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Neighbour’s kid picked my daffodils

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Lucylooloo2 · 21/03/2025 22:48

Just that really, had lots of notifications of movement on the doorbell camera and lo and behold a kid (8ish years old) from a few houses down with a bunch of daffodils in her hand.

Checked mine in my front garden when I got home and Every. Single. One. has been taken.

I’m just really sad tbh. Know there are much bigger problems in the world but they were a little spark of joy for me 😕

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BunnyLake · 22/03/2025 19:15

TheHerboriste · 22/03/2025 16:14

Causing them "upset" is what helps them to remember.

If they'd had the guts to show their faces, in the OP's place I would have given that child a lecture she would never forget. We all have had it with entitled "gentle parenting" that produces children oblivious that others even exist, let alone must be considered.

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I never ranted at my kids, I guess you could call it gentle parenting in its proper definition. They're perfectly decent, law abiding adults. You can still tell a child they did something wrong and get them to apologise without screaming in their face and frogmarching them to the neighbour. My kids are a credit wherever they go, always have been (never so much as detention between them ever).

Growlybear83 · 22/03/2025 19:15

Bitofanchange · 22/03/2025 18:25

Nah you wouldn’t 🤣🤣🤣🤦‍♀️

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Oh believe me, I would.

BunnyLake · 22/03/2025 19:09

LazyArsedMagician · 22/03/2025 15:52

Would you fuck turn a hosepipe on an 8 year old instead of just saying something to them Grin

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At least they don’t live in the US.

TheBossOfMe · 22/03/2025 19:01

Some of the responses on this thread are properly batshit 😂😂😂

Hwi · 22/03/2025 18:57

BunnyLake · 22/03/2025 15:42

Did you never make a daisy chain while sitting in the park as a kid? Are you saying children can’t pick a wild buttercup now? Never put one under your chin to see if you liked butter?

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I did! But I was an unladylike thug and no example to follow!

Donttellempike · 22/03/2025 18:47

I’ve got neighbours like you @Trendyname, which is why I’m moving

ERthree · 22/03/2025 18:45

Mamofboys5972 · 21/03/2025 22:51

I also love having fresh flowers in the garden, especially daffodils. However, that little spark of joy they bring you? They clearly also spark that in others 🥰 maybe that little girl picked them for her mam for mothers day! Super sweet x

They will be dead by Mothers day.

Picklelily99 · 22/03/2025 18:42

Lucylooloo2 · 21/03/2025 22:48

Just that really, had lots of notifications of movement on the doorbell camera and lo and behold a kid (8ish years old) from a few houses down with a bunch of daffodils in her hand.

Checked mine in my front garden when I got home and Every. Single. One. has been taken.

I’m just really sad tbh. Know there are much bigger problems in the world but they were a little spark of joy for me 😕

We have daffodils growing at the top of our avenue, either side, planted by the council - breaks my heart when kids from elsewhere, help themselves to them, denying us the pleasure! Even worse is when they ride their bikes through them, flattening every single one! little feral bs!!!

NovemberMorn · 22/03/2025 18:39

Umidontknow · 22/03/2025 18:22

No it's not rubbish or "super sweet"

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FTFT.🙄

Picklelily99 · 22/03/2025 18:34

LoremIpsumCici · 21/03/2025 22:49

They will grow back next year, so a minor harm.

Poof, straight over your head!

DontWheeshtMe · 22/03/2025 18:27

AnAlpacaForChristmasPleaseSanta · 22/03/2025 16:32

Sorry for going off course but forgot to add @DontWheeshtMe , your gif was pure 🥰🥰.

Ah. Thanks 💐 ! appreciate that
trying to send a laugh out whenever I can

Bitofanchange · 22/03/2025 18:25

Growlybear83 · 22/03/2025 17:50

@Bitofanchange@Bitofanchange I’m not a keyboard warrior at all. I would have no hesitation in turning my hose on anyone who was trespassing and stealing my property if I could catch them - I don’t care if they’re 8, 18, or 80, people should know better than to steal. My house and garden are my property, which I’ve spent most of my life working for, and having been burgled in the past, had my car broken into, and things stolen from my garden, of course I would do something harmless to chase someone off if I saw someone damaging or stealing my property .

Nah you wouldn’t 🤣🤣🤣🤦‍♀️

IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos · 22/03/2025 18:24

AnAlpacaForChristmasPleaseSanta · 22/03/2025 14:28

The greedy fuckers eat pretty much everything nice that grows in my garden and yet people still go "aww bless them" if I mention moan about it. Bloody Bambi has a lot to answer for.

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Yes! I like seeing them but my god leave my roses and tulips alone!

Umidontknow · 22/03/2025 18:22

NovemberMorn · 22/03/2025 17:12

Super sweet...rubbish.🙄

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No it's not rubbish or "super sweet"

ManchesterLu · 22/03/2025 18:17

I'd be pissed off if I'd spent time doing my garden to make it look nice, and someone decided to ruin it. Okay so she might have had an innocent reason for doing that, but I would still be knocking on the door, explaining, and making sure the mum knows to talk to her DD about what she should/shouldn't be doing.

Cherrysoup · 22/03/2025 18:06

Lucylooloo2 · 22/03/2025 14:28

Just wanted to give everyone an update, messaged the mum last night on WhatsApp (it was bed and bath time by the time we got home so didn’t want to interrupt so late) - it’s still showing as unread and there’s been no reply, but my doorbell did ping again this morning. The mum come round with the daughter and left a small flower pot on our doorstep.

We were visibly home at the time so tbh it would have been nice if they had knocked on to verbally apologise instead of dropping and running without acknowledgement, but it’s something

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She’s probably mortified. I’d have bought potted daffy as a replacement, personally, but something is better than nothing.

ForRealCat · 22/03/2025 18:04

So many people here trying to rationalise and excuse poor behaviour. Makes it obvious why there are so many entitled and feral kids running around now.

AnAlpacaForChristmasPleaseSanta · 22/03/2025 18:02

Umidontknow · 22/03/2025 17:07

No, taking every single one is really rude

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Taking any of them is really rude when they belong to someone else.

thesoundofwildgeese · 22/03/2025 17:58

I do not see giving the child something to look after as "rewarding" her for theft.

It takes a village etc.

If the parents aren't teaching the child to respect other people's property, perhaps a neighbour giving her a small pot of plants to look after, herself, might.

I'd be furious if my flowers had been picked by a child or an adult but I would not go round with all guns blazing if a child had done this. Her parents need to do better.

NovemberMorn · 22/03/2025 17:55

anyolddinosaur · 22/03/2025 17:51

Obviously a pot plant doesnt really compensate - but at least the mother has obviously recognised the wrong and made some sort of apology. Hopefully the child has also received the sort of telling off my mother or grandmother would have given me had I done such a thing. No-one would have considered this "sweet" when I was a kid.

I doubt many people (in real life) consider it sweet today either.

anyolddinosaur · 22/03/2025 17:51

Obviously a pot plant doesnt really compensate - but at least the mother has obviously recognised the wrong and made some sort of apology. Hopefully the child has also received the sort of telling off my mother or grandmother would have given me had I done such a thing. No-one would have considered this "sweet" when I was a kid.

Growlybear83 · 22/03/2025 17:50

@Bitofanchange@Bitofanchange I’m not a keyboard warrior at all. I would have no hesitation in turning my hose on anyone who was trespassing and stealing my property if I could catch them - I don’t care if they’re 8, 18, or 80, people should know better than to steal. My house and garden are my property, which I’ve spent most of my life working for, and having been burgled in the past, had my car broken into, and things stolen from my garden, of course I would do something harmless to chase someone off if I saw someone damaging or stealing my property .

WearyAuldWumman · 22/03/2025 17:38

Bitofanchange · 22/03/2025 17:35

Yeah like you’d turn a hosepipe on an 8 year old!

Keyboard warrior at its finest!

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I hear that sprinklers are the best option: they give plausible deniability.

Bitofanchange · 22/03/2025 17:35

Growlybear83 · 22/03/2025 16:55

😆😆😆. No, they haven’t. I don’t have anger issues. But I won’t stand for people taking the piss out of me and stealing of damaging my property.

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Yeah like you’d turn a hosepipe on an 8 year old!

Keyboard warrior at its finest!

Doingmybestbut · 22/03/2025 17:34

I’d be gutted.