · 22/03/2025 11:45

@abracadabra1980

no, you wouldn’t, Hun.

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Ok you’re drunk maybe because that response doesn’t even make sense. Sober up “hun”

Vannymcvan · 22/03/2025 11:45

I'm stunned that people think this is OK. How the hell have you raised your kids? It's stealing. I'd be absolutely fuming if some strange kid came into my garden and nicked my flowers.

LuckySantangelo35 · 22/03/2025 11:45

Catsbreakfast · 22/03/2025 11:40

This is the most unhinged, stupid thing I have read all day. Maybe OP should also buy her some
chocolate as a treat. Jesus f Christ.

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@abracadabra1980

no, you wouldn’t, Hun.

LuckySantangelo35 · 22/03/2025 11:43

caringcarer · 21/03/2025 23:01

Stealing is not super sweet.

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@Mamofboys5972

do you think it would be super sweet if the kids also stole some sweets from the shop for Mother’s Day, to go with the flowers?

treesandsun · 22/03/2025 11:42

Very annoying - I would tell the neighbour to explain to her daughter not to do it. I remember as a kid picking the heads off roses from our garden and next door's to make 'perfume' and getting bollocked for it. I didn't do it maliciously but was definitely old enough to know not to do it.

Elboob · 22/03/2025 11:42

Azulejo9 · 21/03/2025 23:23

Aw seriously, these are as cheap as chips, just think about the joy they may have brought her to bring them home to her Mum. Kids at 8yrs old are just that.. kids’

stop sweating about the small things

What rubbish. If they are £1 buy them!!

This kind of shit attitude is ruining the country.
Someone grew those in their own garden and now they are GONE and won't grow back for a whole year.
Everyone walking past and the gardener could have enjoyed them for a few weeks. But now noone can. It's not sweet.